I don't know if any of you remember my last thread about my biological father... I talked about how I never met or have ever talked to him and would prefer not to, but I should talk to my paternal grandmother, yadda yadda yadda. Well, I wrote her. and I got a response in record time! I got a letter from her, from him and from a 10-year-old step-sister I didn't know I had (In fact I have 3
) All the letters were really sweet and they all can't wait for me to write them back and get to know each other. I have aunts and uncles and cousins and all sorts of family. not much of it is blood related (all of my dad's siblings were adopted and the sisters are all his new wife's) but it's still family right? Apparently they've all known about me and have tried to get in touch with me through chat lines and checking the phone book etc. etc.
So I wrote my paternal grandmother and my step-sister a nice 1-2 page letter each and now I'm stuck with what to say to my father. I won't ever call him anything but his first name because I have a dad whom I love and cherish and I won't tarnish "dad" at all by calling him that. Obviously he's not the same 25 year old that chose a motorcycle over a crying baby, but he still wasn't there (either by his choice or my mom's) and I don't feel I should have to call him anything but his real name. So I hope he doesn't pressure me to call him something that he's been "dreaming" about for so long. I asked him to explain his side of the story of what happened and told a little about myself. But now what??? I never really expected him to write me. I sort of thought he would, but never really expected it. So am I obliged to write him everything that I told the others? Obviously he going to read his little girl's letter from me, he's a father, and I'm sure he's really curious. I just don't feel like opening up to him right now, and I'm sure he'll understand if I don't. But if he's going to hear my letters from grandma and sister....no, I shouldn't assume that he's going to read anything because he just might not.
I've got today to think about it because I want to send this out on Monday. I guess I'll include a couple of pictures... But I won't include my last name yet. Just in case they get freaky possessive and I want to break it off. With that thought, I won't give them my home address yet, I found out in grandma's letter that they have family in victoria, where I live. So if I don't want anybody knocking on my door, I'll keep that information to myself.
Ok, sorry for the long letter, I hope some of you can respond to this.
Tamme
So I wrote my paternal grandmother and my step-sister a nice 1-2 page letter each and now I'm stuck with what to say to my father. I won't ever call him anything but his first name because I have a dad whom I love and cherish and I won't tarnish "dad" at all by calling him that. Obviously he's not the same 25 year old that chose a motorcycle over a crying baby, but he still wasn't there (either by his choice or my mom's) and I don't feel I should have to call him anything but his real name. So I hope he doesn't pressure me to call him something that he's been "dreaming" about for so long. I asked him to explain his side of the story of what happened and told a little about myself. But now what??? I never really expected him to write me. I sort of thought he would, but never really expected it. So am I obliged to write him everything that I told the others? Obviously he going to read his little girl's letter from me, he's a father, and I'm sure he's really curious. I just don't feel like opening up to him right now, and I'm sure he'll understand if I don't. But if he's going to hear my letters from grandma and sister....no, I shouldn't assume that he's going to read anything because he just might not.
I've got today to think about it because I want to send this out on Monday. I guess I'll include a couple of pictures... But I won't include my last name yet. Just in case they get freaky possessive and I want to break it off. With that thought, I won't give them my home address yet, I found out in grandma's letter that they have family in victoria, where I live. So if I don't want anybody knocking on my door, I'll keep that information to myself.
Ok, sorry for the long letter, I hope some of you can respond to this.
Tamme