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International Friendship Week...a card for you all!

post #1 of 27
Thread Starter 
It is International Friendship week (Feb 16-24)! I just wanted to send this to everyone in appreciation to what everyone on here has done for me and my beloved fur family. This is the best site I've ever stumbled across and I feel very lucky to have gotten to know each & everyone of you! I have made many friends on this site (not one single foe!) and hope you all know how much you mean to me.
Your Friendship Card!
post #2 of 27
Shell - in the times I have read your posts, I can see that you are a very sweet girl, and I am glad that i have gotten to know you, and that poem was great!
post #3 of 27
Thread Starter 
Thanks means a lot to me! I often wonder how people "take me" from my I being naive? Am I being stupid? Does the real me come through my posts? I like to think that I am nice and sweet person (I'm sure some people might argue that!LOL!), but it's nice to hear that from someone else. I don't want anyone to think that I posted this to toot my own horn or anything...I did it because I concider everyone on here a friend and wanted to thank each one for being there when I needed them.
Kelley...You too are one of the nicest people I've come across. You always have a kind word to say!
post #4 of 27
Michelle I thought that was beautiful!!! Thank you so much for the card - for me at least it's spot on. Not that I'm much of a standard I was told three times today that I'm too naive and trusting by the director of the Cat Welfare Society where I volunteer... I told her that I'd rather be somewhat naive and trusting, even if it means getting hurt sometimes, then turn into a suspicious pessimist.

I loved the poem - thanks again! Oh, and I totally agree about Keylley too
post #5 of 27
Shell, that card was lovely. Thank you! I feel the same way about this site, and about you, Kellye and Anne (and everyone else here!).
post #6 of 27
You really got down to the heart of it, Shell.

The "Bette Davis eyes" made me giggle
post #7 of 27
Thread Starter 
Thanks guys! When I found this card it just seemed fit perfectly for everyone on here.

Anne, I agree with 100% about being naive and trusting. I would hate to live my life being a suspicious pessimist. It's just a part of my nature to trust everyone and there are times where I do get hurt, but I try to learn from those mistakes & go on. What other choice do we have..except for being cold hearted and that is just not me.

Heidi, You were one of the very first people that welcomed me to the boards and you've always got a positive word to say. You're a real Sweetie!

Willie, I really haven't had a chance to get to know you but I do hope that we can get to know each other more. From what I've read from your posts, you've got a great sense of humor! Gotta have some humor in life, right?
post #8 of 27
Michelle, that was very nice. It's thanks to people like you that this place is such a friendly place.

We like you just the way you are.....don't change a thing
post #9 of 27
I'm glad you think so Shell! That reminds me... recently I took a personality test at (The Jung typology's free!) and it said that I'm a do-gooder, but cynical. I told my Psychology teacher (she gave us the site as an extra credit thing) and she said that that type of cynicism comes out as humor. So it's my habit to use levity to deal with any situation.

You're such a sweet, friendly person, I would love to see what it says about you!

Now everybody go get tested and report back! (Hmmm... that didn't sound right..)
post #10 of 27
here is my result:

You are:
* moderately expressed introvert
* slightly expressed intuitive personality
* slightly expressed thinking personality
* slightly expressed judging personality
post #11 of 27
Thread Starter 
Here are my results:
-slightly expressed extrovert

-slightly expressed intuitive personality

-moderately expressed feeling personality

-very expressed judging personality
I didn't realize how judging I am! Maybe I do judge things, but usually I keep them to myself. I thought for sure I'd be "very expressed feeling"! I cracked up at the question about soap operas! I get into mine bigtime! Same with movies, sitcoms and those sappy commericals! I cry at those Hallmark commericals...they always "touch" me! Call me sappy but that's just me!
Lola..thanks for quiz! Quite interesting!
post #12 of 27
Ok, you then click on the link explaining what that means, and summarize it for us, because I have no idea what personality type that boils down to!

I was an INFJ... which meant nothing to me until I read the little article about

It compared me to Ghandi! Of course, that just made me wonder if there isn't a bug in their system...
post #13 of 27
Thread Starter 
You are a sweetie too! Thanks for the kind words!
post #14 of 27
Guys, if you take the test and come back to tell us, please take the link telling you what that means first (it says " D. Kersey" and another analysis by another psychologist)!

