Sorry to vent peeps.
B and I had an issue where we wanted to go back to Michigan for Christmas. His family is on one side of the state, mine is on another. At first we were going to be spending 2 days with my family and 1 day with his. He wasn't thrilled with this since it had been August since he last saw his family before moving here.
So we both decided to leave early on Christmas Eve, and spend the rest of the time with his family.
Suddenly my family (not all, but the vocal ones) are up in arms about it and turning everything into dramatics. Now it's the to the point that my brother, who normally has Christmas Eve doesn't want to throw it this year because he feels that we're asking him to accommodate us.
When I told everyone this I was simply saying that we were going to leave early on the eve, to spend time with his family as well. I emphasize "..to be fair.." when I told them all. My intent wasn't "we'll only be there for an hour"...we've always been invited over earlier, so I was merely voicing that we were going to take advantage of that.
IMO it's just stupid petty crap: take advantage of the time you do have with us and get over the fact that I'm now "shared".
Moral of the story is: if you have family coming in from out of town, be thankful that they decided to make the trip and don't be petty about it. No matter what you celebrate this month, the holidays are not about being a hog. They're about spending time with who you know, who you love, and who you care about, even if they can't spend the entire day with you.
B and I had an issue where we wanted to go back to Michigan for Christmas. His family is on one side of the state, mine is on another. At first we were going to be spending 2 days with my family and 1 day with his. He wasn't thrilled with this since it had been August since he last saw his family before moving here.
So we both decided to leave early on Christmas Eve, and spend the rest of the time with his family.
Suddenly my family (not all, but the vocal ones) are up in arms about it and turning everything into dramatics. Now it's the to the point that my brother, who normally has Christmas Eve doesn't want to throw it this year because he feels that we're asking him to accommodate us.
When I told everyone this I was simply saying that we were going to leave early on the eve, to spend time with his family as well. I emphasize "..to be fair.." when I told them all. My intent wasn't "we'll only be there for an hour"...we've always been invited over earlier, so I was merely voicing that we were going to take advantage of that.
IMO it's just stupid petty crap: take advantage of the time you do have with us and get over the fact that I'm now "shared".
Moral of the story is: if you have family coming in from out of town, be thankful that they decided to make the trip and don't be petty about it. No matter what you celebrate this month, the holidays are not about being a hog. They're about spending time with who you know, who you love, and who you care about, even if they can't spend the entire day with you.