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post #1 of 17
Thread Starter 
For those of you who are married or have a significant other, how does your family like/react to him or her?

Such as if your family doesn't like your DH/SO (or your DH/SO doesn't like your family), how are your holidays? Do you just spend them separately or have one side suck it up for the day just for you?
post #2 of 17
My family are far away so I don't spend time with them for Christmas, but in general during the year I send him by himself if they want to have a dinner etc. For Christmas I make an exception and try to be nice.
post #3 of 17
I am very lucky, everyone loves everyone in my family when it comes to my significant other. Gets along really well. It makes the holidays a joy and very comfortable for everyone.
post #4 of 17
My family likes DH. When we're with my Dad's family, the men who are quiet (DH and my Grandpa mainly, but my Uncle if he comes too) sit in the living room watching TV. The Ladies chat around the kitchen table and the talkative men (my Dad and Cousin's boyfriend) float between the two rooms. With that bunch it's generally animated conversations!

At my Mom's house it's pretty much the same. DH and my step-dad watch movies and fall asleep in the family room. My Mom and I watch the food network or hgtv in the living room. Although Thanksgiving day my step-dad stayed in the living room chatting with my friend and I. My friend often spends holidays with my family, even if she goes between her father's house and my parents.

At DH's Mom's house everyone pretty much hangs together if it's cold. If not then my FIL and BIL tend to go outdoors with the kids.

With DH's Dad, our get togethers are either at DH's Grandmother's apartment or we meet at a restaurant.
post #5 of 17
Neil always says he's my parent's favorite SIL-of course he is currently the only SIL!!!
Both my parents loke him lots-when mom and dad come for visit mom usually makes from special dessert for him. Dad helps him out with making firewood and talks his ears off!!
post #6 of 17
I live in Florida, my Mom lives in california & has never met Mike..but I think she would like him because he is a good hardworking guy that takes care of me & treats me with respect. She didn't like my verbally abusive ex at all & is happy that I found a good guy.
post #7 of 17
My mom and SO don't get along as well as I'd like, but they can deal with each other. I think the tension goes away a little each time we go to their house to visit.

Although the tension here is worse. I'm at the point where I can't stand sitting and talking with his parents anymore, and don't even want to spend Xmas here this year (but I justify that thought by 1. I have to live with them every day of the year, and I only see my parents every so often - whenever we make the 3 hour drive to NC; 2. they didn't even ask our opinion on Xmas dinner, just TOLD us that we were having what his brother wanted, even though neither of us like it :shrug: )

My dad loves Rob and always bothers us to come up because he enjoys spending time with him. Now if my mom & Rob can get back to the point where they like each other as much as they did when we got together, things there would be great (long crazy story on how they had some issues in 2006 thanks to my grandma and mom fighting). And when I get the heck out of here, things hopefully will be better with the future in-laws too!
post #8 of 17
My family loves DH. He just gets tired of the childhood stories that we repeat year after year. My MIL likes me but we rarely have anything to talk about. She can get on my nerves too.
post #9 of 17
Thread Starter 
Hmmm...thanks for sharing everyone

I have to admit I'm very jealous of those whose families do not have any issues with your families and vice versa.

The situation between my family and B is just getting to the point that MTV might as well have him and them in a house together as roommates My family isn't verbal about it, but after last Christmas and some rumors I had to clear up its just awkward.

My big fear is that its going to get to the point that a) we spend little time with my family or b) we spend holidays separated.
post #10 of 17
My mom likes my DH (not the first one I had) and DH's family likes me.

We moved about 100 miles from his family (mine is in Maryland) and so we don't really get together like before. We plan on having our kids (the 2 that live in MN) at our house just before Christmas and his mom and some other close friends for Christmas dinner.

On Christmas day, our one son wants us to come to his house so we can make omelets (tradition); so we will go there for a few hours and then come back home.
post #11 of 17
My parents like Tristan, i LOVE his parents. Our parents have never met. My father says we aren't married, so what's the point. Apparently it doesn't matter that it is important to me. But i now don't really want to inflict my father upon Tristans parents, they are too nice.



I spend time between here at home, and at Tristans house so everyone can exchange presents and we have our lunches and dinners etc.
post #12 of 17
When I was married, my family really liked my ex, still does to a certain extent, he's not a bad guy, just....not for me his family, at least his mother, did not like me all that much, but the feeling was mutual we always spilt the holidays, Christams Eve was with my family then Christmas day started with mine, then went to his, then back to mine good thing out parents lived 5 minutes apart. Can't say that I miss all that running around
post #13 of 17
Everyone who's in my family who have met my s/o thinks he's the greatest thing since sliced bread! Especially after my last b/f, who was an abusive manipulating jerk! My son told me if I ever broke up w/ him, he'd disown me..

We haven't spent any holidays together, b/c my Mom is in Arizona, and the rest of my family is back home in Wisconsin. THAT sucks!

~KK~
post #14 of 17
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Originally Posted by Tara & Rob View Post

Although the tension here is worse. I'm at the point where I can't stand sitting and talking with his parents anymore, and don't even want to spend Xmas here this year (but I justify that thought by 1. I have to live with them every day of the year, and I only see my parents every so often - whenever we make the 3 hour drive to NC; 2. they didn't even ask our opinion on Xmas dinner, just TOLD us that we were having what his brother wanted, even
It's the same here. I didn't get asked what I wanted to do for Christmas. Of course though, I am spending it with my mom and sister because this is our first year without my dad and they need me there.

My mom really likes my boyfriend. I like his parents, but I live with them so they do get on my nerves a lot...especially his dad who is unemployed and just sleeps all day.
post #15 of 17
My SO and my mum get on well, likewise with my dad and him. My sister however is different, she's just nasty. We tolerate each other, but we tend to leave early because she is so selfish and attention seeking. We will be going to my mum for Christmas dinner this year, and she isn't. She is going to her SO's mothers house. My Mum has come up with an arrangment where we will do gifts after dinner if she is still at their house when we get there because we have a bigger heap of gifts than her and her SO, even though they didn't cost more, she would still get funny about it.

Me and My partners mum however is a different story. She has never accepted me, so we stay away. She too is selfish and expect us to come to her for the gifts, when all we'd rather do is sit and watch our son play with his new toys. She doen't get that. She says that she never goes out on Christmas day and she doesn't intend to start now, even though she has no children under the age of 20 in her house. Sh expects us to stay for ages too, and we have to come at the time she says, even if we planned to have dinner or something at that time, we have to put it off for her.
post #16 of 17
Both my family and my SO's family treat all as family, I guess I am very lucky! Every time SO goes back home to visit, they always want me to come too. unfortunately we have so many animals that it is sometimes hard for both of us to get away.
post #17 of 17
Everyone likes my DH. And as far as I know, everyone in his family likes me lol...so it all works out well.
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