Taken separately, they mean one thing, but in each combination, there are very different personality types. One difference can make two personalities very different! And I am not a Myers-Briggs expert, I have no idea what ENFP as a whole personality is! (That's you Shell) So Kiwi, Shell, do it again, please (because you are two of the people I'm most curious about!)
post #15 of 27
Thread Starter 
This what I got (BTW, it says I'm a ENFJ instead of ENFP):
The Idealists called Teachers are abstract in their thought and speech, cooperative in their style of achieving goals, and directive and extraverted in their interpersonal relations. Learning in the young has to be beckoned forth, teased out from its hiding place, or, as suggested by the word "education," it has to be "educed." by an individual with educative capabilities. Such a one is the eNFj, thus rightly called the educative mentor or Teacher for short. The Teacher is especially capable of educing or calling forth those inner potentials each learner possesses. Even as children the Teachers may attract a gathering of other children ready to follow their lead in play or work. And they lead without seeming to do so.

Teachers expect the very best of those around them, and this expectation, usually expressed as enthusiastic encouragement, motivates action in others and the desire to live up to their expectations. Teachers have the charming characteristic of taking for granted that their expectations will be met, their implicit commands obeyed, never doubting that people will want to do what they suggest. And, more often than not, people do, because this type has extraordinary charisma.

The Teachers are found in no more than 2 or 3 percent of the population. They like to have things settled and arranged. They prefer to plan both work and social engagements ahead of time and tend to be absolutely reliable in honoring these commitments. At the same time, Teachers are very much at home in complex situations which require the juggling of much data with little pre-planning. An experienced Teacher group leader can dream up, effortlessly, and almost endlessly, activities for groups to engage in, and stimulating roles for members of the group to play. In some Teachers, inspired by the responsiveness of their students or followers, this can amount to genius which other types find hard to emulate. Such ability to preside without planning reminds us somewhat of an Provider, but the latter acts more as a master of ceremonies than as a leader of groups. Providers are natural hosts and hostesses, making sure that each guest is well looked after at social gatherings, or that the right things are expressed on traditional occasions, such as weddings, funerals, graduations, and the like. In much the same way, Teachers value harmonious human relations about all else, can handle people with charm and concern, and are usually popular wherever they are. But Teachers are not so much social as educational leaders, interested primarily in the personal growth and development of others, and less in attending to their social needs.

ENFJs are the benevolent 'pedagogues' of humanity. They have tremendous charisma by which many are drawn into their nurturant tutelage and/or grand schemes. Many ENFJs have tremendous power to manipulate others with their phenomenal interpersonal skills and unique salesmanship. But it's usually not meant as manipulation -- ENFJs generally believe in their dreams, and see themselves as helpers and enablers, which they usually are.

ENFJs are global learners. They see the big picture. The ENFJs focus is expansive. Some can juggle an amazing number of responsibilities or projects simultaneously. Many ENFJs have tremendous entrepreneurial ability.

ENFJs are, by definition, Js, with whom we associate organization and decisiveness. But they don't resemble the SJs or even the NTJs in organization of the environment nor occasional recalcitrance. ENFJs are organized in the arena of interpersonal affairs. Their offices may or may not be cluttered, but their conclusions (reached through feelings) about people and motives are drawn much more quickly and are more resilient than those of their NFP counterparts.

ENFJs know and appreciate people. Like most NFs, (and Feelers in general), they are apt to neglect themselves and their own needs for the needs of others. They have thinner psychological boundaries than most, and are at risk for being hurt or even abused by less sensitive people. ENFJs often take on more of the burdens of others than they can bear.

TRADEMARK: "The first shall be last"
This refers to the open-door policy of ENFJs. One ENFJ colleague always welcomes me into his office regardless of his own circumstances. If another person comes to the door, he allows them to interrupt our conversation with their need. While discussing that need, the phone rings and he stops to answer it. Others drop in with a 'quick question.' I finally get up, go to my office and use the call waiting feature on the telephone. When he hangs up, I have his undivided attention!

