Im so frustrated!!

Alright it just seems as though everything always goes wrong for me! Nothing can go right! My cats have ringworm (Just Eek) the thread for that is
http://thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=155855

They also just got neutered and Eek had his head scraped at the same time!

Then to top everything off Im pretty sure Im raising the Spawn Of Satan!
My 2 Year Old either hates me, or is possessed by the devil recently! The past few days with him has been a nightmare. He doesn't listen to what I say (he's 2 I can't expect him to always listen) but then he gets mad at me and just whacks me a good one! He has hit me probably like 10 times in the past 4 days!

It all started Wednesday. Angel (my 5 y/o) was spending the night at my grandmas. So we were going to go out to dinner together. So Im getting the kids dressed for the cold wheather and I got Joseph ready and then go to get Jacob ready. He starts screaming at Me, NO WAY MOM! Every piece of clothing I put on him he ripped off, I went to put his socks and shoes on and he ripped his socks off. So I try to remain calm and put it back on him and then go for the shoes, he then grabs a shoe and belts me with it! By the time I finally got there we were a half hour late. So we went out to dinner and then I met them (angel and my gma) at her house. So I put them in the tub (she has a big enough tub for all 3 kids) and he starts screaming at me! NO WAY MOM!! NO WAY MOM! Im like whatever, I get him cleaned up and take him out. So its getting late and I decide I should get the boys home and put them to bed. I get Joseph in first, then go to put Jacob in his booster seat, he gets out and screams at me and I tell him that Ill put him in the other baby seat if he doesn't knock it off! (the other baby seat I have is for 2 year olds he just hates it) So he continues to scream and scream and scream. My grandma comes out of the house and says she would spank his butt if he were her child. I finally get angry about him not listening and put him in the baby seat. He screamed the whole way home! When I get home I go to take him in and he wanted out of the seat but would not get out of the van. At this point I have no patience so I take him out, change his diaper and put them both directly to bed. The next day it starts all over again, with him kicking me and yelling at me NO WAY MOM! I go to pick Angel up from school and he wouldn't sit in his seat again, so I tell him once again that he needs to be in his seat, seatbelted in. He freaks out. So I go and put him in the baby seat because he can't get out of that and he is kicking and screaming the whole time! I drop the girl that gets a ride home with me everyday off at her daycare and go home. I get Jacob unbuckled and get Joseph and Angel out and have the door open and am asking Jacob to come on, time to go in! He screams at me so I take the other two in and go back out to my garage and try to get him in. He wouldn't come for nothing. He took it so far as to bite me! So I go in (my garage door is shut, but the door to inside the house is open) and Im watching him, trying to talk him into coming in. It took 30 minutes to finally get him in the house. I just dont know what Im doing wrong here! I try spending extra time with him alone, and that doesn't work. Ive tried spanking him but Im not really a spanker so it doesn't faze him! Ive tried time outs! Im at my witts end! The worst part about everything is he is so darn mean to Joseph! He pushes him off of things, trips him, bites him, takes his toys away from him and is just down right nasty to him!! Does anyone have any advice?? I know its probably the terrible twos, but Angel never went through any of this!!

I feel for you! Take a breath, hold it in and let it out slowly..........Now applaud your self for getting through this week and being able to talk about after the fact! I'm not a mom (except for Maia), but definitely hear your pain!

Yeah, somedays are better than others I guess! It doesn't help that my DH is on the road all the time! I was lucky enough for him to come home last night, but he leaves again monday morning and wont be back for 2 weeks! I just want to be a good mommy and meowmy, and right now I feel like I can't do either of those things right! I can't seem to get rid of the ringworm on Eek even though its gone off of Jax, Joseph has a head to toe rash (not ringworm) but definatly not good, my luck is since he's the only one of the kids not to have the chicken pox that thats what it is! So its just been a rough week! Im going to sleep in tomarrow and hopefully I will feel better after that!

He really has chicken pox? And as far as the ring worm, that is a stubborn parasite!

Im presuming it is chicken pox. My other two had it a couple months ago even though they were vaccinated for it and he didn't get it. But now he has bumps all over him that are spreading and they look just like chicken pox! I can't get him to the dr till monday either! (Not going to take him to the ER to have them tell me I have to have it run its course!) So all in all everything is frustrating! Of course the poor little guy itches too, Angel itched so bad that she is scarred all over! I tried everything with her, oatmeal baths, creams, oral meds, benadryl and nothing worked! So Im hoping he doesn't have the problem where he scars that easily!
The ringworm has been really annoying also! It never seems to go away! Giving 3 cats baths every other day of the week and meds twice a day isn't easy when you have to take care of 3 kids all by yourself!!

I don't even know what to say.....My fingers are sitting on the keyboard as I try to think of words to comfort your situation, but to be honest, it really sucks right now and I can't lie to you about it! All I can offer is an ear and a chat, and one thing that I remember that was a killer itch soother growing up but safe, Witch Hazel.

Witch Hazel huh?? I havn't tried that!! I did however try Chamomile and Aloe, hydrocorotizone and benadryl!! Can you get witch Hazel at walmart??

