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Am I the Only One??
- Thread starter kittkatt
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I Posted When I lost my JJ and before that I tryed to read the threads in over the rainbow myself but ended up the same as you I don't think there is anything selfish about not being able to read them you are trying to read peoples most horriffic moments if you did not react then there would be something wrong I agree with others that rainbow bridge is a good way to vent your feelings it helped with JJ theres no shame in being able to feel other peoples pain and theres no shame in not being able to read the threads because they hurt the people writting them feel like there dieing at the time of posting them its emoshans as raw as you can get there is no way to console some one in that situation its a double edged saword and you should not feel bad for not being able to cope with it your not alone thats for sure Hugs JJ & Sab's Mummy.
No, i can't handle it either, i always wind up crying. it reminds me that one day, Monster too will be gone. after reading those i always have to go find monster and kiss and hug him lol. sometimes i will post and offer condolences, but for the most part i dont, as said before i feel as though my words sound fake, the only things i can think to say is "sorry for your loss" or "he is at the bridge now".
I go there only infrequently. I wish I could do it more often, because I know how important it is to the grieving human, but I get in there and read and dissolve, and no words feel the least bit adequate. And it pretty much has to be the last thing I do before signing off at night, because I'm not good for anything once I'm done there.
You are definitely not alone.
I remind myself, though, that there are others who can do that -- not that they feel the pain any less, or shed fewer tears, but somehow they are able to keep functioning through it. That is their gift and skill -- I have others, and we can't all be good at everything, so I try not to beat myself too much.
I will continue going there when I feel I can for a while, or when I follow a link there, but I know it will be never be frequent or regular.
You are definitely not alone.
I remind myself, though, that there are others who can do that -- not that they feel the pain any less, or shed fewer tears, but somehow they are able to keep functioning through it. That is their gift and skill -- I have others, and we can't all be good at everything, so I try not to beat myself too much.
I will continue going there when I feel I can for a while, or when I follow a link there, but I know it will be never be frequent or regular.
It makes me sad to go there too.
I have been spending more time there recently though since I got support when a stray we were taking care of named Phoenix passed away. There are days when I just can't go in there though.
I'm another one that can't handle the Rainbow Bridge section. I've been in there maybe two or three times, and I have never made it through the original post. Maybe one day I will make through the OP and leave condolences, but then again, I usually feel fake and think my words are hollow when I have done so in the past.
I'm useless in that forum - I cry too hard to type. I'm not joking, either. Heck, THIS thread has me wet-eyed.
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I know what you mean. My s/o came home one night from work and found me bawling, and asked me what was wrong (he thought someone had died - which, in an indirect way, was true). I told him why I was crying, and he told me the same thing; "If it bothers you so much, don't read the threads." I tried explaining to him just why I visited the Rainbow forum, but he had a point: don't go there is it upsets you so much.
I feel better after writing things out, too: I suppose it's a form of releasing your grief. Just knowing that you can share your sorrows w/ others who understand is a great comfort. Maybe one of these days I'll be able to find the strength & courage to offer my support in a way that matters; a few kind words can mean a lot..
I'm glad I'm not the only one who's such a "wuss".
~KK~
I usually just tell the person that I'm sorry for their loss. It does seem inadequate when I type it. Nothing I can say will ease the person's pain but at least I can let them know that I understand their grief.
Every time I go there, it just reminds me of my own posts in there regarding Alley and I can't read anyone else's posts without crying.
However, I know how desperately lost and alone I felt at that time, and still do a lot of times and all the words of comfort meant so much to me. Its worse when you feel like you are the only one who noticed or cares that your beloved has crossed the bridge. I try to post in there as much as I can.
However, I know how desperately lost and alone I felt at that time, and still do a lot of times and all the words of comfort meant so much to me. Its worse when you feel like you are the only one who noticed or cares that your beloved has crossed the bridge. I try to post in there as much as I can.
Nobody are always ready to read something sad and don´t break it...
You do so well in try to help at the person who have a lost...
At least I Pray for my side to confort at the people!