Functional Analysis
Extraverted Feeling rules the ENFJ's psyche. In the sway of this rational function, these folks are predisposed to closure in matters pertaining to people, and especially on behalf of their beloved. As extraverts, their contacts are wide ranging. Face-to-face relationships are intense, personable and warm, though they may be so infrequently achieved that intimate friendships are rare.
Like their INFJ cousins, ENFJs are blessed through introverted intuition with clarity of perception in the inner, unconscious world. Dominant Feeling prefers to find the silver lining in even the most beggarly perceptions of those in their expanding circle of friends and, of course, in themselves. In less balanced individuals, such mitigation of the unseemly eventually undermines the ENFJ's integrity and frequently their good name. In healthier individuals, deft use of this awareness of the inner needs and desires of others enables this astute type to win friends, influence people, and avoid compromising entanglements.

The dynamic nature of their intuition moves ENFJs from one project to another with the assurance that the next one will be perfect, or much more nearly so than the last. ENFJs are continually looking for newer and better solutions to benefit their extensive family, staff, or organization.

Sensing is extraverted. ENFJs can manage details, particularly those necessary to implement the prevailing vision. These data have, however, a magical flexible quality. Something to be bought can be had for a song; the same something is invaluable when it's time to sell. (We are not certain, but we suspect that such is the influence of the primary function.) This wavering of sensory perception is made possible by the weaker and less mature status with which the tertiary is endowed.

Introverted Thinking is least apparent and most enigmatic in this type. In fact, it often appears only when summoned by Feeling. At times only in jest, but in earnest if need be, Thinking entertains as logical only those conclusions which support Feeling's values. Other scenarios can be shown invalid or at best significantly inferior. Such "Thinking in the service of Feeling" has the appearance of logic, but somehow it never quite adds up.

Introverted Thinking is frequently the focus of the spiritual quest of ENFJs. David's lengthiest psalm, 119, pays it homage. "Law," "precept," "commandment," "statute:" these essences of inner thinking are the mysteries of Deity for which this great Feeler's soul searched.

So Lola...what does all this mumbo jumbo mean?
post #16 of 27
Oh, gads... I need way more time to break that down. Basically, though, you like to lead people into the light, so to speak. You're a charasmatic person that people will follow, but if you manipulate their actions, you do it in what you think are their best interests.

Sound good?
post #17 of 27
I read more about mine and it says that I am a rational, what do you think that means willie?

Of the four aspects of strategic analysis and definition it is the contingency planning or entailment organizing role that reaches the highest development in Masterminds. Entailing or contingency planning is not an informative activity, rather it is a directive one in which the planner tells others what to do and in what order to do it. As the organizing capabilities the Masterminds increase so does their inclination to take charge of whatever is going on.

It is in their abilities that Masterminds differ from the other Rationals, while in most of their attitudes they are just like the others. However there is one attitude that sets them apart from other Rationals: they tend to be much more self-confident than the rest, having, for obscure reasons, developed a very strong will. They are rather rare, comprising no more than, say, one percent of the population. Being very judicious, decisions come naturally to them; indeed, they can hardly rest until they have things settled, decided, and set. They are the people who are able to formulate coherent and comprehensive contingency plans, hence contingency organizers or "entailers."

Masterminds will adopt ideas only if they are useful, which is to say if they work efficiently toward accomplishing the Mastermind's well-defined goals. Natural leaders, Masterminds are not at all eager to take command of projects or groups, preferring to stay in the background until others demonstrate their inability to lead. Once in charge, however, Masterminds are the supreme pragmatists, seeing reality as a crucible for refining their strategies for goal-directed action. In a sense, Masterminds approach reality as they would a giant chess board, always seeking strategies that have a high payoff, and always devising contingency plans in case of error or adversity. To the Mastermind, organizational structure and operational procedures are never arbitrary, never set in concrete, but are quite malleable and can be changed, improved, streamlined. In their drive for efficient action, Masterminds are the most open-minded of all the types. No idea is too far-fetched to be entertained-if it is useful. Masterminds are natural brainstormers, always open to new concepts and, in fact, aggressively seeking them. They are also alert to the consequences of applying new ideas or positions. Theories which cannot be made to work are quickly discarded by the Masterminds. On the other hand, Masterminds can be quite ruthless in implementing effective ideas, seldom counting personal cost in terms of time and energy.

