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Hard time, miss him terribly

post #1 of 15
Thread Starter 
I made it through a good portion of the day today just kind of whimpery and then became overwhelmed by grief again tonight. I thought I'd start this thread for anyone who lost their cat recently, who just needs to talk about it and pine, and to ask anyone who's been through this, does the constant despair really go away?
I miss him so much. It seems so unreal in a way, and yet it's just about unbearable that he's not in his usual nighttime spots. He was my best pal for almost a decade -- I can't bear that he's gone.
post #2 of 15
I'm so sorry . I still do that with my dog- he's been gone for 2 1/2 years. We have even had a "new" dog for a year and a half (don't get me wrong, I adore her ), but he was with us for 13 1/2 years, and was my constant companion...
post #3 of 15
It gets easier, but you will never forget. And you shouldnt, he was a very important part of your life.

I lost my Babygirl and I still grieve over her. If I talk about her for any length of time, I am beside myself with pain and tears, but its definitely a lot easier than it was 5 years ago. I love you, Babygirl, forever

You will be ok. Cry when you need to, its healing.
And talk to people here, they really understand how deep the pain goes.

Many hugs to you during your time of grief.
post #4 of 15
I lost my beloved cat, Lyndsey, 2 days ago. I cannot stop the grief and feel smothered by it. I can't eat or do anything and I feel like it will never go away. Yet, everyone says it gets easier. I just hope we can find comfort in the fact that others have been through this pain. I hope the despair does go away or I'll be consumed by it. I hope the same for you, too.
post #5 of 15
My previous message was for brokenhearted. Thank you for your posts. As I sit here and cry, I wonder if I can make it through the day. It hurts so bad. We buried him in the back yard yesterday and I can't even look back there or leave the door open to the back yard. I thought it would be good to have him back there but it hurts to look at it. I just want to hold him one more time. I think I did the right thing, but then I get consumed by grief and wish I had him one more time. Have you felt like that? Was it the right thing to do?

I called the vet at the emergency clinic where we had to take him two nights ago. I just told her I needed to hear her say it.
post #6 of 15
It does go away, but you never forget and things never will ever be as they were. There will be others, just as unique, and often help you heal in ways you would never believe. It will take time and the important think is to take as much time as you need.
post #7 of 15
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Originally Posted by Brokenheart View Post
I made it through a good portion of the day today just kind of whimpery and then became overwhelmed by grief again tonight. I thought I'd start this thread for anyone who lost their cat recently, who just needs to talk about it and pine, and to ask anyone who's been through this, does the constant despair really go away?
I miss him so much. It seems so unreal in a way, and yet it's just about unbearable that he's not in his usual nighttime spots. He was my best pal for almost a decade -- I can't bear that he's gone.
Pumpkin was my best friend. I can't believe she's gone. It all happened so fast. I think what I miss most is when she used to come to bed with us at night. She would wait for us to be in bed and the light off before coming in and she would jump up on the bed and make the same funny noise. It was her way of saying, "I'm here!"

Alison

Pumpkin Feith
02/28/95 - 10/08/07
post #8 of 15
So sorry for your loss. I lost 2 beloved pets in 2 months. The first was my favorite budgie, Vida Blue. I had to put him to sleep and he was only 4. Then my cat, Brownie disappeared. He just never came home. Even tho he was an outdoor cat (he adopted me) and only came in for food, loving and sometimes to sleep with me, he made my life happy for 12 years. I really miss both of them.
post #9 of 15
Just wondering how you are doing today?
post #10 of 15
I know the terrible sadness you are going through. I lost my beloved Zoe in March to lymphoma. The vet said we'd have 6 months, but within a week from diagnosis she could not longer stand. We had to put her to sleep. I agonized for months about whether it was the right thing to do. It was. I miss her so much, and I will always love her.

Time doesn't make the hurt go away, but it can make you remember the happy times, not the sad times at the end. I am sure Lyndsey knew that you loved him. He is playing on the bridge waiting for the day you'll be together again.
post #11 of 15
Its been almost two weeks since I had to put Zorro down and it still hurts as if it had just happened. I try to keep myself very busy because if I let my mind wonder for even a moment, my mind replays what happened and I see him dying in my arms all over again. I havn't really been able to sleep since it happened. I only get about 3 hours every two days. I feel like I'm going insane. I'm going to the doctor tomorrow to hopefully get something to help me either calm down or sleep. I know it was the right thing to do, but it still hurts so much.
I've been making a scrapbook for him and I've been putting in hours every day. It doesn't help with the pain at all, but for me its like I'm putting all the love that I have for him into a scrapbook that I can keep with me forever.
post #12 of 15
Thread Starter 
I know what you mean. Tonight I went to a friend's work-related event and as soon as I got out of there, I started crying, then sobbing as soon as I got home. I don't see how this will ever heal.
post #13 of 15
i lost three kittens and had to put their mom to sleep. i am so sad. everyone says oh, they were just animals, get over it. but they were so much more to me. they were my babies. i will never forget them.
post #14 of 15
You have come to the right place. No one here would ever say they are "just animals".
post #15 of 15
Thread Starter 
I just wanted to chime in with Maggie5. Everyone here understands the depth of your grief -- many of us recently lost pets and are feeling it, too.
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