Originally Posted by AnneRiceBowl
And some grumpy and/or mopey folks don't know how to make the best out of any situation. Even though I have no job, almost no money, my almost ex-husband flew with his wench to spend the holidays with her and her family, my SO is thousands of miles away, the legal system isn't working fast enough for me, this was my first Christmas without a very dear family member because she passed on last month, I wasn't able to see ANY of my family except my daughter, and I had to rescue my friend from her abusive ex-husband on Christmas day, I had a great day! I was able to wake up (at 4:30AM) and see my daughter's smile when she saw she had gotten her first bike, and I was able to see her open her gifts. The morning, afternoon, and evening were wonderful! The late morning was horrible, but I knew that as long as I didn't dwell on it or anything else that was going on around me, I could have a great day.
Well, I don't think of myself as grumpy/mopey. I always try to make the best of any situation. I was't saying that Christmas was ruined for me--just sad at times, because of my family situation.
I suppose you think that I shouldn't have been sad the 1st Christmas after my Dad died (he died 2 months before)? Even though we had a rocky relationship (he was cruel and abusive), it still hurt. Or, 3 years ago, when my family dumped me on Christmas Eve? Was I supposed to do handstands, and turn cartwheels in the driveway of my brother's house afterward, instead of spending two days of my so-called vacation, crying, because I had to face the fact that most of my family hate me, and I had to "divorce" them (including my Mother)?
We are allowed to feel SOME pain, I think. That doesn't make us "grumpy/mopey". And I AM grateful (and literally) thank God nearly every day for what I DO have in my life.
I'm glad you had a nice Christmas, despite what happened in your situation.