In a Pickle

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Hey hon! How'd your day go? Was it any better?

If they didn't inform you of the labor intensive side, I would inform your boss that had you known you would not have taken the position because of your back issues.
 

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I hope things went better for you today.

I can relate to the not fitting in. I still feel that way to some extent in my job after almost 15 years there. Fortunately, I fit in enough, and just don't care enough, that I can manage.

But if it's a case of doing your back further harm, you need to address that because it's more than just not fitting in.

I hope you can come to a decision that will give you peace. There are more jobs out there; surely there is something that will be a good fit for you.
 
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Originally Posted by KittKatt

Kluchetta makes a good point (regarding the anxiety, that is). When I was still working at the aforementioned previous job, I not only was suffering due to the pain & stress of the job, but also suffering emotionally & mentally due to an abusive ex-boyfriend. There were several occasions where I broke down crying at work, b/c I had way too much stress to handle at one time: the combination of the job from you-know-where and what the ex was putting me through was more than I could bear, and I lost my composure several times - and that's just not like me.
I've always been able to handle just about anything that was thrown at me - but I couldn't back then, b/c I had too much on my plate to digest...


I'm not saying that you're in the same boat, b/c I don't know. But anything is possible: maybe you also have too much on your plate right now too, and it's adding to your anxiety..
Anything is possible..


I hope your day at work today was better than yesterday.
Let us know how it went.


~KK~
There has been a lot on my plate. Isses with a few members of my family that have had me worried. Anxiety is no stranger to me, but I've learned to manage it. This was different. Maybe a new form or something but I don't think so. It was just wrong is all I can say.
Originally Posted by Misty8723

I hope things went better for you today.

I can relate to the not fitting in. I still feel that way to some extent in my job after almost 15 years there. Fortunately, I fit in enough, and just don't care enough, that I can manage.

But if it's a case of doing your back further harm, you need to address that because it's more than just not fitting in.

I hope you can come to a decision that will give you peace. There are more jobs out there; surely there is something that will be a good fit for you.
I really wish it felt manageable. Usually I can overcome anything whether it's not fitting in or anxiety or just anything. I've come a long way in life and come through a lot. But this was different.

This morning I was still undecided and still didn't have any peace either way. So I just kept getting ready. Half way there I felt peace just drop on me. Peace that something meant for me is coming and it's ok. So I called DH and asked him to be 100% honest with me (not that he isn't) and he said it was fine and to do it. So I pulled into McDonalds and called. It went fine and I felt such relief. It was indescribable how odd the feeling of peace hit me. I mean sure I'm not so happy to be back at square 1, but I do feel peace.

So after that I called my Mother and my 2 good friends and let them know. Then I drove to walmart and called my MIL from their parking lot. They all know me well; and all thought I'd made a good decision. They know it's not like me to be that way over something and if it did have me that way; it wasn't right. So I grocery shopped, came home and took a nap (I was just emotionally exhausted) and I feel good now. Course we just got back from dinner so I'm PUIing a bit atm. But I felt good before dinner. (We had a gift card I put to good use!)

So that's that. I know not everyone may agree with my decision. But I feel I made the right one for me.
 

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Leighann, you are a smart and reasonable person, and your judgement is sound. If it was a bad situation, no need dragging it out.

 

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We all have to do what we feel is right for us.
If you felt that strongly about it being wrong for you, you probably did what was best.
I learned a long time ago to listen to my instincts, and "gut feeling". When I didn't listen, I usually ended up doing the wrong thing. Those instincts are there for a reason..


I'm glad to hear that you're at peace again..


~KK~
 

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I'm glad to hear you are feeling better and are at peace with your decision. You are the only one who can decide what's right/good for you. Keep in mind that there is surely something out there for you. I hope you find something real soon that's perfect for you.
 

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*hugs*

Glad you are feeling better now. Your story really touched my heart and I can totally sympathize as I have panic attack problems. what you described sounded like a royal one and those can make you physically sick.

I hope you are able to find a job that "fits" you real soon.
 

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I'm sorry that you've had to go through so much stress over the past days...but you trusted your instincts and did what was right for you
 

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Originally Posted by MoochNNoodles

So that's that. I know not everyone may agree with my decision. But I feel I made the right one for me.
You should always do what your gut instinct tells you to do, so I think you absolutely did the right thing.

that you will find the perfect job soon.
 

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I think you did the right thing. I know very well what it means to have a job that generates that kind of anxiety -- actually a panic attack, I suspect -- and it's just not worth what it can very, very quickly do to your mental and physical health.

I hope you can find a job with a little slower pace, where you won't be thrown in headfirst like you were this time. Wherever you go next, try not to let the place press you too hard. No matter how demanding or chaotic the environment may be, just operate at your own best pace -- don't let it push you over into panic.

Good luck!
 

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Originally Posted by MoochNNoodles

So that's that. I know not everyone may agree with my decision. But I feel I made the right one for me.
That's all that matters
 
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