Is it rude?

Yeah, our kids would rather pick out their own stuff. We don't like to do it, but sometimes when it comes to clothes, its better to give money and let them pick it out then to pick something wrong. Parents just don't know how to buy the right stuff for teens

I agree with everyone else, it is not rude and I think your daughter will like it 10,000 times more than getting the wrong thing! You'll both sleep better after that decision.

You just watch the smile on her face if you give her the money, she'll need surgery to remove it

17? Rude? Hardly! It will be her favorite birthday present I'm sure! Fashion is hard to keep up with anymore, and it does matter a lot in high school! Either take her shopping or give her the money! Either way she'll get what she wants, the fit she wants, and have a blast doing it!

Teenagers love money, its not rude at all.

I wish my family would give me giftcards. 90% of the time they completely guess on what I want (from my interests when I was a child) and I'm like....uh...thanks?

I love getting money. This way I can get what I want. I hate when people give me gifts and I don't like it. It makes me feel guilty. I say give her money, money, money!

I don't think it's rude. Besides, teens love to go shopping, probably for the thrill of being able to buy things with your own money and getting what you really like.

I agree with everyone else: I don't think it's rude, either - especially when it comes to a teenager. My son was always happy when he rec'd money at that age..

~KK~

Ehhh...I give my sister a gift card just because at 38 she's still difficult

Maybe take her out for a day at the spa or something (manicure/pedicure) and make it a mother/daughter day. Then you are still giving her a gift, but don't have to worry about her not wearing it.

I have a 17 year old niece. I stopped buying her clothing, jewelry, etc. along time ago. I know that takes the surprise out of it for the receiver, but she is much happier making her own choices.

Originally Posted by lunasmom

Ehhh...I give my sister a gift card just because at 38 she's still difficult

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Haha... you have one of those, too, huh?

I like the idea of taking her out to shop -- you could give her a certificate for a "Mom & Daughter Shopping Extravaganza" complete with lunch at her favorite place, maybe a manicure... just a big day of fun together. That way it's not just money, y'know?

Or maybe you could take her to GlamourShots. If I were a cute 17-year-old, I'd LOVE that!

My Daughter is very happy to have the money, she also got money from her Aunt . On Saturday we are going shopping, . Thanks everybody,

Nothing rude about giving money at all. My sons love nothing more then getting cash for birthdays and Xmas so they can buy what they want.