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post #31 of 42
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Originally Posted by Duchess15 View Post
Very true!
oh yea, and the whole give him your number thing.
Never works, Guys will do one of 2 things

1) toss it away
2) think ok yea, i will call her, and then forget about it.
post #32 of 42
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Originally Posted by lunasmom View Post
just because they stopped "hinting" and told the guy they liked him.
that me, i never noticed someone liked me, until they told me, or smacked me over the head

as for flirting, hmm i dont know, i get accused of it all the time, But all i am doing is being me. not my fault.
post #33 of 42
Maybe this is a bit "high school," but ask one of the vet techs if he's single...but you might want to ask one that is definitely married, otherwise there's always the chance he's dating a co-worker and you don't want to step into a hornet's nest! lol

Then again, I guess I'm a flirt and don't know it. At least, that's what my husband says (but only with him).
post #34 of 42
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Originally Posted by Rang_27 View Post
OK, maybe this is totally wrong, but I have a big crush on Jordan's vet. He has a last name that to me is very obviously Slovac. My mom is 100% slovac and so I just new it was a Slovac name. So when Jordan went in for his rabies booster I asked, "Is your last name Slovac?" I think it sort of shocked him. I couldn't tell if he was uncomfortable, or just truly supprised. You have no idea the amount of time it took me to get up the guts to ask him that much. I just don't know if that was obvious enough that he knows I'm intrested or not. I do not have the guts to ask him out, but I want him to know I'm intrested so that if he is he will ask me out. Now maybe because he's my cat's vet he wouldn't ask me out anyway. This is the first time in probably over 5 years I've been intrested enough in someone to try to flirt. So if anyone who actually knows anything about this stuff could help I would appreciate it.
Be bold! My wife asked me to go to a movie with her. I was so shocked that a woman that I did not know would ask me out. I said no at first but I had her phone number and went out with here. And look what happened, we are happily married now.
post #35 of 42
I value the relationship I have with my vet as a vet too much to ever risk jeopardizing it by trying to have a romantic relationship with him. There are plenty of men to choose from, there aren't plenty of vets. Just something to think about. If you choose to pursue him, I wish you luck.
post #36 of 42
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Originally Posted by lunasmom View Post
Also if you do wind up going out with him, please keep a number of a backup vet...just incase things don't work out (well).

Remember this is Jordon's doctor.
This is exactly why I'm so leary of it. When Jordan was only supposed to live a few months it was one thing. There are 5 vets in the practice and there is one other one that I really like, but it would still be going to the same practice. We have had several differnt small talk discussions since this all started last May. Sometimes I think he's intrested and other times I think he's just being nice to the overweight, crazy cat lady. Well, I'm going to think about everyone's advice and decide what to do next.
post #37 of 42
I like the "sending gift" idea for two reasons:
First, you will get noticed. If other women around him are flirting with him at his job, the fact that you thought about making him a gift and sending it to him will have more effect than asking him for a cup of coffee right away. Everyone likes to receive gifts and being flattered. He will find that you are a kind person and that's good.

Second, you can write him something with the gift and it is often easier than telling something in person. You will be less shy to make him understand that you are interested this way. Don't be too obvious, just thank him for being so good to your cat and tell him some compliments. You might say that you think that he seems like a really good person and wish more people were like him. You can even write that you would like to get the chance to know him better as a friend (you don't want to scare him away by telling him you'd like to go out with him in a letter).

When you will see him next time, he will remember your gift and letter. Talk friendly with him (a little about you, question him and look interested in what he has to say), make him laugh and laugh at what he says when it's funny. Everyone likes being around someone that likes to laugh and listen well. When you leave, tell him you had fun with him and wish you could see each other more often (you can make a joke and say how you wish your cats would be sick a little more often!). He might ask you out then. If not, try to get his email and start from there.

Good luck! And as it was already said in the thread, no matter what you say or do, make sure you're being yourself. Your flirty-and-not-shy yourself, but still yourself!
post #38 of 42
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Originally Posted by calico2222 View Post
Oh, there you go...be positive

Seriously though...don't you think Jordon's claws need clipped soon, or needs groomed...or something?????
Sorry Just looking out for Jordon's best interest!

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Originally Posted by theimp98 View Post
that me, i never noticed someone liked me, until they told me, or smacked me over the head
Yea I discovered that most guys are like that...you need to tell them rather than hint anything. I think thats why B and I have worked for so long.


Sooooo...ummm...next vet appointment bring a club, smack the vet over the head and drag him out on a date just kidding...
post #39 of 42
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Originally Posted by lunasmom View Post
Sooooo...ummm...next vet appointment bring a club, smack the vet over the head and drag him out on a date just kidding...


i just got this pic in my head of big hairy women dragging a skinny nerd type guy out a door by his foot.
post #40 of 42



Does the vet office sell cat food/treats/toys? You could hang round there and ask the vet's opinion of food/toys etc which could easily lead to a long conversation
post #41 of 42
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Originally Posted by theimp98 View Post


i just got this pic in my head of big hairy women dragging a skinny nerd type guy out a door by his foot.

You have no idea how close to accurate that description is. I'm not hairy but I'm a BBW. he's tall and thin. And to be honest a little on the nerdy side, but he has a great smile.
post #42 of 42
I am def. not the best person to advise, but I can so relate to several things you said, I had to post.

I quit dating for almost 10 years before I met my husband to be. When I met him, (I was 39) it was because I was open to trying to flirt again/date again. Here is one difference - we met online, so I didn't have the whole "what's his body language saying, is he interested"..I had to go by tone of emails. I became interested simply because we had some email conversations..I was myself, my wry sense of humor...and when I became interested and so unsure of whether or not he was interested (we met on a cat forum, so it wasn't exactly a dating site where you knew the other person was looking!), that I took a leap of faith and sent a present (we lived cross country)...that present (toys for his cats, my great aunt's homemade raspberry preserves, my homemade chocolate macadamia nut cookies) really caught his attention.

It sounds like he has a special touch with Jordan, I'd def. mention that, and how important it is for an owner, to have a vet with that quality, caring for your cat...maybe discuss the cat-human bond, find out if he has pets..just begin talking to him in a way that gets what is obviously one shared interest you both have - a relationship with pets.

Fwiw, I was no skinny minny and my dh to be was younger than I...a fair bit. I DO believe if it's meant to be (and one is open to it happening), it will be.

I would find out, if possible, if he's single or not (though you could work into any conversation re pets and their important part in our lives, that living alone, the companionship and unconditional affection is an important aspect of your having Jordan etc., and see what he says, maybe also mentioning that you are hopeful your next date won't end up a pile of bones courtesy of Jordan...make some joke letting him know you are open to dating??).

Like I said, I may not at all be the one to advise, but did want to share a bit of my story where it seemed similar.
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