TheCatSite.com › Forums › General Forums › The Cat Lounge › Um, no offense but...
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

Um, no offense but...

post #1 of 23
Thread Starter 
...it's kind of getting tiring hearing people complain about how they hate the holidays. I usually put up with it but now it's just getting to me. I AM having a good Christmas with relatives. I'm testing out the "new" (it was bought used) computer and surfing TCS but it's like everyone it's complaining. Okay, not everyone is. But it's sort of putting me down, you know? I know I can just turn my head and not look but... yeah.
post #2 of 23
Don't let it get you down. Not having a good Christmas doesn't mean we don't want YOU not to have a good one.
post #3 of 23
Merry Christmas, darn it all!
post #4 of 23
I'm glad someone is having a good Christmas!

I don't "hate the holidays", but I do hate the family situation that makes mine rather depressing.

I think many of us who are complaining feel the same way, and many of us (me included) did take the time to wish everyone a Merry Christmas earlier.

Some people are lucky to have a good stretch of luck right now; others aren't so lucky. This forum exists so ALL of us can chat about things, good and bad, in our lives.
post #5 of 23
I had a good Christmas too but there bumps in the road. I was down because my daddy isn't here and last week my maw maw was in the hospital and we didn't know if we would be able to see her on Christmas but by the grace God we did. I know that it is hard to look at but I try to keep positive and give positive vibes to everyone who feels down.
post #6 of 23
We all have our reasons for loving or hating it, & each must endure the other. Unless we could escape to our own private island each year around this time, we have no choice. Be like the christmas haters here & be glad it's almost over & we can go on with our lives & not have to hear about it again for awhile!
post #7 of 23
I'm glad you're having a great Christmas!

The holidays can be a really emotional time for people - and when it's not so great, I think there's more of a need to share and look for support. It's also hard when it's supposed to be fun and great - and it's not. Families can be SO stressful!

But it's really nice to hear about people having a good time - just as I want to reach out and hug those for whom it's not as nice.

Laurie
post #8 of 23
I had a good Christmas, worked on my car, gave Holden his presents and had a good dinner!
post #9 of 23
This has probably been the best Christmas in several years for me. The last few years I have been depressed at Christmas time. When you hit rock bottom, all you can do is look up. We have a new apartment which we adore, new beds which we love and I have a good job.

The house we lost in the foreclosure was depressing. There was so much that needed repairs and no money to fix it. It was dark and dismal. The only thing that was good about it was the kitties. Even though we could not take them with us when we moved. , we are happier here. They were adopted out too!
post #10 of 23
Quote:
Originally Posted by Moz View Post
...it's kind of getting tiring hearing people complain about how they hate the holidays. I usually put up with it but now it's just getting to me. I AM having a good Christmas with relatives. I'm testing out the "new" (it was bought used) computer and surfing TCS but it's like everyone it's complaining. Okay, not everyone is. But it's sort of putting me down, you know? I know I can just turn my head and not look but... yeah.
Life has ups and downs...everyone is not going to have a good Christmas, but if you are, great! Enjoy it and count your blessings, and you're right, you don't have to read the threads that bring you down. But if someone is not having the best of days, isn't it wonderful that they can come here for some companionship and sympathy? That is one thing that this community excels at!
post #11 of 23
Quote:
Originally Posted by clixpix View Post
That is one thing that this community excels at!

You got that right!!

I'm glad you're having a good Christmas - and I don't think everyone hates the holidays... I think the reason that you only see the bad things is because those of us who are having a great time, have better things to be doing than sitting in front of a computer!! This is just the time when those of us with a bad holiday would like some comfort - and this is definitely the place to come to So don't let it get you down.... just give a little support and a kind word and things will turn around. Failing that, just don't read the posts, you numpty!!
post #12 of 23
And some grumpy and/or mopey folks don't know how to make the best out of any situation. Even though I have no job, almost no money, my almost ex-husband flew with his wench to spend the holidays with her and her family, my SO is thousands of miles away, the legal system isn't working fast enough for me, this was my first Christmas without a very dear family member because she passed on last month, I wasn't able to see ANY of my family except my daughter, and I had to rescue my friend from her abusive ex-husband on Christmas day, I had a great day! I was able to wake up (at 4:30AM) and see my daughter's smile when she saw she had gotten her first bike, and I was able to see her open her gifts. The morning, afternoon, and evening were wonderful! The late morning was horrible, but I knew that as long as I didn't dwell on it or anything else that was going on around me, I could have a great day.
post #13 of 23
Quote:
Originally Posted by AnneRiceBowl View Post
And some grumpy and/or mopey folks don't know how to make the best out of any situation. Even though I have no job, almost no money, my almost ex-husband flew with his wench to spend the holidays with her and her family, my SO is thousands of miles away, the legal system isn't working fast enough for me, this was my first Christmas without a very dear family member because she passed on last month, I wasn't able to see ANY of my family except my daughter, and I had to rescue my friend from her abusive ex-husband on Christmas day, I had a great day! I was able to wake up (at 4:30AM) and see my daughter's smile when she saw she had gotten her first bike, and I was able to see her open her gifts. The morning, afternoon, and evening were wonderful! The late morning was horrible, but I knew that as long as I didn't dwell on it or anything else that was going on around me, I could have a great day.

Well, I don't think of myself as grumpy/mopey. I always try to make the best of any situation. I was't saying that Christmas was ruined for me--just sad at times, because of my family situation.

