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My name is Jane and I am a long-time cat lover.

My husband and I have two cats, a 1.5 year old girl Klo and a 10 month old boy Tux.

Klo was born on a farm and doesn't like to be approached, petted (unless on a chair) or picked up. She is very skiddish. She won't come near us often.

Klo had a sister that died suddenly, whom was very very social and nuzzled us all the time, often switching between my husband and me.

The boy, Tux, we picked up when he was just 8 weeks and doesn't seem to want to be picked up or held for long. He does meow incessantly until he is picked up for just a minute then he wants to leave. Tux has come to sit on either my husband or me on our laps for a petting and a nap every few days for a short while. He refused to see our company we had over tonight.

I'm looking for information on how to get our cats to nuzzle us and come by us more often. They retreat when they see us walking in their directions. As far as I know, they have never been hurt by a human, so I don't know what is wrong. What can I do to make them more social?
post #2 of 18
hey & welcome!

i think with your kitty's, is just show them lots of love & affection. make them happy, & am sure they'll do the same for you!
post #3 of 18
I know it is frustrating when a cat doesn't meet your cat needs. I have the same problem. Fang is my only lover cat, Pansy is ...well , just like his name, and Spike is very selective about when he will allow me to love him, and I think he resents Pansy.

that being said, Pansy is now around 2or three, and I have had hime as a foster since he was 8 weeks. He has come a long way. I can now pick him up, and scratch his back, and he will purr, instead of sturggling to get down, or running so I can't get him.

You have to reach a balance. They can't think you are going to pick them up everytime you approach. They have to trust you, so don't pick him up for months. You can howver, when he is sitting close, and is comfy, slide your hand under the belly, give a little lift, tell him how good he is.

I don't think Pansy will ev er be the lap cat that Fang is, but he trusts me now, and we are working it out.

Just use common sense, never force them, and if you pick him up briefly, let him go as soon as he wants, so he knows he is not trapped.
post #4 of 18
Hi Jane! Welcome to the Cat Site!

Hopefully you can find a way to get your cats to be more affectionate
Try letting them sniff your hand before you approach them for pettings...

Best Wishes! Enjoy the forums
post #5 of 18
Welcome to TCS!
post #6 of 18
Welcome to TCS. Just show them lots of love and attention and they will come around. Just don't rush them!
post #7 of 18
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Originally Posted by zubterfuge View Post
My name is Jane and I am a long-time cat lover.

My husband and I have two cats, a 1.5 year old girl Klo and a 10 month old boy Tux.

Klo was born on a farm and doesn't like to be approached, petted (unless on a chair) or picked up. She is very skiddish. She won't come near us often.

Klo had a sister that died suddenly, whom was very very social and nuzzled us all the time, often switching between my husband and me.

The boy, Tux, we picked up when he was just 8 weeks and doesn't seem to want to be picked up or held for long. He does meow incessantly until he is picked up for just a minute then he wants to leave. Tux has come to sit on either my husband or me on our laps for a petting and a nap every few days for a short while. He refused to see our company we had over tonight.

I'm looking for information on how to get our cats to nuzzle us and come by us more often. They retreat when they see us walking in their directions. As far as I know, they have never been hurt by a human, so I don't know what is wrong. What can I do to make them more social?
Do you play with them with cat toys (feather on a stick, laser, etc.?) When I got Alley she lived under the bed. When she finally came out she was like what you describe. I started playing with her and spending a lot of time playing with her and she finally came out of it. Now she follows me around like a kitten.

By the way, welcome to TCS where you can usually get answers to any questions about cats. We have a game that teaches you where to find this information called KatKwiz. Click on the here link below to learn details.
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Welcome to TCS!!

I am sorry your kitties dont like to nuzzle, it is very frustrating!

Maybe thru out time they will learn to nuzzle and want to be loved more.
post #9 of 18
Welcome to TCS! Jane
post #10 of 18
Hi there we're so happy to get the chance to welcome you and your furbabies to TCS. I'm sure you'll enjoy your stay with us - we're one great big family and you'll find loads of friends here. If I can help at all while you're finding your way around TCS just click on my username and send me a Personal Message - I'll do what I can to answer your questions
post #11 of 18
Welcome to TCS, Jane!!
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Hi and welcome to TCS! We are so glad you have joined us!

If I can help you with any questions you have about the site, please click on my username and send me a message.
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Hola y bienvenido a TCS, ...Catulina y Milky te saludan!!!........
(Translate: Hi and Welcome to TCS, Catulina and Milky say hello to you!!!...)

See you on the forums!
post #15 of 18
Hi Jane, welcome to TCS!
So glad you've joined our wonderful community of cat lovers.
I truly hope you enjoy your time here with us!


post #16 of 18
Hello Jane & welcome to tcs. Give them time & patience. Neither of my cats like being on my lap, only held while standing up. Blossom does sleep on my bed & likes being petted.
post #17 of 18
Welcome to TCS
post #18 of 18
Welcome to TCS, Jane, Klo and Tux!
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