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post #1 of 19
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I was just introduced to this concept at work, and I'm a little shocked by it. A work husband/wife is someone that one works with, tells everything to, but doesn't have the physical spouse benefit at the end of the day. After work both sides of the couple go back to their homes and back to their regular married life.

How do you feel about this?


I think if my husband had a work wife I'd be hurt. Really hurt.
post #2 of 19
People like to talk to much & well, work is boring, and sometimes long. Mix the 2.
the real question is does the work husband/wife, even remember what was said.

We all know men eyes just kinda glaze over afer a few min of talking.

Hmm, the one operator is always telling me stories about his wife/kids/does, and well i cant even remember what any of there names are.
post #3 of 19
I don't understand why they would call each other work wife / husband. How about "friends"?
post #4 of 19
Everyone talks about their private lives with their coworkers. Nothing new there and whether or not that's OK could be debated. But making it an arrangement with another coworker and giving the arrangement a name that is a picture of something more intimate is going too far. I can see where the worker's spouse would be aggrieved by this, and it shouldn't be.
post #5 of 19
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We all know men eyes just kinda glaze over afer a few min of talking.
Funny Bruce

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I don't understand why they would call each other work wife / husband. How about "friends"?
Friends is what it should be called not work husband/wife. That is just ridiculous.
post #6 of 19
I might be kind of hurt if my husband stopped talking to me about things because of his friendship with someone else (man or woman). If our communication started dwindling, then, yes.

Otherwise, it seems kind of normal. People you work with are the only ones who really understand what you're talking about with project x or person y, and stories from work end up being half explaining things to people you don't work with sometimes.

Is this work husband/wife thing an affair of the heart, or just a close friendship?
post #7 of 19
When I heard this phrase, I had the impression it was just a psychological term for friends at work that are of the opposite sex.
post #8 of 19
The TV show King of Queens coined this term.

I've always just refered to my friends as friends, regardless of gender.
A spouse is (or should be) your best friend, and someone you tell things to that your friends at work should really not be privvy to.
post #9 of 19
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Everyone talks about their private lives with their coworkers. Nothing new there and whether or not that's OK could be debated.
Uhhh, no, not everyone talks about their private lives at work. There is only ONE person in my office who I talk to about my personal life and we are friends outside the office as well. Aside from her I try my best to keep my personal life just that... personal!
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The TV show King of Queens coined this term.

I've always just refered to my friends as friends, regardless of gender.
A spouse is (or should be) your best friend, and someone you tell things to that your friends at work should really not be privvy to.
Yes, I have friends that I talk to but my husband is at the TOP of my friends list.
post #10 of 19
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Friends is what it should be called not work husband/wife. That is just ridiculous.
I agree. If that's the case i've got 40 husbands where i work But seriously, i've got some close friends that i won't say some things to even
post #11 of 19
Oh dear. I always joke that I'm Dr. Z's Operating Room wife....Marie is his office wife (his office manager) and Theresa (his real wife) is his home wife. I just say we're his wives because we nag at him unmercifully.....poor guy!
post #12 of 19
It does make sense - there are two people at work that everyone thinks are getting it on, but they aren't - they are so close - you could call them work husband/wife.

My dad has a workwife at his work and he goes out for coffee with her once in a while and mum doesn't mind.

Me personally, I don't go for the idea.
post #13 of 19
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Originally Posted by lookingglass View Post
I was just introduced to this concept at work, and I'm a little shocked by it. A work husband/wife is someone that one works with, tells everything to, but doesn't have the physical spouse benefit at the end of the day. After work both sides of the couple go back to their homes and back to their regular married life.

How do you feel about this?


I think if my husband had a work wife I'd be hurt. Really hurt.
There is already a term for this: co-workers. I don't know as to why would you call two co-workers as work husband and wife. What would you call then two male co-workers who are friends, or two female co-workers who are friends?
post #14 of 19
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I don't understand why they would call each other work wife / husband. How about "friends"?


Unless they were actually participating in the "Acts" of husband/wife in the copy room or supply room, then they're just friends.

I think its a stupid term. Otherwise I've probably have been work divorced well over 30 times.
post #15 of 19
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I agree. If that's the case i've got 40 husbands where i work
you and Jim both. He has about that many wives
post #16 of 19
What a stupid idea. Why do we, as humans, feel the need to put a lable or title on everything??

My boss has regularly called me by his wife's name. As did my last boss. Doctors tend to have two or three women they spend almost all their time with. Their wives, and then their secretaries and maybe a particular nurse. We all laugh about it, and I've heard more than one doctor say that they have two `wives'.

But I certainly don't discuss really personal things with him - nor him with me. That is reserved for our spouses and friends. I agree with Jennifer - there is already a term. Co-workers. That sums it up just fine!
post #17 of 19
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I agree. If that's the case i've got 40 husbands where i work But seriously, i've got some close friends that i won't say some things to even
Lol! I think the terms friends would be better. Communicating with the people you work with, at work, seems normal.
post #18 of 19
Isn't that also called a friend?? My best friend from college was a guy. We went shopping together and was much more help then girl friends when it came to guy advise.
post #19 of 19
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Oh dear. I always joke that I'm Dr. Z's Operating Room wife....Marie is his office wife (his office manager) and Theresa (his real wife) is his home wife. I just say we're his wives because we nag at him unmercifully.....poor guy!
I have had a work husband for years. Its more than just telling secrets. Its making sure he eats right and he returns the favor. He lifts things for me. I help him with gifts for his wife (that woman has thanked me several times that I kept the electric mop out from under the tree!) He has revelled with me over promotions and new boyfriends and held my hand as I've waited for doctors phone calls. His wife knows me and is happy that we have found each other. She knows it will never go beyond a deep and sincere relationship, with no physical benefits. The relationship is more than friendship.

As I got older, I realized that my DH will never be EVERYTHING for me, just like I will never be everything for him. That places too much strain on the relationship. And friendships would never take the place of what we had. I lost him 2 1/2 yrs ago. Work husband helped me keep my sanity as I went to work every day DH was in the hospital.
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