I suppose to each their own... I am really suprised by what I am reading here.
I was spanked when I was a child, hit, belted, spooned, back handed... you named it... I was probably hit with it or it thrown at me. & With me it stops.
Raising your hand to a child or Raising ANYTHING to a child is absolutely UNNECESSARY.
When your Dog pees on the floor do you SPANK it or Whack it with your Belt? Of course not... that's Animal Cruelty. When your Cat gets into your Dinner when you run to the restroom for a second and leave dinner on the counter & you catch it red handed mowing on your meal, DO YOU SPANK your Cat or Whack it with a Belt?!? Of course not... that's Animal Cruelty....
But our own Human Children you feel free to disapline them physically with Spanking or with Belts and do NOT call it Cruelty or Abuse???!?!?
Indeed it is.
I have Quadruplets, who will be 4 years old this Halloween. I have never raised my hand to them. We do time outs, time in their room (which has no toys, all toys are in their playroom), talks of actions and conciqueces, I have highly intellegent children, of whom follow my directions when told, they have respect for their parents, I have had compliments from strangers and family on how well behaved my children are & NONE of it is from 'agressive' parenting. It is all from suffering concequences for your actions. You throw a fit at the table at Dinner. You go to your Room. You Hit your Brother/Sister, You get a Time-Out, then a Speech from Mommy about what you've done, Then me asking if they would like to tell their brother/sister they are sorry & give them a hug (they always do). & We carry on with our day in Peace.
I go full days with no Time-Outs... Some days with 2-3... Some with up to 6 I've NEVER had any More than that... I have very respectful almost 4 year olds because of how they have been raised from birth having not been raised with an 'agressive hand'.
I'm not saying that's how every house HAS to be... but this is what works for us & I would never ever do any different.