I need help with how to let a man know your intrested in him.

Originally Posted by CarolPetunia

Y'know, after I posted that, I realized... I've lived like a nun for 20 years! I'm the LAST person you should take this kind of advice from!

Ignore me.

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You'd be surprised though...many people that are good at flirting, don't even realize they're a flirt. I was one!

Originally Posted by StarryEyedTiGeR

Our vet is a hottie too

He's nice eye candy to look at

Makes trips to the vet's office more exciting

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I wish our is 70

Awww, best of luck to you!

I won't give you any advice because I am an unstoppable moron when it comes to guys.

Originally Posted by mbjerkness

I wish our is 70

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You like older men?? sorry couldn't resist...I read it wrong the first time.

I'm not in a relationship, nor have I been in one....but I have been around guys and they just want you to be yourself. I'm just like you so you are not alone.

Writing a note or sending a card is probably one of the least obvious ways of flirting. I would try that after you find out his status first.

Originally Posted by Rang_27

You know your right. He doesn't ware a ring so I just assume he's single. He could have a s.o. of some sort. This is just so confusing.

It took all my guts just to ask about his last name. I could never ask him out, I'm just too chicken for that. Unless Jordan gets sick again it's going to be about 4-5 months before I see him again.

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then how is he supposed to know ? Just ask what is the worse that can happen? he says he has gf, or married, or he is gay., or just no thanks.

you will never know until you ask.

Originally Posted by theimp98

then how is he supposed to know ? Just ask what is the worse that can happen? he says he has gf, or married, or he is gay., or just no thanks.

you will never know until you ask.

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Very true!

I know. It's nerve-wracking. The more attracted I am, the more shy and tongue-tied I get with guys. Good thing Doug asked me out or I might still be unattached!! (my current and long-time squeeze).

That said, you have gotten a lot of good advice. The most important things to me is to be yourself and don't be so fearful of rejection. She who hesitates..... etc, etc..... No risk, no gain...

Now if he were YOUR doctor, first - it would be easier to make an excuse to see him, but I think if I were to ask out my physician, I would need to know for sure that he was unattached and interested. And then I would want a referral out of that medical practice.

Also if you do wind up going out with him, please keep a number of a backup vet...just incase things don't work out (well).

Remember this is Jordon's doctor.

Originally Posted by lunasmom

Also if you do wind up going out with him, please keep a number of a backup vet...just incase things don't work out (well).

Remember this is Jordon's doctor.

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Oh, there you go...be positive

Seriously though...don't you think Jordon's claws need clipped soon, or needs groomed...or something?????

Originally Posted by Duchess15

Very true!

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oh yea, and the whole give him your number thing.
Never works, Guys will do one of 2 things

1) toss it away
2) think ok yea, i will call her, and then forget about it.

Originally Posted by lunasmom

just because they stopped "hinting" and told the guy they liked him.

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that me, i never noticed someone liked me, until they told me, or smacked me over the head

as for flirting, hmm i dont know, i get accused of it all the time, But all i am doing is being me. not my fault.

Maybe this is a bit "high school," but ask one of the vet techs if he's single...but you might want to ask one that is definitely married, otherwise there's always the chance he's dating a co-worker and you don't want to step into a hornet's nest! lol

Then again, I guess I'm a flirt and don't know it. At least, that's what my husband says (but only with him).

Originally Posted by Rang_27

OK, maybe this is totally wrong, but I have a big crush on Jordan's vet. He has a last name that to me is very obviously Slovac. My mom is 100% slovac and so I just new it was a Slovac name. So when Jordan went in for his rabies booster I asked, "Is your last name Slovac?" I think it sort of shocked him. I couldn't tell if he was uncomfortable, or just truly supprised. You have no idea the amount of time it took me to get up the guts to ask him that much. I just don't know if that was obvious enough that he knows I'm intrested or not. I do not have the guts to ask him out, but I want him to know I'm intrested so that if he is he will ask me out. Now maybe because he's my cat's vet he wouldn't ask me out anyway. This is the first time in probably over 5 years I've been intrested enough in someone to try to flirt. So if anyone who actually knows anything about this stuff could help I would appreciate it.

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Be bold! My wife asked me to go to a movie with her. I was so shocked that a woman that I did not know would ask me out. I said no at first but I had her phone number and went out with here. And look what happened, we are happily married now.

I value the relationship I have with my vet as a vet too much to ever risk jeopardizing it by trying to have a romantic relationship with him. There are plenty of men to choose from, there aren't plenty of vets. Just something to think about. If you choose to pursue him, I wish you luck.

Originally Posted by lunasmom

Also if you do wind up going out with him, please keep a number of a backup vet...just incase things don't work out (well).

Remember this is Jordon's doctor.

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This is exactly why I'm so leary of it. When Jordan was only supposed to live a few months it was one thing. There are 5 vets in the practice and there is one other one that I really like, but it would still be going to the same practice. We have had several differnt small talk discussions since this all started last May. Sometimes I think he's intrested and other times I think he's just being nice to the overweight, crazy cat lady. Well, I'm going to think about everyone's advice and decide what to do next.

I like the "sending gift" idea for two reasons:
First, you will get noticed. If other women around him are flirting with him at his job, the fact that you thought about making him a gift and sending it to him will have more effect than asking him for a cup of coffee right away. Everyone likes to receive gifts and being flattered. He will find that you are a kind person and that's good.

Second, you can write him something with the gift and it is often easier than telling something in person. You will be less shy to make him understand that you are interested this way. Don't be too obvious, just thank him for being so good to your cat and tell him some compliments. You might say that you think that he seems like a really good person and wish more people were like him. You can even write that you would like to get the chance to know him better as a friend (you don't want to scare him away by telling him you'd like to go out with him in a letter).

When you will see him next time, he will remember your gift and letter. Talk friendly with him (a little about you, question him and look interested in what he has to say), make him laugh and laugh at what he says when it's funny. Everyone likes being around someone that likes to laugh and listen well. When you leave, tell him you had fun with him and wish you could see each other more often (you can make a joke and say how you wish your cats would be sick a little more often!). He might ask you out then. If not, try to get his email and start from there.

Good luck! And as it was already said in the thread, no matter what you say or do, make sure you're being yourself. Your flirty-and-not-shy yourself, but still yourself!

Originally Posted by calico2222

Oh, there you go...be positive

Seriously though...don't you think Jordon's claws need clipped soon, or needs groomed...or something?????

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Sorry Just looking out for Jordon's best interest!

Originally Posted by theimp98

that me, i never noticed someone liked me, until they told me, or smacked me over the head

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Yea I discovered that most guys are like that...you need to tell them rather than hint anything. I think thats why B and I have worked for so long.


Sooooo...ummm...next vet appointment bring a club, smack the vet over the head and drag him out on a date just kidding...

Originally Posted by lunasmom

Sooooo...ummm...next vet appointment bring a club, smack the vet over the head and drag him out on a date

just kidding...

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i just got this pic in my head of big hairy women dragging a skinny nerd type guy out a door by his foot.

Does the vet office sell cat food/treats/toys? You could hang round there and ask the vet's opinion of food/toys etc which could easily lead to a long conversation