I don't know, I live in Manhattan, NYC, to be honest I haven't used in in a long time, but it is good soothing skin relief! As far as aloe, the best is if you can get the aloe plant. If you cut the branch/stem/leaf of an aloe plant down the center and rub the extract as well as the leaf on the irritated skin, it is the best for healing! Not really an itch soother, but healing aid extreme, perfect for sun burn! But in this case is good to use when healing process has started. If it is chicken pox, as you know its something that has to be fought out, no treatment when its in process, just ways to sooth the discomfort......

I also have a humongous aloe plant! We've been growing it for years! So Ill try that too!! THanks! Talk to you tomarrow! Or Later today! LOL

you can get witch hazel at walmart, htey have clear which is the normal kind and if i am not mistaken they have a green kind that has a small amount of menthol which would help cool as with soothing it, i remember my chicken pox really well cause i had them so bad, i had them all thru my mouth and throat and the bottom of my feet were layered with them to the point i could not walk without screaming. I was only about 7 but god do i ever remember them. the only thing that helped me was calamine lotion for poison ivy. It really helped. It didnt take it away by any means but it helped. all i can say is this is the terrible two stage and regardless of how much attention you give him you gotta remember he is the youngest, the baby of the family and tho the others were not bad thru their two's he has an older brother and sister so he is going to act the worst out of the three. My x husband had three daughters that pretty close in age, they were born in 83, 85, and 87 . i started raising them when the youngest was almost 5 so i didnt go thru the terrible twos but i will be the first to tell you as a step parent that little one would cause so much crap for the group but then would turn on the sweetness and always cause the middle one to get in trouble for it and as they got older it didnt get better it got worse cause she figured out how to never get in trouble for it. it wasnt until the middle one was about 13 that we finally realized that all along it was the youngest. All i can tell ya is be lucky you have at least one girl and not all boys cause its worse when they are all siblings of the same sex.

P.S. I also remember with my chicken pox they were itchy too from where they start drying out to heal so i think the aloe will soothe that also because it will keep the healing pox moist.

Yeah, its actually not the youngest, Joseph, But the middle child Jacob!! Jacob is 2 and Joseph is 1! Joseph is the good one, ever so patient, and just a lover, Jacob is my evil child! Always has been, but thing are getting worse! Joseph is the one with the chicken pox though! So yeah, I got fun coming out of my ears!

Alright, so tonight my 2 y/o Jacob came up to me and asked for juice, so I get the juice out and he starts screaming! So I grab a different kind and he says NO WAY MOM! So I grabbed the last kind I had and he freaked out, started kicking and screaming! It was awful. Finally Jake came in and took him out of the kitchen because he was yelling at me so loud! He takes full blown swings at me and everything. He would never do that stuff to jake! Everything I do for him is wrong, he doesn't want me to help him do anything, if I dont let him pick out his own silverware he will freak out and wont eat until I let him pick it out. He has to have his way all the time! I play, I cuddle, I do whatever he wants! Ive tried tough love, Ive tried being a softy (Im better at being a softy) and nothing work with him! I know that middle children have issues but this is crazy!! He hates me!!

OHH I feel soo much for you... I cant handle a ill mom and my four leggeds

Yeah, It would be tough having a realling ill mom. My mom just got over cancer (again) but seems to be doing fine. She had other health issues, she can't drive so I have to drive her everywhere including her dr which is 44 miles away from me!
Some days, with 3 kids, and 3cats, one of whom is battling ringworm its a struggle to even get outta bed!! I enjoy peace and quiet every once in a while, and latey with Jacobs attitude its not happening! I know he'll grow out of it, but it still stinks in the mean time!

I'm far from a doctor and don't want to put ideas in your mind, but .........Could there be a possibility of ADHD with Jacob? Have you spoken with his doctor about these tantrums?

No I havn't spoken to the Doctor yet, see I have ADHD, and my Brother has ADHD, and the treatment they give to children is dangerous to say the least! If the medicine is given at too young of an age it can cause Turettes (sp)Syndrome! My brother has this and trust me, its not a good thing! I would much rather deal with the tantrums. He needs to go to the doctor anyway so Ill take him in and at least get him diagnosed if thats it!

I just keep thinking there has to be some easy way of making things better!

Oh I wasn't thinking about medications, I was thinking more about if diagnosed, then there would be different ways of approaching his needs. Also maybe diet and special therapy for both, someone who can help you find ways to avoid fits and violent behavior.........We can't always figure everything out on our own, sometimes a little outside help, and not necessarily medication, is just the right cure!

Does he have anything that he REALLY likes or enjoys? If so, tell him that the next time he hits/screams/bites you, that he won't be able to play with that for 5 or so minutes.He needs to learn even at 2, that it isn't right to do those things to you.
I would see if you can maybe get him interested in something, that he can do ONLY when he is good.

I totally agree with the Mommy & Jacob counciling! There is 2 things that he likes the best,
!.) His Blanket (If you try to give him a dif one even for the night he trips)
2.) Superman, he sleeps with Superman every night~ (its actually spider man but he thinks its superman!!) I dont know if maybe he is a home body or what, because 90% of our troubles happen when we're out and about!
Oh and Ill ever let DH shot again, he got everykind of Gatorade except for the ones me and Jacob like! (grape feirce)So thats why he freaked out about the juice earlier! Didn't have the kind he wasnted! Well have to see what the dr says about all this becase Im more than really to take councling!!