I have 2 boys. 8 and 4.
Both dress themselves (with my help of course on school days as their sense of style and matching colors has not kicked in yet) On weekends, they chose their clothes and they wear whatever they want! They love that!!!!
Bath and shower. My oldest is just beginning in the shower phase. He's not sure if he likes showers yet... My boys normally bath together and BOTH need to be told to use soap. I am in the midst of teaching them to wash themselves carefully: behind ears, necks, underarms, parts.... etc... I don't do it for them anymore but I do 'supervise'. I allow them to play for a while and then it's serious business. If I did, however, leave it up to them. Soap would never cross their minds.
Cutting food: well.....that's something I have never asked either one to do. Not sure why. Do I think they need to learn? Yeah....eventually. I'm not too concerned about this being something they must do on their own. I always cut their food.
Wipe themselves....yeah, tough one. In this house, baby wipes are a constant. I encourage them to do it themselves but my 4 year old has no interest and still yells "I'm done!" when he's done....
My 8 year old would not be getting away with asking me for help. But he's always been extra careful with wiping. He can spend 10 minutes just making sure he got it all! :LOL:
Do their chores??? Nope! That is a constant battle here. I am always telling them to clean, pick up and put away. They'll do it but never because 'they just feel like it' It's more because that's the only way mom will stay quiet.
Remember what things are called? Well....I don't think that is much of a problem here however, some kids do have difficulty with mixing the words around. Like for example: Spagetti in this house is called Pasgetti as far as my boys are concerned. If they are constantly forgetting what things are called like: peas or mop, ask them why they find it confusing? What is it that makes them forget? If it seems like it is a much more serious problem than a simple 'I'm busy playing and could not care less what a pea is called' then, don't worry but....if it seems like that is the problem for everything, then do as Daniela suggested and have someone see them. Has the school ever mentioned anything? Normally they pick up on things like that real quick and advise you. If they haven't said anything and if their grades reflect normal grades for that age, then don't worry about it.