So our "newest addition" isn't going to work out right now. We brought her home from my coworker's house yesterday to do a "trial run" to see how things will go at our house, since we have 2 six month old kittens there already. They did the usual hissing and whatnot, but seemed to tolerate each other - no scratches or battle wounds. The problem is that we are getting married tomorrow and going to be gone A LOT over the next two to three weeks. We know that bringing in a cat requires work, and people being home and able to help it work out. Rob's family has come in from Colorado, and more family will be arriving from Maine, so the house is packed with people staying over for a week. We are going to be gone at a hotel from February 5 - February 14, then leave for our cruise on February 15 - 23. We're coming home at night to visit the family a few times at the end of the week, but other than that we'll be gone. We know that we can't just throw the new cat and all the responsibilities that come with introducing her to a new area on his parents. His mom would be willing to help out the week we were on the cruise, but this week with all the people staying over is bad timing. People will be sleeping in our bedroom while we're gone, which doubles as a "cat room" since our kittens' stuff is in there and we were keeping the new one in there last night. This was just a trial run to us, but I think my coworker expected it to just be a "good to go" right away thing. Monte & Katina are adjusted and have a routine, so they will be fine. They've been there since September. This cat just got yanked out of everything it ever knew.
I asked my coworker today if she could keep the cat at her new house for 2 more weeks, and then we'll be able to take her in and spend time doing what we have to do and harmonizing the cats. She won't do it, she said the owner of the house they rent will freak (even though she has a dog and strictly indoor cat there right now and he didn't want ANY pets to begin with...) and that she thinks the cat is going to get hit by a car in the course of 2 weeks living there. We're trying so hard to do something good for this cat, because she flat out told us that if we can't keep it, she's bringing her to the SPCA. Even today when I asked her if she could just hold off for 2 weeks so we can do everything right, she said she will pick it up tonight and bring it to the SPCA this week. It kills Rob & I ... we spent about an hour or more crying last night together and feeling really bad. He even told me that my heart is so big when it comes to helping cats, and that I care too much but he never wants me to change. He was blaming himself for this not working out right now because it's putting stress on us in addition to wedding-related stress, and I blamed myself also - if I never told her we would think about helping, we'd still be the same happy little family with 2 kittens living harmoniously and wouldnt be going through all this pain.
I feel kind of like a failure because we want to help and cant. With the wedding, the cruise, and building a house all at once, it's really hard to devote all our time RIGHT NOW. The cat is a wonderful cat. She took to us and his parents immediately. She hid in the closet most of yesterday, but she would come out and rub on us and let us pick her up and pet her. When I look into her eyes, I just see a cat who wants a forever home and someone to love her, which hurts us even more because it is about 2 weeks too soon for us to be those people who give her that home. We are so willing to try, but my coworker not helping us in return is making it impossible. This morning the three cats were standing on the stairs together behind Rob's dad - and the new one looked right at home.
If anyone in SC would be able to take in a lovely 1.5 year old female (needs to be spayed, would provide $30-60 towards spay - probably would cover it at a low-cost clinic), we would be forever grateful that she found a home. There aren't many people who can understand how upsetting it is to want to help and not be able to right now (by TWO weeks!) but I know if anyone understands, its you guys. My friend plans on picking the cat up from our house tonight and bringing her to the SPCA this week, probably tomorrow, unless we can rehome her somewhere.
Sorry so long, but we are aching for this cat to find someplace good. And we feel horrible because it cant be us even though we tried. We hope that no one here thinks we didn't.
Here is a link to a picture of her:
http://i8.photobucket.com/albums/a11...kittahs013.jpg
She was named Pocahontas, we were going to change her name, but never will get the chance.
I asked my coworker today if she could keep the cat at her new house for 2 more weeks, and then we'll be able to take her in and spend time doing what we have to do and harmonizing the cats. She won't do it, she said the owner of the house they rent will freak (even though she has a dog and strictly indoor cat there right now and he didn't want ANY pets to begin with...) and that she thinks the cat is going to get hit by a car in the course of 2 weeks living there. We're trying so hard to do something good for this cat, because she flat out told us that if we can't keep it, she's bringing her to the SPCA. Even today when I asked her if she could just hold off for 2 weeks so we can do everything right, she said she will pick it up tonight and bring it to the SPCA this week. It kills Rob & I ... we spent about an hour or more crying last night together and feeling really bad. He even told me that my heart is so big when it comes to helping cats, and that I care too much but he never wants me to change. He was blaming himself for this not working out right now because it's putting stress on us in addition to wedding-related stress, and I blamed myself also - if I never told her we would think about helping, we'd still be the same happy little family with 2 kittens living harmoniously and wouldnt be going through all this pain.
I feel kind of like a failure because we want to help and cant. With the wedding, the cruise, and building a house all at once, it's really hard to devote all our time RIGHT NOW. The cat is a wonderful cat. She took to us and his parents immediately. She hid in the closet most of yesterday, but she would come out and rub on us and let us pick her up and pet her. When I look into her eyes, I just see a cat who wants a forever home and someone to love her, which hurts us even more because it is about 2 weeks too soon for us to be those people who give her that home. We are so willing to try, but my coworker not helping us in return is making it impossible. This morning the three cats were standing on the stairs together behind Rob's dad - and the new one looked right at home.
If anyone in SC would be able to take in a lovely 1.5 year old female (needs to be spayed, would provide $30-60 towards spay - probably would cover it at a low-cost clinic), we would be forever grateful that she found a home. There aren't many people who can understand how upsetting it is to want to help and not be able to right now (by TWO weeks!) but I know if anyone understands, its you guys. My friend plans on picking the cat up from our house tonight and bringing her to the SPCA this week, probably tomorrow, unless we can rehome her somewhere.
Sorry so long, but we are aching for this cat to find someplace good. And we feel horrible because it cant be us even though we tried. We hope that no one here thinks we didn't.
Here is a link to a picture of her:
http://i8.photobucket.com/albums/a11...kittahs013.jpg
She was named Pocahontas, we were going to change her name, but never will get the chance.
