While I'm pretty sure that this is normal, I want to help as much as I can.
Whisper has always been somewhat possessive of me and Reagan. We are "his" girls. So it's understandable that he's having a hard time adjusting right now. Both of us are doing everything we can to be loving and understanding, even though he wants nothing to do with DH still.
All kitties have vanilla on them. Molly isn't too happy about it, though she allowed it to happen (this could mean a bath should be scheduled!). She's exhibiting a fear response to just about everything right now, and that, too, is normal. Again, we're doing everything we can to love her like crazy until she comes out of that shell.
Reagan's doing great. She's acting like her world hasn't changed in the *least*. She's a bit on the grumpy side, but everybody has their moods.
I had to "unconfine" Baloo tonight because he was getting miserable because he didn't know where DH was.
Not really a problem. He and Reagan are doing fine (except that she thinks he smells bad
), and he's leaving Molly alone (smart kitty!). He would have left Whisper alone, too, if Whisper wasn't being such a dumb-butt.
I admittedly have my favorite cat in this house -- and the one who's giving me the most problems *is* that favorite. I want him to be happy and know that he *can* be. He just needs to drop the attitude.
DH doesn't want to try Feliway. It's expensive, but that's not his primary concern -- he thinks it's going to make the house smell like cat urine
Whisper has a very deep, instinctive, built-in fear response. To this day we don't know where it came from, except that when we got him, the family said that the other kittens were fearful -- but Whisper wasn't. It's developed more and more over time.
I genuinely want to help. This is *his* problem, and it doesn't relate to any of the other cats. Neither DH nor I are tense during introductions, either. I'm completely at a loss though as to what we can do to make him feel more confident. Nobody is challenging his place in the household. Baloo seems content to either back off or share it, even, and for a big, older tom cat, that surprises me considerably.
Other than vanilla and Feliway, does anybody have any suggestions to calm him down? I'm *not* adverse to herbs (applied, not ingested) or Crystals if anybody has any suggestions along those lines. If medicine can't tackle it, I'm very prepared to go medieval
Whisper has always been somewhat possessive of me and Reagan. We are "his" girls. So it's understandable that he's having a hard time adjusting right now. Both of us are doing everything we can to be loving and understanding, even though he wants nothing to do with DH still.
All kitties have vanilla on them. Molly isn't too happy about it, though she allowed it to happen (this could mean a bath should be scheduled!). She's exhibiting a fear response to just about everything right now, and that, too, is normal. Again, we're doing everything we can to love her like crazy until she comes out of that shell.
Reagan's doing great. She's acting like her world hasn't changed in the *least*. She's a bit on the grumpy side, but everybody has their moods.
I had to "unconfine" Baloo tonight because he was getting miserable because he didn't know where DH was.
I admittedly have my favorite cat in this house -- and the one who's giving me the most problems *is* that favorite. I want him to be happy and know that he *can* be. He just needs to drop the attitude.
DH doesn't want to try Feliway. It's expensive, but that's not his primary concern -- he thinks it's going to make the house smell like cat urine
Whisper has a very deep, instinctive, built-in fear response. To this day we don't know where it came from, except that when we got him, the family said that the other kittens were fearful -- but Whisper wasn't. It's developed more and more over time.
I genuinely want to help. This is *his* problem, and it doesn't relate to any of the other cats. Neither DH nor I are tense during introductions, either. I'm completely at a loss though as to what we can do to make him feel more confident. Nobody is challenging his place in the household. Baloo seems content to either back off or share it, even, and for a big, older tom cat, that surprises me considerably.
Other than vanilla and Feliway, does anybody have any suggestions to calm him down? I'm *not* adverse to herbs (applied, not ingested) or Crystals if anybody has any suggestions along those lines. If medicine can't tackle it, I'm very prepared to go medieval