Originally Posted by spookn
I knew other people loved their pets, cats dogs... And I came to the conclusion that some people get it and others just don't. And, never will. But after reading some of the posts I don't feel so alone. I lost Spook a couple days before Xmas. She was with me 18yrs. And I still miss her like crazy!
I live alone and have no family around, so she was it around the house. And she knew it most times.
I still expect her to be at the door when I get home from work, and do things like move some papers on the desk so she can have a spot next to me while I'm on the PC.
Its very strange, I can't explain how much I expect to see her moving about.
I've been thinking about getting another or two. But am not sure if I'm ready just yet.
Well, thanks for having this site, I really appreciate it.
Brian, I'm so sorry you lost Spook, but you've come to a great site. Everyone here gets it, and no one here will ever tell you, "Get over it, she was just a cat," which too many of us have heard from people offline (sometimes people who are well-meaning but completely clueless). You were blessed to have Spook with you for 18 years (and she must feel that time together was a blessing, too), and she wove herself into the fabric of your life so much during that time that it will take time to heal. Time, and support like you'll find here.
I lost my Sinbad, who was with me nearly 17 years, not quite 5 years ago. It will be five years on the 13th. And I still miss her so much. And I still feel wistful when I look at her favorite spots, like the window beside my desk, and she isn't there. I missed her so much even though I had two younger cats (one of who I lost three years ago, to cancer). Cats are precious individuals, impossible to replace. But there are so many sweet kitties who do need a loving home, which you can provide, and I believe that when the time is right, Spook will help guide you to the cat (maybe more than one) who's right for you. You might even have one show up in your life, with little warning, one needing rescued who will also rescue you emotionally. I've heard of that happening so often. But don't rush into getting a new kitty if you don't feel it's the right time yet.
And don't be surprised if you sense Spook around, or think you catch glimpses of her, or hear her, or feel her jump on your bed, or have dream visits that are much more real than other dreams. I believe with all my heart that our furkids are still very much alive on the other side, and someday we'll be reunited with them...and in the meantime they can see us, and watch over us, and sometimes make us aware they're around. Spook is still there for you, always will be.
And the people here at TCS are also here for you. And just reading the messages here will help, even if you have days you don't feel like posting. When you're grieving, it helps so much to know that others have had the same feelings, and that they've begun to heal no matter how painful the loss was. And you'll see that here. The photos of adorable kitties help, too.