Obviously we need descriptive phrases and terms. However, in order for them to have meaning everyone needs to know the definition. I think when using something that we know may be controversial we should explain how we are using the word. I have quoted MW online in my posts when using a term I know people are going to find derogatory but I am using the literal meaning.
I was a participant in the thread that actually got pulled. I am sure my last post was part of what put that thread over the top. (BTW I really like the person I was replying to even while disagreeing with their viewpoint on this issue). I thought about what I wrote, and wrote it with purpose.
Sometimes people get fanatic about an issue.http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fanatic
Fanatic: marked by excessive enthusiasm and often intense uncritical devotion
When I run across this I really want to try and open eyes to the possibility that there are other interpretations. I want them to actually look at what they are debating about with a critical eye to their own viewpoint. It doesn't mean I want to change that person's opinion, but just that they need to be more cognizant of others and how they may react to what they are saying. When trying to "open someone's eyes" often a very blunt statement is needed. That is just what I did in my final post to the thread that got pulled.
As another example, my former thread about the religious sign I felt was offensive because it was claiming me as being lorded over. It is a small thing but significant IMO for many reasons, only one of which is that it shows lack of respect for others.
I tried to make my post as open and all inclusive as possible. Of course those of the religion that was the same as the sign said it was not offensive and no one should be bothered by it. The thread then went off to be one similar to the one that just got pulled. I am sure it is one people in this thread are referring to as "Christian bashing". That was not the purpose or intent at all, but no amount of my explaining could get through and I just quite posting.
I wish I had actually made up a fake sign and instead asked: Would anyone be offended by the following sign, they are popping up in my area
Satan rules over "your town's name here".
I am sure the response to my thread would have been much different. Maybe then my point about being considerate of others feelings in the general population might have been understood.
Bottom line there is no way to please all people all the time, especially when discussing controversial things. However it is possible to not be purposefully hateful and demeaning to others when expressing oneself. The thread that got pulled crossed WAY over the line on the purposefully hateful and demeaning issue.