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post #1 of 15
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Hi, new member here. My name's Meng and I have two cats (one black short-hair and one white/grey short-hair) and just lost our 3rd kitty last night due to FIP. His name was Winston (a grey medium-hair). He had the biggest personality out of all of our cats. For the first month, he just loved his new place (we only had him for a month and a half). Took little time for the two other cats to get along with him. We had the perfect little family pretty much! Then a couple weeks ago we noticed him not being himself. He kept to himself alot, slept most of the day, and only getting up to eat then going back to lay down. We didn't think much of it for the first week. Some people we talked to told us he might just be going through a phase where he sleeps alot.

The second week he just seem totally out of it. At times when I was working on the computer, I'd look over to him and he would just lay there, staring off to space. Yesterday while at work, my gf text messages me that she's taking Winston to the Emergency Vet because something was terribly wrong. She told me she tried picking him up and setting him down, that his legs couldn't even support himself anymore. An hour after the first message, she told me that after tests, he tested positive for FIP. I had no clue what it was at the time and figured, no big deal, I can pay for the medication/surgery. Then she messaged me telling me the Vet said there was no cure and that he's very sick and the outcome looks bad. The whole time at work all I could think of was him.

I got off work and called my gf right away. She was balling, telling me we have no choice but to either put Winston down or let him wither away at home. I sat there for a while and made the decision to put him down. I hadn't seen him all day. She came by to pick me up with Winston and he was in HORRIBLE shape. His stomach was so big and filled with fluid. He made the saddest cries I've ever heard come out of his mouth. I tried holding him, but it just hurt him because of the stomach pains I'm sure. I just kept petting him and telling him it was going to be all right and that he'll feel better soon. This is pretty much my first pet to go through this with. We get to the vet and I'm holding him like a baby, just rubbing him, trying to keep him as comfortable as possible. He just kept crying in pain. I just wanted to make it all better for him. In my head I just kept saying "Why him? He so good natured, so kind, so caring, so fun and lovable! He's lived from house to house, shelter to shelter and finally found a family to keep him forever and he didn't even get to enjoy it...". We said our goodbyes, my gf couldn't be in the room when it happened, but I had to be just because it felt right for me. I just kissed him on the head, told him it'll be alright and kept petting him.

The Vet did her thing, and he just wimpered away, and I watched his breathing fade away. He just stared off in space. Like that, he was gone from our lives forever. I tried so hard to hold it in the whole day up until she said "His heart has stopped beating, I'm sorry for your loss". I just broke down and balled like a baby. I haven't done that in YEARS. But within the last month and a half, this little guy was like a kid of my own. I just couldn't keep the tears back once they started. I just kept petting him...and after about 10-15mins, kissed him on the head one more time and left the room. I've heard of people loosing pets of many years...this was just as hard I think. It's the first pet I've ever lost. He was part of our little family and such a young one at that. I just wanted to share this with somebody and have it a reminder to everyone to cherish the moments they have with their loved ones. Winston was only 7 1/2 months old, and he lived it to the fullest til his dying day. I'll always remember him, my little buddy, Winston.

- Meng

post #2 of 15
I am so sorry! FIP is no way to leave a kitty, not in the state it brings them to. You loved Winston to the end, that much you showed when you ended his short life painlessly.

Play happily over the Rainbow Bridge Winston!
post #3 of 15
I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad that he was much loved while he was with you guys.
post #4 of 15
RIP Handsome Winston Have fun with the other pets over the Rainbow Bridge...

We hope you two are doing as good as you can
post #5 of 15
I'm so sorry for your loss. FIP is a tragic thing.

I will move this to Crossing the Bridge as a memorial to Winston.
post #6 of 15
Meng, thank you for sharing Winston's story with us! It's clear he was well loved in his last few months. Few cats get a forever home and he was one of the lucky ones to get a home as loving as yours. I am so sorry for your loss, you did the best you could and I am sure Winston knew.

Rest in peace, Winston! And welcome to the forums Meng, I'm sorry your first post here was so sad but our thoughts and prayers are with you!
post #7 of 15
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Rest In Peace, Winston.
You're a beautiful boy.
post #8 of 15
I am SO SORRY you have lost your little buddy Winston -- if that's him in the photo as I guess it must be, he was such a handsome little man! I have had experience with FIP -- my King Sunny-a-Cat was diagnosed with the "dry" form and lived an almost record 5 years after diagnosis on a special immune booster, Immunoregulin, plus B-12; my kitten, Koala Naomi, developed the "wet" form -- what your Winston had -- very quickly from being completely healthy, playful, bouncy, and full of life and love, and passed at home the night before we could get her back in to the vet's office. I believe she developed FIP from the vaccine, which is very controversial, as you may know. Did Winston receive the vaccine?

For me, there's nothing more painful than losing a beloved cat, and I empathize with you very much. I hope and pray your two cats and your and your gf will be able to hold him in your hearts forever, and that possibly, you will consider a tribute to him in the form of one or more of these: planting a plant above his resting place (or just planting a plant for him, if that does not apply); making a memory book with photos of him; and most of all, when you are ready, adopting another cat and saving another precious life, which is what I feel sure Winston would want and which would be the greatest living memorial you could give him! All the best to you and your family...
post #9 of 15
I am so very sorry for your loss.

RIP Winston
post #10 of 15
I'm very sorry for your loss. I can tell you loved Winston very much and I'm sure he knew too.
post #11 of 15
It's so hard to lose our babies--I too had to put my baby girl Willow (almost 9 years old) to sleep this morning--she also most likely had FIP. It is a cruel disease. It sounds like Winston's illness came on suddenly, so he didn't have prolonged suffering. Please, take time to grieve for your loss. Whether they are with us for days, months, or years, cats become very much part of our lives.
post #12 of 15
I'm so sorry the bridge had to be your first post here

What a handsome little boy Winston is, and that picture of the three of you is just so precious

post #13 of 15
I'm very sorry for your loss. Winston was a very handsome boy. It's so hard to lose a beloved pet and I think sometimes even harder when we have to make the decission to have them put to sleep.
post #14 of 15
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone. Yesterday was the first day without him and it just didn't feel right. I miss holding the little guy and watching him play with the other cats (he just LOVED terrorizing the older cats, it was hilarious). My gf dad was also close to him as well and he was having a hard time as well. Last night we gave extra special attention to our 2 cats and told them Winston was just here to visit for a little while. The Animal Humane Society told us that we would be credited for Winston and that we'll have 6 months to use the credit. As for now, we're just getting used to not having him around anymore. Our black cat Jack seems bored now since Winston was his playmate while he was here. When we're ready, we'll probably adopt another playful kitty for the family. As a bonus, I just bought a 72" cat furniture for the boys!
post #15 of 15
I'm very sorry for your loss. That is a beautiful picture.
RIP Winston.
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