I just don't understand people

I have been on many internet forums and this always happens. You have to remember that whatever you post here will reach a huge spectrum of people. These people are from various walks of life, are struggling with their own life problems, and/or have very different views on many subjects.Basically, you are hitting a melting pot of culture. You find this forum a safe haven, as you should. But again you must remember your words are on the internet.

Having said this, you can make a choice:

1. Be reserved and only post what the majority want to hear.

OR

2. Post what your heart is telling you and not be phased how others will judge you because you are revealing the truth behind your soul.

I always vote for number two.

Be true to yourself and don't waste one second of your time worrying about someone who sends such a negative message.

You never know when someone else may have the same problem and are too shy to post it here. The advice you get may help someone else too. You go right ahead and vent your heart out. I'm behing you 100%!

Well said everyone!

Hissy, that was beautiful! Although personally, my house is not always clean at the end of the day! Especially when I leave hubby alone at home for a few hours with the boys. Yikes!!!!

Kass....I agree too. I chose #2 - although it may come back and bite me in the nose one day, I have a feeling I will still have plenty of support from those who care and that in itself is worth more to me than one person's unhappiness directed at me.

sockiesmom, I don't always reply to everyone's posts either or else it would become a full time job!!!

You know...I was drawn to TCS because I had a health issue with Whiskers. I received tons of advice and help. I stayed around because of all of the other non-pet related threads because, I don't have issues with my pet everyday. It's nice to have a place to come to and just talk about anything we feel like.

I agree with 2 also. I love coming here and check back several times thru out the day. I love to read all of the posts and have several times read one post to realize I too felt the sme way and the advice helped me also. Debby several of us here have childrena and have had to go thru some of the things you have gone thru lately. I actually like to offer any advice I may have that can be of help and if I have no advice just a note on how I am keeping anyone who nees it in my thoughts. I little note to say you are not alone. I hope that when it comes my time to vent you all will be here for me too.
I just hope that people will treat other people like they had to live next door to them instead of a facless being in the cyber world.
Denise

YAY everybody! Kass, Mary Anne, Ghyslaine, Jenn, Teresa, Jan - EVERYONE - you nailed it on the head.

Debby - you know what I think already! I've been lecturing you on not apologizing for venting, because we're your friends and we're here for you! PLEASE don't let those who aren't your friends here alter in any way your participation. This is YOUR space too, and no one is obligated to participate in any particular thread.

I'm willing to be that this is one of the toughest periods of your life, and AS YOUR FRIENDS, we want to be here for you - we don't want you to keep your worries and problems to yourself! So we get to air our problems and you don't? It doesn't work like that Debby. Life goes in cycles, and just like we want to be here for you now when you need us, you'll be here when we need you.

Remember when Leslie had a problem? We worked through that too, and she's back causing all her trouble (I'M KIDDING!) - and we're loving her for it. The pain of "rejection" or criticism is hurtful, no question. That you care so much about each and every person is part of your incredible warmth and charm. But you're too wonderful a woman to let one person's criticism affect your relationship with the rest of us!!!!

If you need to vent, woman, VENT. We WANT to be your shoulders when you need them!!!!!!!

Debby, I have not been here to long,and I do not care what other people say,you and a couple of other people have been Great! I do not think anyone vents too much! You have given me great information about some of my vents.And my cats.Keep on venting! And helping people.You are a Thanks Sherral

We have over 3,000 members. It would be a miracle if every one of them liked every other one. That's called paradise, and we won't find it on this earth. Nevertheless, if we care about others it hurts to find out that something we have done has bothered another person. Please remember the 2,999 who do love you.

I think friends should be there for your woes as well as the celebrations. Debby I may not know you very well, but I feel privileged to be part of your life - the good times and the bad.

I love this site because I know that every rant get serious condsideration and well meaning advice from everyone. I have received some serious support from everyone here. And I thank you all.

Carry on ranting!

Thank you!!!!!! I really needed this tonight!!!! I felt so horrible about this all day today and now I do feel a little better!!!! You all are such great friends!!!! THANK YOU!!!!

Someone asked me if the person said it to me directly, and the answer is no...it was told to me, but I know it is true because it makes sense with why this person has had nothing to do with me for months. I can't help wondering though if there is some other reason, but I will just take everyone's advice here and not concern myself with it.

Cindy, I got such a chuckle out of your comment about hoping their cat coughs up a hairball on their bed tonight! Thanks for making me smile!!!!

Hissy, what you said was beautiful and so very very true!!!

Thanks to all of you!!!!!!

Debby..... c'mon sweetie.... you know the universal code:



Don't let 'em bother you!

Sorry, Debby, I can't take credit, for the hairball line - it was KrazyKat. I would have opted for something nastier - like a disemboweled rat!

I'm just chiming in on what everyone else has said. Debby, you seem to be one of the kindest, sweetest people here or anywhere. As others have said, if that person doesn't want to hear venting, they can skip over the thread.

One of the great things about this place is we can vent and get comfort and advice. Don't let one negative person take that away from you.

OOPS!!! It was Krazykat that said that! I just got confused after reading so many posts!!! Thanks to all of you!!! Like I said, I feel better, but I still don't understand.

Debby,
I agree with everyone else....YOU ARE THE SWEETEST! Please don't change just because of this person...we all love you the way you are and if that person doesn't like it, then that's just too bad. If you need to vent...go right ahead! Most of us have vented from time to time and that is one great thing about this site...everyone cares for one another and we care what happens in our friends lives. Take care Sweetie and just remember that we all love you!

Thank you!!! And I do hope that she reads this thread, and realizes that I have never said anything bad about her and don't understand why she won't have anything to do with me and has said the things she did. I can only hope she reads this and realizes how I feel.

I just want to drop it now..it is over...I just had to say how I felt...guess I do that alot!

Gotcha! Subject dropped. On to brighter days ahead!

Thank you!!!! And I am going to try to be the bigger person here and still reply to this persons threads, but it will be hard, and some days I just may not have it in me. I hope that does not make me a bad person, but I have very limited internet time here as it is, and to take the time to reply to someone who has said she doesn't like me because I post about my problems here too much is just awfully hard.

I also want to apologize to new people here...I did not mean to air my dirty laundry here, so to speak, this is not what this site is about, and for the most part, we all love each other very much!!!!!!

Debby, I don't post a lot, for I am not a big talker by nature, but I'm in here every night and enjoy reading everyones post and posting when I feel I can help someone. However, when I feel the need to speak you can't hold me back.

What I like about this forum is the diversity of people, that it's a safe and friendly place to say how you feel, what is going on in your life, and if the need be vent. I have always enjoyed reading your posts. From what I know about you, you are very kind and loving person and sincerely care for others. To me these are very high qualities. Sometimes in our lifes things get rough and that's when you turn to friends.

So pay no attention to the unkind works of a few, but only to the kind words of many.

P.S.: VENT BABY VENT

Debby -- hey

i haven't been able to read through this thread, but i did read your initial post,
and i just wanted to say, i'm sorry this is happening for you (but) ---
all that matters is what you think of yourself, always remember that, and you are wonderful.

Debby, you are one of the nicest people I know and you always care so much about everyone else. I am glad you feel safe enough with us to share your life here and I for one appreciate your giving spirit!