I suppose you think that I shouldn't have been sad the 1st Christmas after my Dad died (he died 2 months before)? Even though we had a rocky relationship (he was cruel and abusive), it still hurt. Or, 3 years ago, when my family dumped me on Christmas Eve? Was I supposed to do handstands, and turn cartwheels in the driveway of my brother's house afterward, instead of spending two days of my so-called vacation, crying, because I had to face the fact that most of my family hate me, and I had to "divorce" them (including my Mother)?

We are allowed to feel SOME pain, I think. That doesn't make us "grumpy/mopey". And I AM grateful (and literally) thank God nearly every day for what I DO have in my life.

I'm glad you had a nice Christmas, despite what happened in your situation.
post #14 of 23
If headstands and cartwheels would have made you feel better, then yeah, you were supposed to.

There are 3 days out of the year that I absolutely REFUSE to dwell on all the negativity in my life: my birthday, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. The other 362 days (363 days in the Leap Year) can be spent dealing however they need to be spent. But those are MY 3 days!

Everyone has their own way(s) of dealing with things. Lots of anger management, watching "The Secret", counselors, my new SO (who is an interfaith 'minister' and motivational speaker), and getting a divorce has showed me a new and better way to deal with life. I also made the decision to stop allowing others control my emotions.

I live by the phrase: "Always look on the bright side of life."
post #15 of 23
I think that most people have high expectations for Christmas, and when those expectations are not met, it hits harder than most other days of the year. I struggled with high expectations for years and once I decided to look upon the day as just another day, my stress left me.
post #16 of 23
It would be just as easy for someone in despair to post a thread about how sick they are of hearing how wonderful some people's holidays are.

Motivational speeches are great (when they don't start with an insult), they can remind us that there are also positive things to look at, but sometimes all somebody needs is a and to have somebody listen and validate them. Not everybody gets the warm fuzzies at this time of the year.

For those of you who have had and are having a wonderful holiday and for you and for those of you who aren't .
post #17 of 23
Christmas is very hard for some people, depending on what they are going through. I know the Christmas after my dad died (in 2002), I tried to ignore the holiday but it was hard. I was living overseas and couldn't be with my mom (I already flew home for the funeral and couldn't afford it again..he died Nov 3), my bf left me when I got back from the funeral, and I had no power because of a typhoon that came through 3 weeks before. That was the worst Christmas ever, and I wish I had someplace to go to vent and get hugs.

I can completely understand why people post to get support if they are having a bad day. We do it all the time.

I'm glad you had a good Christmas, and many to everyone that didn't. We're all family. We have to take the good with the bad.
post #18 of 23
My Christmas had ups & downs, but overall was good. This may sound stupid or like a bumper sticker phrase, but I'm going to tell you what I told my Mother. Do not give your power to have a good Christmas away to someone else. You control your life and if your having a good Christmas that's awsome!!! Everyone should be as blessed as you are.
post #19 of 23
Quote:
Originally Posted by Moz View Post
...it's kind of getting tiring hearing people complain about how they hate the holidays. I usually put up with it but now it's just getting to me. I AM having a good Christmas with relatives. I'm testing out the "new" (it was bought used) computer and surfing TCS but it's like everyone it's complaining. Okay, not everyone is. But it's sort of putting me down, you know? I know I can just turn my head and not look but... yeah.
When things on TCS or any website start getting me down I either start filtering or back off for a few days. Many times over the years, I've stuck to one or two forums (like the health and care and grooming forums) for months at a time because I was letting things get to me. And that's the ticket right there! No one can bring you down. Rather, you can only LET them bring you down.
post #20 of 23
Quote:
Originally Posted by Moz View Post
...it's kind of getting tiring hearing people complain about how they hate the holidays. I usually put up with it but now it's just getting to me. I AM having a good Christmas with relatives. I'm testing out the "new" (it was bought used) computer and surfing TCS but it's like everyone it's complaining. Okay, not everyone is. But it's sort of putting me down, you know? I know I can just turn my head and not look but... yeah.
I would say that instead of someone else's sadness or unhappy Christmas getting you down, why don't you just thank your many stars that you are happy and having a great Christmas. You should feel truly blessed.

It is hard for a person to see everyone else having a Happy Holiday, while they're not having a Holiday at all, especially when Christmas time is their favourite time of the year. So, yeah..they're sad, and they need someone to talk to Instead of getting upset because they're sharing their unhappiness, why not spread a little of your Christmas cheer to them. Maybe just a little understanding would be all they would need to make their sad Holiday just a little bit brighter. Just give a little "Love". It costs you nothing, and it can make that other person feel so much better. I have never understood why people who have everything going their way, have so little compassion for those less fortunate. It's like, "I'm happy! I've got the world at my fingertips! I simply don't WANT to be bothered with anyone elses sadness".
post #21 of 23
Like a large percentage of the world, I don't celebrate Christmas. I'm glad you're having a good time. I do get a bit sick of people banging on about it, anyone would think that celebrating it and having a good time was mandatory or something. I can't wait until normality returns.
post #22 of 23
Quote:
Originally Posted by AnneRiceBowl View Post
And some grumpy and/or mopey folks don't know how to make the best out of any situation.
I guess in the future we can look forward to only happy posts and threads from you then?

I would have to say that some of the people who posted in this thread have had a legitimately bad Christmas. A little compassion never hurts.
post #23 of 23
Quote:
Originally Posted by Epona View Post
Like a large percentage of the world,
hmm, i would not go that far, every part i have been in does. maybe not the huge commerical version that has taken over the west. Even the muslim and Buddhist countries i was did.

Look at it like this Moz people are just venting about it,that is normal.
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: The Cat Lounge
TheCatSite.com › Forums › General Forums › The Cat Lounge › Um, no offense but...