What she meant by bringing the head and the heart together is that when we grieve, our head knows one thing but our heart feels something else. For example, our head knows we did the best we could or that our kitties were hurting, but our hearts just want them back so we hear our innerselves saying we did the wrong thing or we did it too soon and we feel guilty. If your grief feels very painful and debilitating, your brain might be asking your heart why this is so. She felt that going through the stages of grief brings our head and our heart together until we reach reconciliation. She talked about how the grief journey never ends, we are never cured, but we integrate our grief in to our "self". What do you think about that?
Bella is right, our pets live on through our memory. We planted a tree for Lyndsey and set his garden marker. I have put pictures of him around the house and each of my daughter's asked for a picture of him. My husband bought me an angel cat pin for our anniversary (which was 5 days after Lyndsey died). Wearing his ashes is a wonderful thing to do. I am overwhelmed with his memory sometimes, but I am thankful that I am not suffocating every minute with grief like I was before.