Originally Posted by CrabDiver
I have spent four months now with my new cat. He was a five months stray when my friend found him.
I have a hard time understanding all the hype around them. People treat them as if they were human, a companion, even a "child."
They are conceited, boorish, and manipulative creatures. I don't find them friendly, except when it has to do with being served their food.
They will drive you crazy, and attempt to manipulate you by various means, and when that fails, by other means. Yet we must not "hurt their feelings" when they act in a contemptible manner. If they meow incessantly, we must "give them attention."
Example: my cat meowed INCESSANTLY because I chose to close the windows and turn my AC on. He was out to get it his way and get me to open the windows again so that he could smell the outdoors. I used the spray against him several times, but after a short pause, he simply comes back and starts whining, and whining again. For hours... When I searched ways to stop such behavior, all I read is that we must "play with the cat," we must give the cat "more attention."
We never would do this with a child! We would never reward such behavior!
Who controls who here? How can we be so subservient to such a creature?
I am not anti-cat, but when a cat attempts to drive you crazy to get what he wants, I have a hard time understanding how such behavior can be considered a normal cat way of life, and we humans must simply smile (oh he is just being a cat) and give the cat "more attention." Cats may be cats, but we cannot tolerate for them to think they are in charge. And up to now, after four months with him, he still thinks he is the one in control.
I just want to know: how can any one in their sane mind TOLERATE such behavior?
Sounds like you need a DOG instead of a cat...seriously...if you can't handle that cats are independent, and sometimes at best, 'snobbish' creatures who are not so easily trained as a dog who 'bows at your whim' then get an animal who is suited to your leader lifestyle. Cats don't live in packs like dogs, so they don't 'know' what being a leader, or lesser means...they are independent creatures, who, although enjoy other cat company, they are certainly not dominance structured like a dog.
I control my dogs; because they will assume an alpha status if I don't. With cats, yes, you can train them to an extent, but they will never see you as the 'alpha' in your home, and 'bow' to your every command like a dog can be trained to do.
Want control over 'everything' your pet does? Then get a dog, because they thrive off of human interaction, and have a desire to be trained. Most cats, even the most friendly ones, could care less about having individual training time to 'fetch', 'sit' or 'rollover'...its just not their nature, and it takes a very special person with TONS of patience to train a cat to do such tricks.
Oh, and if you want an obsessive behavior to go away, the best way to do it, is to ignore it; and praise the animal when he is doing the correct thing...this is key especially with cats. You want your cat to stop meowing in the window, then don't spray him for it...you are giving him attention for meowing, just walk away, and let him figure it out that no matter how much whining he does, you are NOT going to budge and open that window...When he gets off the windowsill, then toss a treat in his direction, to acknowledge that this is the correct behavior.