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I have a 3-year-old cat called Buster (she was supposedly a boy when we first met and the name just stuck). She is timid to say the least, only goes outside if I go with her and runs to hide when people come to visit (although sometimes she surprises us and gets smoochy with a stranger). She is a totally loving and beautiful lap cat with plenty of character and I've been thinking for a long while that a companion cat may help her come out of her shell and be a little more active, as she's also a bit tubby, but on a top-quality "light" cat food. I finally decided to get her a little boy companion, Maestro, 10 days ago. We've been doing the separate rooms thing and they are now spending periods of time together each day under supervision, although Buster always hisses when Maestro gets too close. They are even eating in the same room, but I've noticed Buster becoming very reclusive. She retreats to the bedroom, to her basket on top of the wardrobe, and just sleeps and sleeps, and today she wasn't even interested in coming down for dinner. This is totally out of character for her, she normally comes running, and I'm sure she's feeling depressed. She won't come and relax on the couch with us if the kitten is remotely nearby, and tonight we found her sitting watching as he was eating her dinner!
I really want her to stick up for herself and I'm worried now that Meastro is going to trample her spirit and make her even more timid. Surely a 3-month old neutered male won't dominate her? I thought they were supposed to be the bottom of the social order in cats.
I know it's all supposed to take time but have I done the wrong thing by Buster? Above all I just want her to be happy and secure. Any advice would be very very welcome...thanks!
I have a 3-year-old cat called Buster (she was supposedly a boy when we first met and the name just stuck). She is timid to say the least, only goes outside if I go with her and runs to hide when people come to visit (although sometimes she surprises us and gets smoochy with a stranger). She is a totally loving and beautiful lap cat with plenty of character and I've been thinking for a long while that a companion cat may help her come out of her shell and be a little more active, as she's also a bit tubby, but on a top-quality "light" cat food. I finally decided to get her a little boy companion, Maestro, 10 days ago. We've been doing the separate rooms thing and they are now spending periods of time together each day under supervision, although Buster always hisses when Maestro gets too close. They are even eating in the same room, but I've noticed Buster becoming very reclusive. She retreats to the bedroom, to her basket on top of the wardrobe, and just sleeps and sleeps, and today she wasn't even interested in coming down for dinner. This is totally out of character for her, she normally comes running, and I'm sure she's feeling depressed. She won't come and relax on the couch with us if the kitten is remotely nearby, and tonight we found her sitting watching as he was eating her dinner!
I really want her to stick up for herself and I'm worried now that Meastro is going to trample her spirit and make her even more timid. Surely a 3-month old neutered male won't dominate her? I thought they were supposed to be the bottom of the social order in cats.
I know it's all supposed to take time but have I done the wrong thing by Buster? Above all I just want her to be happy and secure. Any advice would be very very welcome...thanks!