Oh gosh, it's totally true here! Buffy tends to be ignored more, because she's basically all black (just one patch of white on her throat), a shorthair, and a female. Nothing interesting, apparantly. It's ironic (and sad), really, because Buffy's the one who LOVES attention (human, cat, dog, it doesn't matter), so if she gets ignored, you can count on her to come screaming and wailing away, knocking things off shelves, hopping on counters, bugging Jake (my dog), and everybody has no choice but to notice her, lol
Molly and Willow get more attention because they're more prettily colored. Molly's a large, stocky black and white, and even though she's closed to other people and runs away from anyone who approaches, everyone always coos about what a sweet, lovely, pretty girl she is. And Willow is technically what people might call "dangerous" to strangers, but while people keep their fingers to themselves, they compliment Willow a lot too. It's poor Buffy who gets ignored, but at least she does her part to MAKE SURE people notice her. Jake, my dog, backs her up too, as she can't get the attention by her own self. She needs a big dog behind her, giving her an excuse to turn her head and SCREAM indignition at being followed so closely. And if that doesn't work to make heads turn, Jake will squeal and race around to the nearest table and thump his whole body to the ground, head mashing into the floor so he can see her from under the table. Even then people don't really compliment Buffy, they comment on the humour of the situation (dog bugging cat, cat being noisy, dog making a racket from his never-say-die adoration for the kitty)
My grandma sums it up from her visit a couple of years ago: She's afraid of Willow, as she doesn't know when she's going to get scratched or stalked (if Willow is in the middle of the doorway to the kitchen, Beppe will get a newspaper or something long and try to push Willow out of the way, never daring to let her hands get close). But while Willow is scary, Beppe is afraid of Buffy too, because Buffy is "sneaky" and you never know what she's thinking. That makes me sad, but maybe it's just because I know Buffy as well as any mom can know her child, and I know she's just so misunderstood by everyone. She's not sneaky at all! It seems like you never really know her because you don't take the effort to actually get to know her. She's got an amazing personality and all she wants is for someone to lie down on the floor and get to know her better. Or maybe that personality is the cause; she likes to do weird stuff, such as tilt her head while staring at you. You don't understand why she does that, so you feel she's hard to know. Still sad, though. You'd think that you'd know the cat who's always hanging around better than the two other girls who are more reserved and don't hang out much. In fact, when Beppe visited over the past month, she kept calling Molly, Polly. Yet "Polly" get more affection from her than Buffy. I swear, this could make me cry at night if I thought about it more often. *sigh*
For our immediately family, though (the above all pertains to visitors), Buffy still doesn't get any slack. Buffy's the "dumbo" (she's actually pretty intelligent, just clumbsy from time to time, and sometimes she acts before she thinks), the "ugly" (what are you talking about? She's gorgeous!), the "nuisance" (okay, I can understand that... She's got a high energy level). Dad's the one who mostly feels this way, though. Mom and my sister both know that Buffy is also the "survivor" (the only survivor of her litter, who all died, including the mother, when the litter was only 3-4 weeks old), the "smarty-pants" (she's a backtalker and seems to understand what you're saying sometimes). They do know she's pretty special, and they all agree (well, maybe not dad, but he's always had a thing for black shorthairs) that she gives life a huge spark and while sometimes we all feel like ripping our hair out, we know that we'd all be devastated if Buffy were removed from our lives. I just wish EVERYONE understood Buffy exactly as I do.