Originally Posted by valanhb
My own personal theory is that it has to do with the lack of personal responsibility (the teacher failed me because I didn't study in the case of the Cleveland shooting), basic anger management (in the case of most all of them), and the inability to cope with failure, rejection, or just not getting what they want.
Yes, the bullies have gotten worse, but where is the punishment for doing that to someone else? Are we SO concerned with self-esteem that the bullies get away with it so we don't hurt their feelings? There needs to be some real discipline handed out, as well as anger management and allowing kids to fail at an early age so they can learn to deal with it when things don't go their way.
Weeks before the Columbine shootings, a boy at my school showed people a hit list of everyone he wanted to kill at our school. Most of our class, including me, was on it. I thought really hard about what I could have done to him. I wasn't that popular, I didn't tease him, I certainly hadn't done anything that deserved death. And, the kids on it took it seriously, we were scared; if you think of a stereotype of boys who flip out and start shooting their classmates, he fit it perfectly. A couple years later he started wearing the "Trenchcoat mafia" uniform.
What was his punishment? A 3-day in-school suspension. I always wonder what would have happened if that was a couple weeks later, after Columbine, if the principal would have basically done nothing then.