Im so frustrated!!

I don't have any answers for sure, but if you're trying to reason him into doing things, it's been my experience that you just can't reason with a 2 year old. The only thing I would suggest is punishments when he misbehaves that will matter to him (i.e., taking away privileges) and being consistent with it. And then have him earn that privilege back by being good?

I hope things get better for you soon.

So today he is being all nicey nice to me, which is so weird but Im taking advantage out of it and getting my xtra kisses while I can!! Nap time today me and the boys decided to lay on the couch and he cuddled with me all sweet like, however I did wake up to a shoe getting thrown at my head but that was by Joseph! My lip is all fat and bloody!! It only bled for a couple minutes but now it has a blood blister looking type thing on it!! Everyone think my DH beats me! LOL it a hoot when I tell them my 1 y/o did it! Oh well, it'll go away soon enough! Giving myself good that Jacobs couple of bad days have gone away!!

Hope your having a better day!!!

I am only a PM away

Today the tantrums made me late to pick Angel up from preschool....GRRRR!!
Him and his giant attitude!! Freaks out and starts disrobing and just erks me in general! I get him in the van finally and he will not let me buckle him in!! Then I try to leave it at that and he freaks out because he's not buckled!! *PULLING MY HAIR OUT* He's a stinker!!! Then when I finally get him home I get the other two inside the house and there he is in the van not willing to get out! Such a poophead. Ill have to see what the dr says about this, cuz its crap!! I can't deal with this all the time all by myself!! I dont have a life already and this is just making things worse, I can't go out of the house without him freaking out, which makes me not wanna leave the house at all!

YOU are bigger than him. Do not try to talk him into getting out of the vehicle. You take him and drag him out and into the house. I would allow him
to lay on the floor and tantrum(ignore him while he does it)but if he starts hitting me or throwing stuff he would get a spanking. I feel there is nothing wrong with spanking as long as the adult is in total control. There is a big difference between spanking and abusing. You also have to spank on the botttom only hard enough to cause at least some pain....I grew up in a home where I got spanked if I pushed things too hard. It did not teach me to hate my parents.It did not teach me to go around thinking hitting others was okay. It taught me,hey,thats not cool or hey..hitting hurts I'm going to quit. I believe there is such a thing as bipolar in kids but I think the majority of kids that are diagnosed with something like that are kids that have been allowed to hit,kick,bite scream and get their way. I would never let my kids hit me or do the same to a sibling. They'd get their butts spanked. If they bite,I lightly pop them on the mouth. I had one son that that didn't work so I bit him back once(not HARD)and it worked. If he tells you NO,then he does NOT get what he wants at all. If he won't get into his seat,then you put him in so he can't get out and turn the music up Some kids are more strong willed and if you don't get a handle on it now, it will be very hard when he is as strong as you. He shoves/hits his brother....he gets spanked. I don't get people that think that if you do this,it will only teach them that hitting is okay. You are teaching him it is NOT okay to hurt his brother. You are the mom. You are the one to dole out discipline. Its DIFFERENT than sibling hitting sibling. When he is being sweet and kind, tell him how much you love him and enjoy his good mood. Everytime he does something right or good or without throwing a fit, praise him. If he screams or yells NO and then you change and give him what he wants you are only reinforcing that his strategy works...they are smart.
Good luck.You can do it.

Yeah, I think you're probably right... I grew up in a house where we got to choose our belt... So Ive always tried to stear away from spanking if at all possible! He is very strong willed!! He can go for hours just screaming and hitting and such! With Angel, she has gotten a pat or two and mostly knows better, Joseph would never do anything very bad, Yeah, he hit me the other day with a shoe, but I dont think he was trying to throw it at my head... He gets a few pats on the hand for the most part and the other day when he bit me I did bite him back... It hurts and it seems like it worked! He hasn't bit me since! he had bitten me like 5 times that day though... Jacob is just different, he has the worst attitude and prides himself in making me angry! ARGG!!! He's so stubborn! 2 years old and he's way too smart and way too naughty! Things have got to be done to take care of this issue before it gets out of control!

It's been a LOOOOONG time since I had a 2 year old, but does it help if he doesn't have an audience? I remember one time my daughter tried this, and I walked away to another room. She just followed me from room to room, and gave up when I ignored her.

