Mad at my Mom--she put my cat to sleep

I am not as forgiving as some of the people who have posted in this thread. There is no excuse for what your mother did, especially when the Vet didn't even want to do it. Even if she thought she was doing the right thing she should have consulted you and given you the chance to take Selena in. I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. I know how it feels to be betrayed. I hope you can come to terms with this.

RIP Selena. You're in safe hands now.

Originally Posted by Ping

Thats a harsh thing to say about ones mom.

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Perhaps, but true.

Consider this. The battleax put the cat to sleep because she couldn't stand the crying. What if she has to be around (human) grandchildren? Serial killers usually start on animals before graduating to people, do they not?

You're better off without the old harpy in your life.

Originally Posted by Zane's Pal

Perhaps, but true.

Consider this. The battleax put the cat to sleep because she couldn't stand the crying. What if she has to be around (human) grandchildren? Serial killers usually start on animals before graduating to people, do they not?

You're better off without the old harpy in your life.

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It's still not appropriate to say about someone's mother when you don't know all the circumstances.

MargeCat, I'm so sorry this happened. My mum did the same thing to my childhood kitties without telling me (they were old, and the first kitty's health was failing, and it was best for him, and the second kitty couldn't live without her buddy and stopped eating and going to the toilet). It was best for them, but I was incredibly upset at the time and at her not telling me first - she didn't tell me until a month after the second kitty (who was always my cat) was euthanised. Not because she was a horrible person, but because she was too heartbroken.

I hope when things have settled down you can have a good talk to your mum about it.

Originally Posted by Zane's Pal

Cut the old hag out of your life.

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Originally Posted by Zane's Pal

The battleax put the cat to sleep

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Originally Posted by Zane's Pal

You're better off without the old harpy in your life.

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For goodness sake. You can make your point without calling her mother names. It really is unnecessary and rude.

Sounds like someone has SERIOUS issues with their own mother!

Originally Posted by sarahp

It's still not appropriate to say about someone's mother when you don't know all the circumstances.

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I'm just going by the facts as presented.

Originally Posted by catcaregiver

For goodness sake. You can make your point without calling her mother names. It really is unnecessary and rude.

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Exactly what I am thinking. There is a way to make a point without calling someone's mom hateful names when you don't even know the woman. I would be pretty ticked if someone called my mother those names no matter what she did.

Oh my gosh!!! I thought she put her down for a good reason! I would never have a pet put down especially if the vet said that's not the best option! We had a dog with water around her heart, arthritis, VERY epileptic, half blind, half deaf...... she was on so many pills for pain it wasn't even funny. We kept taking her in and it was the vet that suggested putting to sleep. We agreed with the vet because we just couldn't stand seeing her still in pain even with the meds

I am so sorry for your loss. I still can't believe that really happened

Ok i dont care if I was mad at my mother or not, if I heard someone talking about her like that I would never grace the website with my presence ever again. And if it was in person I would knock the living poo out of them!

You really need to sit down and talk to your mother. Find out what was going on. I'm sure she believed she was doing what was best for her. And you, or the vet are neither around the cat all the time, so maybe she knew something was going on. Its hard to put a pet down but its also horrible to see your babies suffer. Especially when you cant figure out what is hurting them.

Originally Posted by Ping

Exactly what I am thinking. There is a way to make a point without calling someone's mom hateful names when you don't even know the woman. I would be pretty ticked if someone called my mother those names no matter what she did.

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I totally agree. Not only is it crude, but also a little vulgar. I would be appalled if anyone who I did not know spoke with such disrespect about my family.
The facts may present themselves in this misunderstanding/accident, but there is a way one conduct's themselves tactfully when addressing concerns and giving out advice.
Margecat, I am so terribly sorry about what happened. There is no way now to determine what may have helped your poor kitty, but the one thing I really am disappointed and upset about is that your mom did NOT consult YOU first. That is the biggest mistake in this horrific tradegy.
She may not have wanted to be burdened by the constant yowling and health problem. There is no telling. The only way you will find out is by talking to her face to face.

That is SO unfair! Poor little Selena... you should post a memorial for her on the Rainbow Bridge topic. I'm awfully sorry about your loss.

There are plenty of humans that are obese and lose the weight; or else they learn to cope. Selena could have done that, too. Your mom was wrong, wrong, WRONG--and with somebody who could've taken the cat right there, too!

My mom put my cat Tiger to sleep, too, without telling me; but it was because mine turned FIV positive. I felt betrayed. Still do. Tiger was my first cat and I will always remember her. And my second cat, Daffy, died in a fight because Mom insisted on letting him out despite a lot of mean feral toms, and Daffy a tiny little neutered male...

I guess I have a mom whose opinions about cats are a lot like your mom's.

I have two cats of my own now, and they are indoor cats, and if they ever turn up FIV-positive they will get treatment and a decent shot at life...

So I guess I've been there.

Originally Posted by Zane's Pal

Serial killers usually start on animals before graduating to people, do they not?

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Yeah, but as children and teenagers, not as older women. And when serial killers do "start on animals" it's definitely not by euthanasia at the vet's. No thrill for them. Please, if you are going to jump to conclusions, know your facts.


Margecat, I am so sorry that you have to go throught this terrible experience. Last week, we had to put to sleep our beloved dog, Lady, and I would have been devastated and furious if I had not known and helped in the decision making process beforehand.

She may have passed too soon, but take care knowing Selena is fit and happy again, and knows you love her with all your heart. Please don't feel guilty; she knows that there's nothing for you to feel guilty about.

Tricia

I'm so sorry bout Selena. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I dont know how your mom could do this,if she couldnt take care of her anymore she should have given her back to u and dh. Donna

whoa whoa whoa...

looks like some fires have broken out here.
I am SO SORRY that this happened to you and your beautiful baby. I'm sure you will work through this in a way that is appropriate. Please hang in there and know that kitty is in a good place now...

and Zane!
shame on you... that is not the way we talk to eachother here...

How rude!

Margecat, I am so sorry. We are all here for you

Margecat, I'm so sorry for the loss of Selena. I think your mom made a horrible mistake when she put Selena down, but it wasn't done to be cruel, it was just a mistake, and she was trying to do what was best for the poor cat. Is it possible your mom misunderstood your intentions and thought she was the owner, and that's why she didn't talk to you before making such a serious decision?