**Sigh** I am not proud or happy about it but me and the husband got into out first argument in over a year. I know it all is stress related between whats going on with my sister and our son's new eating habit. But mainly the argument had to do with my sister and whether or not I should testify or not. And it all happened at his work.
See once the boys got home from school I went up there to talk him plus "try" to pick up a few things for my son to eat. And it was real slow in his dept and it was 30 mins before clock out time and he had nothing to do so we just talked. And as we talked about my sister and what to do he said 2 things that really set me off. One that he could not switch his days off and that if he missed that day it was unexcused. And that I would have to figure something else out blah blah blah. This ticked me off because if he had just wanted to lay out of work or go to the next town over he would have called in sick or used my family as an excuse. I asked could this not be considered a family emergency. And he said no its still unexcused and he needed 30 days notice to get off. Well things like this come up with no warning. And my mom has already expressed she really wants me there as support because basically she is doing all on her own. And I want to be there to try and help.
The second thing he said was if I did this I was truly giving my sister a reason to hate me and that she may never get over this. And that this may be the nail in her coffin if we all go in and do this. He also said that if it was his sister he would not want her to die hating him so he would not do this to her. At this point I asked when he was getting off work and that I would meet him in the back of the store at his clock out time and walked away.
So he clocks out and we are walking to check out and he asked me was I upset. Of course I said yes but I was not going to talk about this in the middle of the store. So we get outside to my car and I can not hold it in and let it rip outside. Basically I told him I would rather my sister die hating me because I tried to help her oppose to her dieing and me living with the guilty that I could have helped her but didn't because I didn't want her to hate me.When I went through drug addiction myself I had no one not even family trying to make me stop not even family. And until I met my husband I had no support to quit. And that I was going to try and help. And I jumped on him because if he had just wanted to drive to the next town over he would have called in but because I am ding something he would not do he is being an butt about it. I also told him in the end I need his support on this no matter what I choose to do even if he does not agree. This is all hard enough on me but is worse when you have no support.
In the end tho things were better and still are this morning. I don't know if he will work to get that day off or not. But at least we are not arguing.
See once the boys got home from school I went up there to talk him plus "try" to pick up a few things for my son to eat. And it was real slow in his dept and it was 30 mins before clock out time and he had nothing to do so we just talked. And as we talked about my sister and what to do he said 2 things that really set me off. One that he could not switch his days off and that if he missed that day it was unexcused. And that I would have to figure something else out blah blah blah. This ticked me off because if he had just wanted to lay out of work or go to the next town over he would have called in sick or used my family as an excuse. I asked could this not be considered a family emergency. And he said no its still unexcused and he needed 30 days notice to get off. Well things like this come up with no warning. And my mom has already expressed she really wants me there as support because basically she is doing all on her own. And I want to be there to try and help.
The second thing he said was if I did this I was truly giving my sister a reason to hate me and that she may never get over this. And that this may be the nail in her coffin if we all go in and do this. He also said that if it was his sister he would not want her to die hating him so he would not do this to her. At this point I asked when he was getting off work and that I would meet him in the back of the store at his clock out time and walked away.
So he clocks out and we are walking to check out and he asked me was I upset. Of course I said yes but I was not going to talk about this in the middle of the store. So we get outside to my car and I can not hold it in and let it rip outside. Basically I told him I would rather my sister die hating me because I tried to help her oppose to her dieing and me living with the guilty that I could have helped her but didn't because I didn't want her to hate me.When I went through drug addiction myself I had no one not even family trying to make me stop not even family. And until I met my husband I had no support to quit. And that I was going to try and help. And I jumped on him because if he had just wanted to drive to the next town over he would have called in but because I am ding something he would not do he is being an butt about it. I also told him in the end I need his support on this no matter what I choose to do even if he does not agree. This is all hard enough on me but is worse when you have no support.
In the end tho things were better and still are this morning. I don't know if he will work to get that day off or not. But at least we are not arguing.
