I want to thank all who answered my question about a Bengal I adopted who would not allow herself to be touched. Uniformly, people told me to be patient. I was. Dakini is now about two and a half years old, and she adores me. She is still extremely fearful, but she follows me around the house and brings me her toys, begging me to play with her (I do!) Recently, she advanced from sniffing my hand when I hold it out to her (instead of running away): She now lets me pet her in the morning, when she's curled up in one of her two sleeping spots. At first, she trembled when I touched her, but hung in there, obviously wanting to please me. Now she's pretty nonchalant. If she doesn't "assume the position" for petting, it's a signal she's not up for it, but that happens less and less. She has also settled down significantly in her interaction with her two (neutered male) companions. There is a real joy in gaining the love of one who is so needy and confused.