Hello all!
I haven't posted here in awhile I mostly lurk, because I don't know just been sorta low these days.
Here's the story, I have a boyfriend I have been with for almost 2 years(jan 3 is our two yr date.) For the past year things have been ok, except he doesn't have a full time job. I pay for electricity, gas, cell phone, and groceries he pays cable internet and his half of the rent.
Basically I have been supporting him for the past 10 months. I am sick of it I get no thank you, or a show of appreciation of paying for everything. He just seriously started looking for a job in July. He is 22 and doesn't have much on his resume, so needless to say he wasn't getting any calls. He finally get's a job at the beggining of october and they offered him more than the ad said. HE QUIT AFTER ONE DAY!!!!!!! He said he would have to quit his pt job and that is his only job reference. Plus he didn't like the full time job anyway. His pt job is extremely flexible if he only thought about it he could have worked a way around it.
So anyway ever since then I feel like he quit because he knew I was around to pay the bills. I feel used and taken a advantage of. We recently talked about all of this and he said sorry. I suggested counseling, or we take a break. He said no counseling. A few days later he could tell I was serious about taking a break so he said counseling.
Now I feel as though if I don't take a break from him I will regret it. There are other things too, he is very insecure. He is somewhat of a mama's boy. He get's jealous of my friends(I only have two and they are women!!!), and says rude comments about them. He has said some pretty nasty stuff to me when we argue. All he has said he is sorry for and had no idea he was hurting me. I believe he knew in someway because everytime he said something mean. I would cry. Plus I told him, he said he didn't think it was that serious. Also we never go anywhere, I want to go the movies once in a while. He never wants to go, and if blue moon comes by and we do go, I have to pay. "It's to expensive..!!" He always says.
I don't know what to do. I hate to do this right before the holidays, and our anniversary. I'm just very depressed lately, and not happy!
Any adivce please?
p.s. I have posted on here about him before, for those of you that remember me.
I haven't posted here in awhile I mostly lurk, because I don't know just been sorta low these days.
Here's the story, I have a boyfriend I have been with for almost 2 years(jan 3 is our two yr date.) For the past year things have been ok, except he doesn't have a full time job. I pay for electricity, gas, cell phone, and groceries he pays cable internet and his half of the rent.
Basically I have been supporting him for the past 10 months. I am sick of it I get no thank you, or a show of appreciation of paying for everything. He just seriously started looking for a job in July. He is 22 and doesn't have much on his resume, so needless to say he wasn't getting any calls. He finally get's a job at the beggining of october and they offered him more than the ad said. HE QUIT AFTER ONE DAY!!!!!!! He said he would have to quit his pt job and that is his only job reference. Plus he didn't like the full time job anyway. His pt job is extremely flexible if he only thought about it he could have worked a way around it.
So anyway ever since then I feel like he quit because he knew I was around to pay the bills. I feel used and taken a advantage of. We recently talked about all of this and he said sorry. I suggested counseling, or we take a break. He said no counseling. A few days later he could tell I was serious about taking a break so he said counseling.
Now I feel as though if I don't take a break from him I will regret it. There are other things too, he is very insecure. He is somewhat of a mama's boy. He get's jealous of my friends(I only have two and they are women!!!), and says rude comments about them. He has said some pretty nasty stuff to me when we argue. All he has said he is sorry for and had no idea he was hurting me. I believe he knew in someway because everytime he said something mean. I would cry. Plus I told him, he said he didn't think it was that serious. Also we never go anywhere, I want to go the movies once in a while. He never wants to go, and if blue moon comes by and we do go, I have to pay. "It's to expensive..!!" He always says.
I don't know what to do. I hate to do this right before the holidays, and our anniversary. I'm just very depressed lately, and not happy!
Any adivce please?
p.s. I have posted on here about him before, for those of you that remember me.