Wow! Just after I posted this thread, my life suddenly got complicated for a few days, and this is the first chance I've had to dig through and find it again. Thank you all so much for your thoughtful replies! I really appreciate your input.Sharky
, naturopathic methods are something I haven't investigated yet. I will look into that, thank you.Bruce
, you're absolutely right, I know -- it's all about how you eat, and the two surgeries that I'm thinking about are purely restrictive in nature; they don't inhibit absorption. So in theory, if I can consistently eat as if I've already had
the surgery, I can achieve the same result without
But I know myself, and I just don't think I can do it. In my defense, apparently almost no one
can. But I can certainly make changes in that direction and hope it will put me on track to lose enough weight in a reasonable time to get my health under control. I do feel I can change my habits -- I just don't know if I can change them enough.
Thinking of the cats is a wonderful idea! And of my parents, too... they really need me around. Thank you for that thought.Halfpint
, yes, I understand that there are some serious psychological changes that also happen. Personally, I suspect that the reason I gained the weight in the first place was to ensure that I would not have to make any decisions about relationships -- I just wouldn't have
But now, at 51, I think I'm emotionally stable enough not to make stupid choices in that area, so maybe I can risk being attractive again, y'know?Tierre0
, thank you for sharing your friend's experience. At the seminar I went to the other night, someone asked whether it would be necessary to have a second surgery to remove excess skin, and the doctor said, "That depends on how you're made and how much weight you lose -- some people want to do that, some don't. But really, it's usually not a matter of needing
to. How many of us look good naked, anyway?" Lunasmom
, you're right -- as I understand it, with an actual gastric bypass like the Roux-en-Y procedure, absorption is inhibited and you do have to take supplements or you can get into some serious trouble. But I can't even think about that procedure -- since I have no insurance, I'll be financing this, and a true bypass is out of reach.Greenvillegal,
thank you so much for sharing what you've learned from your friends! And yes, I know that if you eat more than you should or drink carbonated beverages, you do stretch your stomach out again. Luckily, I only drink Coke at the movies, so that's easy to give up. As for seeing myself as fat... heck, I thought I was fat when I was a 92-pound rail, too!
I wouldn't even think of doing this if it was just about appearance -- I'm concerned about my life.
Your point about hormones is one I haven't heard before -- unless you mean that some people become "hypersexual," as the doctor put it. I'm really not worried about that, though -- even when I was slim and cute and a veritable churning cauldron of desire, I've never been the least bit promiscuous. As my best friend/former significant other told me when he finally got me to go out with him, "You're a hard sell, y'know that?"
The trouble with me and diets is more me than the diet. I actually know
how to eat, intellectually: lots of vegetables, some fruit, some nuts, very few grains, very little dairy. (I'm a lifelong vegetarian, so that makes the standard diabetic low-carb diet impossible.) The trouble is doing it,
and doing it consistently. But you're right, I do intend to give it one more very serious try before proceeding with anything drastic.MadAbout Rags
, that is one horrifying story! I can't imagine how anyone could survive 30 years if her esophagus was really entirely disconnected from her stomach... or how doctors could fail to catch it all that time... that's just bizarre! But yes, lapbands can slip and erode, and the doctor at the seminar said that if you throw up immediately after eating, you have to suspect that's happened and go to the ER immediately.GailC
, that's one thing about this particular doctor and his clinic (which is attached to an excellent hospital with a special cardiac wing) -- their price for the lapband surgery includes all the followups, all the band fills, everything you should need for the rest of your life. They have a free support group with programs arranged by their staff (not just a room to meet in), and the hospital itself has a fee-based fitness program with physical therapists and nutritionists. So I would feel very well-supported there. The cost is $15,000, which is higher than some places, but not by much. I feel very good about this doctor, though I am investigating others, just to be sure.MuttigreeMom
, you can preach to me anytime! I know that what you're saying is absolutely valid -- low-carb is exactly what I need to do, and I'm trying to move in that direction even as we speak. It's more difficult for me since I'm a vegetarian... but it's what works. And I will give it a chance
to work before I go under the knife, I promise!
Again, I can't thank you all enough for the time and thought you've put into your replies -- I feel much better educated on this now. As things progress, I hope you won't mind if I come back to you with questions -- I really want to be sure I'm doing the right thing. You guys are the greatest!