See, this is why I'm not a parent. Honestly, I think he does need a spanking. Not a whipping (I would NEVER hit a child with a belt), but a few firm swats on the butt. When I was growing up, I remember being spanked maybe 3 times. Most of the time, just the threat of the spanking was enough to get me back in line because I know my parents would do it if I REALLY pushed it.

I don't have kids, but my best friend's son went through a milder rebellious period when he was about that age. According to her doctor, this is the age when the child starts wanting to develop some independence and start being their own person. She was ready to pull her hair out too, but the doctor recommended letting her son do some things on his own. Let him pick out his own silverware (ummm...sharp knives probably wouldn't be a good idea though ), let him chose certain things. Like I said, I'm not speaking from my own experience, I was just experiencing motherhood vicariously through my friend, which is ABSOLUTELY fine with me!

Good luck with that!

Oh, BTW, when I had poison ivy I rubbed witch hazel on it and it actually helped a lot!

For the ringworm, didn't they give you an ointment to put on your kitty? When mine had it they gave me that and didn't recommend baths (so the ointment could soak into the skin). Oh, I got ringworm from the cat, and the best thing for it is athletes foot ointement. Cleared me up in a few days. Don't know if you could put that on your kitty if it is on a place he could lick it off.

Wow...your life make MY head hurt!

haha my life makes my head hurt too!! I just went to change their diapers so I could put them to bed and he fought me tooth and nail, kicking and hitting and yelling at me! I gave him a good swat on the butt and he said "NAUGHTY MOMMY" which was kind of funny, but I didn't laught because I didn't want to encourage him. Everything is his, and his lil bro sure knows how to take a beating from him! Ive taken to sticking him in his crib and just letting him scream! If I walk away from him he follows me around and screams and hits to get my attention! So I locked myself in the bathroom (yes I know, I took the easy way out) and he sat at the door and pounded and screamed! ARGG!!

Just a thought, but could he be jealous of his little brother? He got most of the attention when he was the youngest, then suddenly there is another baby getting most of the attention so he has to be a brat (sorry) to get attention from Mommy?

I know you said you spend one on one time, but that could be the main problem. Not spending the one on one time, but the fact that he's just used to being the baby....and if that's the case I don't have a CLUE what to tell you!

This is something I would definitely talk to his doctor about. I didn't realize at first his brother was younger than him. I'm sure the doctor has heard of this type of situation before and may have some good suggestions for you. Or, do a search for sibling rivalry and see if they give any suggestions for this age.

I'll just stick to my cats, thank you very much!

Yeah, Jacob never really got to be the baby either... He was only 3 months old when I figured out I was pregnant, and previous to that he was too busy having surgeries to be a baby, so when he was almost 12 months I gave birth to his little brother Joseph! We actually celebrated Jacobs 1st Birthday while I was in the hospital with Joey! So I do think that has something to do with everything! Before Joey came along Jacob was attached at my hip all the time, I carried him everywhere, and he was momma's lil boy! Then as soon as Joey was born he became evil! He would throw Joey off the couch and hit him and stuff like that. I love them both, but since they're both mama's boys its hard some days! I wish I knew how to even things out! I mean, its not like I Meant to have another baby that soon! I always wanted 3 kids, each 5 years apart. God had other plans for me! Birth control isn't always full proof, especially if you're on any other meds! So I dont know what to do with him! I know he is still a baby himself, but its hard! I have to change 2 poopy diapers every couple hours, get 2 bottles for bed time and nap time and then still manage to give Angel all she needs, and she's really demanding also! I havn't weened Jacob off the bottle yet because whats the point?? Joey still gets one so it would be a fight I would never win! I plan on weaning them BOTH off the bottle in the next couple months but its hard because Joseph is lactose intolerant and has to have baby formula or he hurls everywhere! YUCK! So I figured Id get er done at the same time! Children can be a handfull some days! I wouldn't trade them for nothing, but OMG I have grey hairs!!

Aw...hugs. I know a bit about that. My kids are 12 months, 11 days apart. LOL

Yeah, closeness in age can sure create problems somedays!! Oh well, they'll grow out of it!!

P.S. Will someone click on my dragon hatchling before it kicks the bucket??? Its had 39 clicks for a couple days now so If it doesn't get clicked on its gonna die!!

Oh and just to make my frustrations worse, it seems as though my DH got home early from Arizona, and instead of coming home or calling me, he went out and got trashed!! I get left with 3 kids for weeks at a time, and then he comes home and gets drunk!! ARGGGG!!! He's in the dogg house tonight, he's NOT sleeping next to me... #$@%!@