I forgot to give a full
update of what transpired. I meant to come back and give more detail.
He came over shortly after 7 and brought a bottle of red wine. Not your regular sized bottle, but equal to 1.5 litres!!! I'm not a heavy drinker and 2 glasses of wine is way more than enough for me. I ended up having 4 glasses (3 while he was here and I finished up the 4th after he left) and he drank the rest of the bottle.
He also smokes which I don't care for, although he didn't smell like smoke. He asked if he could smoke and I told him that he would have to go downstairs and out front to smoke because I don't allow smoking in my home. When he decided to have a cigarette he once again asked me if he could smoke
, I told him no. So he went downstairs for his cigarette and came back.
When the bottle was about 1/2 full (I had 2 glasses at this point) and he was pouring me my 3rd glass, I said "after this glass let's call it an evening because I have an early day tomorrow." (which was a lie but I wanted him to leave) Plus I was getting uncomfortable with some of his "questions." He kept drifting to the topic of sex and actually came right out and asked me the last time I had sex!!!
I told him that I'm not going to answer that question!
He also kept talking about his weekends at his friend's nightclub and how he doesn't lack for female companionship when he goes there
Like that was supposed to impress me or something!
Plus he had his cell phone with him and it kept ringing and he kept taking the calls (4 or 5) and at one point I could hear that there was a woman on the other end (she talked loud) and before he hung up he said "I love you too!" but he said it low enough that I got the impression he didn't want me to hear. But drunk people don't whisper very quietly!
Despite my efforts to get him to leave he stayed about another hour or hour and a half until he polished off the bottle of wine. He kept trying to get me to drink more but I stopped drinking when he poured me the 4th glass and only pretended to sip it. He was quite drunk by the time he did leave. He was slurring his words quite badly.
I know some here thought he was drinking out of nervousness, but he didn't strike me as the "nervous" type. He just didn't seem to want to leave until every drop from that bottle was gone. Which is a sign of alcoholism. My homecare lady said I should have told him to take it with him,
He got up to leave and needed to use the washroom. He went into the bathroom and I was stunned that he didn't close the door! or even wash his hands when he was done! *blech*
I gave him a hug and he tried to kiss me on my mouth but I turned my head and let him kiss me on my cheek. I told him that it was just "wine and conversation." He did his best to convince me to let him stay and I told him that if he was interested in seeing me again that things would progress at my pace, not his. He said "What about next time?" and moved his head in such a way to indicate it was a "hint." I told him no. That nothing physical was going to happen until it felt right and comfortable for me.
When he left I didn't expect to hear from him again, and if I did I would have been very surprised. I tend to go with my gut instincts and my gut decided that he was bad news, and I had decided that if he did call I was going to brush him off.
My homecare lady said "I'd love to see the look on his face the next time he sees your name on his list of pickups with Handi Transit!"