Aaaaahhhhhhh!!!!!!!!

i would simply tell her that YOU paid for it, and its YOUR car. If she needs to BORROW it, thats one thing, but she doesnt have a right to TAKE it.

Tell her that you need to get yours fixed, and that you would like her not to use it till you can get it fixed, so that it doesnt get broken futher. Maybe make a few calls, and see if you can get estimates on how much its going to cost her to get hers fixed, to show her you do care.

If she is jsut going to threaten to kick you guys out, then maybe you should be looking for a new place. i know you said you cant afford it, but if your both working ( you and the BF) you can prob afford something like a one bedroom or studio apt with utilitites included, jsut to get out of her hair, she dosent sound like she respects you much anyway.

Originally Posted by Liza24

i would simply tell her that YOU paid for it, and its YOUR car. If she needs to BORROW it, thats one thing, but she doesnt have a right to TAKE it.

Tell her that you need to get yours fixed, and that you would like her not to use it till you can get it fixed, so that it doesnt get broken futher. Maybe make a few calls, and see if you can get estimates on how much its going to cost her to get hers fixed, to show her you do care.

If she is jsut going to threaten to kick you guys out, then maybe you should be looking for a new place. i know you said you cant afford it, but if your both working ( you and the BF) you can prob afford something like a one bedroom or studio apt with utilitites included, jsut to get out of her hair, she dosent sound like she respects you much anyway.

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EXACTLY!
If she is going to be like that then it doesnt sound like a very healthy living situation.
And what is going to happen if she does break it? Tell you its your car it needs fixed? Then you will be even more in the hole! I would look around. Or maybe even try getting a loan for a repoed mobile home or something like that. Also do you have any close friends, or a couple you could maybe look into being roomates with? While it may not be the best living situation it would be easy on the wallet while you are still in school.
I know how you feel with feeling like you cant afford a home, I'm in the same spot!

Agree with the other two posters; you're in a sticky situation, but personally judging by friends who are in somewhat similar situations, I know that generally, if you give someone an inch they'll take the whole nine yards and get mad at you if you dare try to defend your rights. Better to right at the outset not let the keys get into her hands, but since they have, I guess it's time to have a non-threatening but just-the-facts-ma'am talk with her, like the other posters said, and if she threatens to kick you out, though it's much easier said than done, maybe the time is right for you to look for something somewhere else. I believe nothing happens by accident, and this may be your fate leading you away from that no-win situation into something where you do have some control over your own life and your own car. My best thoughts and prayers go out for you and may the future hold good things for you!

I believe if your mom pays room and board for both you and your boyfriend, she should get to use your car. In a perfect world, she would ask first and drive better, but you have to share your car if she's sharing her home.