The famous people who are like me:

Dan Aykroyd, actor (The Blues Brothers)
Susan B. Anthony, suffragist
Arthur Ashe, tennis champion
Augustus Caesar (Gaius Julius Caesar Octavianus), Emperor of Rome
Jane Austen, author (Pride and Prejudice)
William J. Bennett, "drug czar"
William F. Buckley, Jr., conservative political advocate
Raymond Burr, actor (Perry Mason, Ironsides)
Chevy Chase (Cornelius Crane), actor (Fletch)
Phil Donahue, television talk show host
Michael Dukakis, governor of Mass., 1988 U.S. Dem. pres. candidate
Greg Gumbel, television sportscaster
Hannibal, Carthaginian military leader
Veronica Hamel, actress (Hill Street Blues)
Orel Leonard Hershiser, IV, major league baseball pitcher
Peter Jennings, television newscaster
Charles Everett Koop, former U.S. surgeon general
Ivan Lendl, tennis champion
C. S. Lewis, author (The Chronicles of Narnia)
Joan Lunden, television talk show host
Edwin Moses, U.S. olympian (hurdles)
Martina Navratilova, tennis champion
Charles Rangel, U. S. Representative, D-N.Y.
Pernell Roberts, actor (Bonanza)
Maria Owens Shriver, television newscaster
Josephine Tey (Elizabeth Mackintosh), mystery writer (Brat Farrar)

Introverted iNtuition
INTJs are idea people. Anything is possible; everything is negotiable. Whatever the outer circumstances, INTJs are ever perceiving inner pattern-forms and using real-world materials to operationalize them. Others may see what is and wonder why; INTJs see what might be and say "Why not?!" Paradoxes, antinomies, and other contradictory phenomena aptly express these intuitors' amusement at those whom they feel may be taking a particular view of reality too seriously. INTJs enjoy developing unique solutions to complex problems.

Extraverted Thinking
Thinking in this auxiliary role is a workhorse. Closure is the payoff for efforts expended. Evaluation begs diagnosis; product drives process. As they come to light, Thinking tends, protects, affirms and directs iNtuition's offspring, fully equipping them for fulfilling and useful lives. A faithful pedagogue, Thinking argues not so much on its own behalf, but in defense of its charges. And through this process these impressionable ideas take on the likeness of their master.

Introverted Feeling
Feeling has a modest inner room, two doors down from the Most Imminent iNtuition. It doesn't get out much, but lends its influence on behalf of causes which are Good and Worthy and Humane. We may catch a glimpse of it in the unspoken attitude of good will, or the gracious smile or nod. Some question the existence of Feeling in this type, yet its unseen balance to Thinking is a cardinal dimension in the full measure of the INTJ's soul.

Extraverted Sensing
Sensing serves with a good will, or not at all. As other inferior functions, it has only a rudimentary awareness of context, amount or degree. Thus INTJs sweat the details or, at times, omit them. "I've made up my mind, don't confuse me with the facts" could well have been said by an INTJ on a mission. Sensing's extraverted attitude is evident in this type's bent to savor sensations rather than to merely categorize them. Indiscretions of indulgence are likely an expression of the unconscious vengeance of the inferior.

post #18 of 27
OMG!! Kellye, you and I are the same thing - an INTJ! Funny, they say it's only like 1% of the population, but yet here we are. LOL

Maybe because I was an English major, I thought their list of fictional characters who were the same type was very interesting:


Cassius (Julius Caesar)
Mr. Darcy (Pride and Prejudice)
Gandalf the Grey (J. R. R. Tolkein's Middle Earth books)
Hannibal Lecter (Silence of the Lambs)
Professor Moriarty, Sherlock Holmes' nemesis
Ensign Ro (Star Trek--the Next Generation)
Rosencrantz and Guildenstern (Hamlet)
George Smiley, John le Carre's master spy
Clarice Starling (Silence of the Lambs)
post #19 of 27
Gandalf....we are like Gandalf? Thats interesting! Did you see which presidents we are like? LOL
post #20 of 27
Aack! Logical people! Yikes!

