So, lately I've been going crazy. Today is 2 months from our wedding date. We've got invitations ordered and on their way (we are separating wedding and reception, as the place we are getting married at only allows 25 people to attend .. plus it is on a Tuesday, so many people won't be coming anyway - the reception will be on the following Saturday at the house).
Rob's mom had went out and bought wedding invitations that just need to be printed ... without asking me what I liked or wanted first (I had been looking online at different ideas already). Ok, trying to be helpful, whatever. I OK'd them to be the reception invitations, as I wanted the actual wedding ones to be something the two of us picked ourselves (I ordered them through a local invitation printing company). She said she has a friend who does invitation printing for the reception ones. Well we haven't heard one thing about them since that day about 2 months ago. The RSVP date for both wedding & reception is January 20, 2008, so that's not really much time!
She also had a friend who does dress sizing. I bought my dress from a friend at work, who has about 60lbs on me (her admittance to me. I would never have guessed it was that much!) I'm tiny all over, so it had to be sized. We brought the dress to this lady for an initial fitting on October 5th or so. She told me we probably will have to do two fittings to get it down to size. Okay, whatever, that's fine. I figured we would. I asked his mom a few times lately "um, how is my dress coming along?" And she would never answer me. So today I had Rob call her and ask her to talk to the lady tonight while they were bowling. She said "Well I already told you, she is working on it." 1. She never told Rob anything when he asked her, just like when I asked - I got no answer. 2. She's been working on the 'initial' fitting for 2 months now?! I only have 2 months left!! I don't want to be going to my wedding in underwear!
She also told me that if I am bridezilla (Rob jokes around and tells me I am, because it is cute when I "rarrr" at him), then she is mother-in-law-zilla and things go her way. I told her she could plan someone else's wedding because I won't be there. She doesn't want to listen to what I have to say or want to do. The things she suggests don't fit in with an outdoor February wedding, or aren't things Rob & I want to do. I'm not mean when I say we don't really want to do that - I just tell her the things we've decided on doing/having there.
For the reception, she keeps mentioning catering. Yeah, try to find someone to cater to all the wants of 2 totally different families that seem to enjoy totally different things. Plus, we are the ones paying for this, not our parents. I asked my mom if she would cook some of the stuff we like, and she said yes. His mom was like "You cant do that!! She is traveling!!" Traveling is a 3 hour car ride from Charlotte to Charleston. Plus, my mom already said she was fine with it. I even plan on cooking some stuff for my own reception! We also suggested grilling burgers and hot dogs, chicken, etc. It's going to be a bonfire reception - nothing extremely formal. We also are going to have s'mores and roasted marshmallows. She still seems to be against my non-catering idea though.
I just feel like nothing is going to be accomplished and our wedding will be a disaster
I'm only doing this once, especially since I hope I only ever will have to do this once! I want it to go smoothly and just how we want it. WE are the ones paying for it. It's been a pain butting heads about this too - but I feel as though if we are paying for it, and it is for us, we should be able to have what we want without someone telling us otherwise. Maybe I'm way off on that, but I've lost my mind. [And living with her & being in our business EVERYDAY for 2½ years does NOT help]
I'm actually to the point of wanting to cry, because I'm afraid everything is going to get messed up and the best day of my life won't be remembered as 100% perfect. I've even thought of just going to the courthouse and signing papers just to get rid of this giant pile of kitten poo. As long as I marry him I will be happy, yes. But if it's going to be an official ceremony and everything, I'd like to have it our way.
Rob's mom had went out and bought wedding invitations that just need to be printed ... without asking me what I liked or wanted first (I had been looking online at different ideas already). Ok, trying to be helpful, whatever. I OK'd them to be the reception invitations, as I wanted the actual wedding ones to be something the two of us picked ourselves (I ordered them through a local invitation printing company). She said she has a friend who does invitation printing for the reception ones. Well we haven't heard one thing about them since that day about 2 months ago. The RSVP date for both wedding & reception is January 20, 2008, so that's not really much time!
She also had a friend who does dress sizing. I bought my dress from a friend at work, who has about 60lbs on me (her admittance to me. I would never have guessed it was that much!) I'm tiny all over, so it had to be sized. We brought the dress to this lady for an initial fitting on October 5th or so. She told me we probably will have to do two fittings to get it down to size. Okay, whatever, that's fine. I figured we would. I asked his mom a few times lately "um, how is my dress coming along?" And she would never answer me. So today I had Rob call her and ask her to talk to the lady tonight while they were bowling. She said "Well I already told you, she is working on it." 1. She never told Rob anything when he asked her, just like when I asked - I got no answer. 2. She's been working on the 'initial' fitting for 2 months now?! I only have 2 months left!! I don't want to be going to my wedding in underwear!
She also told me that if I am bridezilla (Rob jokes around and tells me I am, because it is cute when I "rarrr" at him), then she is mother-in-law-zilla and things go her way. I told her she could plan someone else's wedding because I won't be there. She doesn't want to listen to what I have to say or want to do. The things she suggests don't fit in with an outdoor February wedding, or aren't things Rob & I want to do. I'm not mean when I say we don't really want to do that - I just tell her the things we've decided on doing/having there.
For the reception, she keeps mentioning catering. Yeah, try to find someone to cater to all the wants of 2 totally different families that seem to enjoy totally different things. Plus, we are the ones paying for this, not our parents. I asked my mom if she would cook some of the stuff we like, and she said yes. His mom was like "You cant do that!! She is traveling!!" Traveling is a 3 hour car ride from Charlotte to Charleston. Plus, my mom already said she was fine with it. I even plan on cooking some stuff for my own reception! We also suggested grilling burgers and hot dogs, chicken, etc. It's going to be a bonfire reception - nothing extremely formal. We also are going to have s'mores and roasted marshmallows. She still seems to be against my non-catering idea though.
I just feel like nothing is going to be accomplished and our wedding will be a disaster
I'm actually to the point of wanting to cry, because I'm afraid everything is going to get messed up and the best day of my life won't be remembered as 100% perfect. I've even thought of just going to the courthouse and signing papers just to get rid of this giant pile of kitten poo. As long as I marry him I will be happy, yes. But if it's going to be an official ceremony and everything, I'd like to have it our way.
