We just got the word on my father

carolpetunia

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The news is very bad. He has a large (8 cm) cancer in his liver, plus a couple of smaller spots in other areas of the liver, plus some enlargement of lymph nodes in the area.

It's not liver cancer, though -- it's a metastasis of the colon cancer he had three years ago. As I understand it, that's even worse than if it were a new outbreak.

The oncologist was very gentle about it, but he held out no hope of a cure... only the hope that chemotherapy might slow down or halt the growth of the cancer. Radiation is not a possibility, because the liver is too vulnerable -- "it gets very sick," the doctor said. And because the cancer is in multiple sites, surgery isn't possible, either. I even thought about a liver transplant, but I didn't bring it up because I'm sure Papa would never survive such a huge surgery and all the immunosuppressive therapy that goes along with it... even if someone his age could qualify for a donated organ.

So chemo is the only option. But with Papa's age and fragility, there's only so much chemotherapy he'll be able to tolerate. He had a very "light" chemo for a few months after his colon cancer surgery, and he handled it surprisingly well -- so they're going to give him that same combination again (5FU/Leucovorin, weekly; 6 weeks on and 2 weeks off), and add to it Avastin (every other week, no break), which is an anti-angiogenesis drug. That means it works to keep new blood vessels from being formed to supply the cancer, which we hope will slow or stop its growth.

The doctor never said the word "death" -- he just said, "We're going to do everything we can to fight this without destroying your quality of life -- but someday, this is going to get really serious on you. It might be a couple of months, or it might be a couple of years. But I know you and your family want to fight, so we're gonna fight it the very best we can."

And so we will. The first chemo is set for tomorrow. I hope it works a miracle.
 

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Oh I am so sorry the news wasn't good


Lets pray that he will be around a while longer, and the chemo helps

 

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Carol


Tough news to hear, but it sounds as if the fighting spirit is strong, so we'll just bombard heaven with prayers.
for a miracle.
 

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I'm sorry to hear about your father. But it's good to know the Dr. didn't put a sentence on your father's life expectancy. I think too many Doctors try to do that and it's a disservice to the person and the family.

I hope you have many more years with your father, and that he's strong enough to make it through treatment.
 

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Carol, I'm so sorry


I hope the Chemo works wonders, sending many prayers to you all
 

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I'm sorry to hear bad news Carol. I wish I were closer to you. Never forget that miracles can and do happen every single day. When we were in the ICU for so long, I watched a woman who was considered legally dead by the doctors with NO chance of survival be taken off life support. She sustained herself through the night and woke up the next day and started talking. She walked out of that hospital, on her own two weeks later.

Don't ever give up hope! I'll be keeping you and your father in my prayers.


He sounds like a very strong man, he can fight this!
 

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I am so very very sorry to read this. As a daughter who watched her Dad struggle with Cancer, I know your pain.KNow that I am thinking about you and your Dad.And sending many
and that way!
 

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I'm sorry the news was not at all very good.
From what you've told us of your dad, he's a fighter. And with his family, he's gonna fight this battle together.
 

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I'm so sorry. Sending best wishes to you and your family that the chemo goes as well as it can, and you all cope with it all emotionally.
 

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Originally Posted by Bella713

I am so sorry to hear this, and I will pray for that miracle
yeh, am really sorry to hear of your news. i hope the chemo works for your father! sending many prayers his way
 

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I am sorry Carol. Like Nat said - what you have told us about him, he is a fighter. And he will fight this.



 

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Oh, Carol. I don't even know what to say. I was so hoping for better news for you.


I'll continue to pray for a miracle. I know a woman who had terrible metastasized cancer and was given three months to live...over ten years ago. So they do happen.
 
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