Hey y'all. Since I have had such a warm welcome here and so much encouragement with the adoption of my three semi-feral kittens, Conor, Paddington and Niamh, I thought I would come here with a question. You all know so much and this site is so helpful, so here goes.
A friend came over for tea yesterday (the kittens were happily upstairs asleep, litter tray nearby to prevent any accidents...they are fine with my husband me, but still spooked by new people, totally understandably). Anyway, this particular friend has been also really helpful through the whole process of us taking in these kittens (who are about 4-5 months old, in case you haven't read my other thread...). She has three cats of her own and she has taken in a lot of ferals on a short term basis (mainly cats, not kittens). I was talking to her about some of my frustrations over the past few days (it has been a bit of a difficult few days for us) and she mentioned how she had managed to 'tame' her ferals in the past. I had read similar advice on the internet before, but wanted to come here to see what you guys think about it. Anyway, she advocates the towel method - corner them, put a towel over them, swaddle them, give them a pet and a treat and then let them go. She said if you do this enough, then they will learn to trust you.
Now, my instinct is the opposite of this. The kittens have come so far along since we have taken them in. Paddington regularly plays with us. Conor is more than happy to sit around the bedroom (their domain) even when we enter the room. Niamh is a bit more difficult, but even she is improving. They are starting to trust us more. I know ferals are difficult, and I am not one of those people who is like 'I must have a cat that will let me pet it and cuddle it!' I am just happy to have taken these little critters in to give them a good life. So, if we employ this method, I am just worried that it will cause them to revert to hiding back under the bed and make them not trust us again. I would prefer to just spend time with them - feed them, play with them. Show them to trust me in that way. They are improving all the time, and I don't want to screw that up.
Having said that, my friend has had lots of success with her method. My husband and I were discussing it, and he said he would go along with whatever I decided. I have never had cats before - I was raised with dogs, so I totally understand that my instinct might be related to how a dog would react in such a situation. My husband has always had cats, but he is not sure which method would be best. I am aware that there could be further mixed advice, but I just wanted to hear from some real-life people rather than just read articles on the internet!
A bit of background though - these kittens are truly semi-feral. They have been coming in our house for about three months now and would stay in most of the night. We decided to formally take them about two weeks ago, as it was cold outside and I realised I was spending a lot of my day worrying how they were doing. After we took them in, one of the kittens escaped, and once she figured out how to get off our roof, she sat outside our door so we could let her back in. They sit calmly in the room with us at all times - only darting away if we get too close or make a sudden movement. There have been no real problems so far and every day they seem to make breakthroughs. So, I guess I just want to know if this towel method (or something similar) would be beneficial or if I should stick to my instincts?
Thanks!
A friend came over for tea yesterday (the kittens were happily upstairs asleep, litter tray nearby to prevent any accidents...they are fine with my husband me, but still spooked by new people, totally understandably). Anyway, this particular friend has been also really helpful through the whole process of us taking in these kittens (who are about 4-5 months old, in case you haven't read my other thread...). She has three cats of her own and she has taken in a lot of ferals on a short term basis (mainly cats, not kittens). I was talking to her about some of my frustrations over the past few days (it has been a bit of a difficult few days for us) and she mentioned how she had managed to 'tame' her ferals in the past. I had read similar advice on the internet before, but wanted to come here to see what you guys think about it. Anyway, she advocates the towel method - corner them, put a towel over them, swaddle them, give them a pet and a treat and then let them go. She said if you do this enough, then they will learn to trust you.
Now, my instinct is the opposite of this. The kittens have come so far along since we have taken them in. Paddington regularly plays with us. Conor is more than happy to sit around the bedroom (their domain) even when we enter the room. Niamh is a bit more difficult, but even she is improving. They are starting to trust us more. I know ferals are difficult, and I am not one of those people who is like 'I must have a cat that will let me pet it and cuddle it!' I am just happy to have taken these little critters in to give them a good life. So, if we employ this method, I am just worried that it will cause them to revert to hiding back under the bed and make them not trust us again. I would prefer to just spend time with them - feed them, play with them. Show them to trust me in that way. They are improving all the time, and I don't want to screw that up.
Having said that, my friend has had lots of success with her method. My husband and I were discussing it, and he said he would go along with whatever I decided. I have never had cats before - I was raised with dogs, so I totally understand that my instinct might be related to how a dog would react in such a situation. My husband has always had cats, but he is not sure which method would be best. I am aware that there could be further mixed advice, but I just wanted to hear from some real-life people rather than just read articles on the internet!
A bit of background though - these kittens are truly semi-feral. They have been coming in our house for about three months now and would stay in most of the night. We decided to formally take them about two weeks ago, as it was cold outside and I realised I was spending a lot of my day worrying how they were doing. After we took them in, one of the kittens escaped, and once she figured out how to get off our roof, she sat outside our door so we could let her back in. They sit calmly in the room with us at all times - only darting away if we get too close or make a sudden movement. There have been no real problems so far and every day they seem to make breakthroughs. So, I guess I just want to know if this towel method (or something similar) would be beneficial or if I should stick to my instincts?
Thanks!