Yes, and do yourself a favor- NEVER take a cheater back. Trust me on that one
I had my heart ripped out of my chest and trampled on more times than i care to share by my ex. I always kept going back to him....two years...then one day- i realized: I'm better than this. I don't deserve to be cheated on, and i do not deserve to share my man- as soon as i wisened up (and it took a while) i moved on and i am much happier!
(I read "don't date him girl" - haha that book was great! it was just what i needed to realize he didn't love me as much as he said because i knew he was still cheating).
I still love my ex...it's hard not too, there were many good things about him, and we had a lot of wonderful memories we shared. I still care about him and hope that he is doing well in his life and he is happy- however, i do not EVER want him back. I love him- there is always going to be a spot in my heart for him , however i am not "in love" with him. Now that i'm out of that "honeymoon" phase- i see just how bad he was to me- how many times he lied, the excuses, the other women i'm definite he cheated with, I didn't deserve to be treated that way. I do NOT miss him! I do not miss the heartache, i do not miss the pain he put me through, i do not miss the hurt, i do not miss any of the negative aspects from that relationship and how i was treated. It takes a while to get to that point- but it will happen
You really need to be gentle with yourself right now sweetheart- just take it easy.
I can't tell you how thankfully i am that i've moved on - had i stayed with my ex, i know i would have wound up married to an unfaithful husband who would have run around on my- it would have been much worse if we would have had kids and then wound up divorced or something else. I didn't think about those things when i kept running back to him....now that i've wisened up a bit- i am thankfull i didn't stay with him- i would have been in for a very long, miserable life
Looking back- i know i made the right decision by finally ending it.
Once I ended it with my ex, i wound up finding the man of my dreams a short while later. I couldn't ask for a better man.
He has never cheated on me, never made me feel like i didn't deserve his faithfullness, never betrayed me- i love him with every breath of my being for it too! I promise there are MANY good men out there- i found mine. And I couldn't be more thankful for him. We're getting married in March
Chin up hon- things will change for the better as soon as you make positive changes and stick to your guns about not settling for someone who cheats on you. You DESERVE a good man- you are worthy of someone who will love and respect you, and you should never settle for someone who is going to betray you like that- remember that!
(And no matter how tempting it may be - do NOT, i repeat, do NOT hook up with your ex after you've broken up- it will only drag out the heartache and you will have to "break up" with him all over again if you don't cut all the cords. I learned the hard way! Let it be final- it will be a lot easier on you that way)