I wish I had the kind of personality that doesn't rest until my problems are solved... I generally just ignore them in the hopes that they'll go away, and not deal with them until the last minute. I'll have to do that test again and post my description...
post #21 of 27
that makes sense because i cannot sleep til a problem is sorted out.
post #22 of 27
Your Type is
Introverted 11 Intuitive 11 Feeling 33 Judging 44

You are:
slightly expressed introvert
slightly expressed intuitive personality
moderately expressed feeling personality
moderately expressed judging personality

Portrait of the Counselor (iNFj)
Copyrighted © 1996-2002 Prometheus Nemesis Book Company.

The Counselor Idealists are abstract thought and speech, cooperative in reaching their goals, and directive and introverted in their interpersonal roles. Counselors focus on human potentials, think in terms of ethical values, and come easily to decisions. The small number of this type (little more than 2 percent) is regrettable, since Counselors have an unusually strong desire to contribute to the welfare of others and genuinely enjoy helping their companions. Although Counsleors tend to be private, sensitive people, and are not generally visible leaders, they nevertheless work quite intensely with those close to them, quietly exerting their influence behind the scenes with their families, friends, and colleagues. This type has great depth of personality; they are themselves complicated, and can understand and deal with complex issues and people.

Counselors can be hard to get to know. They have an unusually rich inner life, but they are reserved and tend not to share their reactions except with those they trust. With their loved ones, certainly, Counselors are not reluctant to express their feelings, their face lighting up with the positive emotions, but darkening like a thunderhead with the negative. Indeed, because of their strong ability to take into themselves the feelings of others, Counselors can be hurt rather easily by those around them, which, perhaps, is one reason why they tend to be private people, mutely withdrawing from human contact. At the same time, friends who have known an Counselor for years may find sides emerging which come as a surprise. Not that they are inconsistent; Counselors value their integrity a great deal, but they have intricately woven, mysterious personalities which sometimes puzzle even them.

Counselors have strong empathic abilities and can become aware of another's emotions or intentions -- good or evil -- even before that person is conscious of them. This "mind-reading" can take the form of feeling the hidden distress or illnesses of others to an extent which is difficult for other types to comprehend. Even Counselors can seldom tell how they came to penetrate others' feelings so keenly. Furthermore, the Counselor is most likely of all the types to demonstrate an ability to understand psychic phenomena and to have visions of human events, past, present, or future. What is known as ESP may well be exceptional intuitive ability-in both its forms, projection and introjection. Such supernormal intuition is found frequently in the Counselor, and can extend to people, things, and often events, taking the form of visions, episodes of foreknowledge, premonitions, auditory and visual images of things to come, as well as uncanny communications with certain individuals at a distance.
post #23 of 27
Interesting Tamme. I can see a lot of that in you.

I wish I had the kind of personality that doesn't rest until my problems are solved...
No you don't!! It makes for many sleepless nights. LOL I've been known to figure out the bills and the money in my head as I'm laying in bed. It gets annoying when you have to be somewhere in the morning!

Kellye, I thought it was interesting that we are like both Hannibal Lecter and Clarice Starling.
post #24 of 27
being like hannibal lecter - thats scary, but i wouldnt mind being starling. i agree, if nothing is solved the night before, i cannot sleep. it drives hubby mad when i turn on the light and tell him whatever needs to be said and hes already fallen asleep.
post #25 of 27
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Very cool! It fits me to a T! I am definitely a teacher (that was what I first wanted to be when I grew up...unfortunately I guess I nver grew up cuz I'm not a teacher!LOL!). I am always teaching some one at work new trick or something new that I learned. I'm the one that my boss picks to teach everyone a new task and etc. When I think about it I do "manipulate" people into doing things...but in a good way. Its hard to explain...
Thanks Lola for the great quiz!
Heidi and Kellye...I can relate to not being able to sleep with out figuring out the problem. Usually I'm not to bad about it, but sometimes it's over the stupidest things. For example, 2 weeks ago I started do crossword puzzles (I never thought I was smart enough for them...but it's the fact that I always thought "too hard" on the questions!). In the past 2 weeks, I've dreamed of crossword puzzles three times. Mainly because I get stumped on a question and dwell on it forever...then I go to bed and dwell on it more! That just drives me crazy!!LOL!
post #26 of 27
Shell - I love crossword puzzles - i cannot rest until I have finished the one I am doing!
post #27 of 27
Another ENFJ Michelle
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