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post #1 of 25
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Call the shelter on your on mother? I decided to drive to TN to see my mother for the first time in a year yesterday. And I was absolutely disgusted at what I found a dog she got when I was 15 so skinny that her bones showed, and she used to be fat, and so week she had a hard time walking and her back was missing patches of hair, and looked as if she had been laying in her own waste. Her dachund whom she has had for almost as long is black and her skin is in such bad shape I could feel it and I could see the fleas crawling on her. She has two other dogs who other than fleas didn't look too bad. Her other dog never came out. Apparently he has accidents and there was not a spot on the carpet that didn't have a wet spot. She has atleast 10 cats all covered in fleas all friendly cause she does love on them she just doesn't see to them. The carpets looked like they needed to be ripped up. It smelled so bad it made my nose and eyes burn and today I am sick from it. The walls felt filmy from the amonia.

She had two rabbits in cages outside but the cages were sitting on the ground and were not covered or anything but she might bring them in at night. She has four birds but they are upstairs and its not as bad up there. Her couch used to be a light tan but is so nasty its almost black.

And I honestly don't know how to handle this. Well I do but its my mother and it hurts. She actually asked me to take the cats and drop them. I told her I would take them to a shelter and she said they will be put to sleep and I said well there are worse things than dying. She said atleast if they were dropped they stood a chance. And I cannot understand that logic.

I was scared to come home due to that I was scared I would bring some disease home with me on my feet. I need some major vibes I know what I have to do but it is not easy.

But I was just wondering how you would handle this?
post #2 of 25
gosh, that's tough one Gail. Those animals are obviously in need of medical care and that way your mother is living is not healthy. I know it's your mom, but I think given what you have described I would call the SPCA from her area or the Humane society or something
post #3 of 25
I'd call... and I'd call NOW!

Don't think me cruel, as I know this is your mother and very hard to do... but here's what sticks with me:

Your mother is human and therefore can understand when you explain to her why you're calling the shelter.

The dogs, cats, etc are not human and therefore can't understand why they are living like this and can't help themselves.

Here's to the strength to get you through this
post #4 of 25
I would desperately be looking for a no-kill shelter. If there are none in the area, then so be it, go with the regular shelter.

I would also call the health department.

I would also set it up with someone ? to make sure your mom does not take in any more pets.
post #5 of 25
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What hurts is I know when I do this I will never be welcome in my mother's home again but I can't just sit back she has all of the classic signs of a hoarder. And you know if I was there for just a short while and couldn't breathe how bad it has to be.
post #6 of 25
I'd call a shelter and Animal Control. Your mother may also need some medical help - is there anyone you can contact on that end about her condition.

Since the animals are in bad shape, I'm sure your mom also is not in a healthy condition.
post #7 of 25
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Originally Posted by Tavia'smom View Post
What hurts is I know when I do this I will never be welcome in my mother's home again but I can't just sit back she has all of the classic signs of a hoarder. And you know if I was there for just a short while and couldn't breathe how bad it has to be.
Never say never, does your mother need medical attention? Sounds like she does. It's not healthy for her or her pets to be living like that.

Do what you have to do, it's called TOUGH LOVE.
post #8 of 25
I would call today and get the animals removed TODAY

Then the Health dept needs to be called and you need to get your mom some mental help.

Good luck
post #9 of 25
Does your mother have friends or do you have any brothers or sisters that live near her? She needs help. YOu are her daughter, it is your responsibility to help your mother. Good luck
post #10 of 25
I would call. She's your mother, and although she will probably be very upset with you at first, she'll get over it and realize that you did it for her own good, and for the good of the animals.
post #11 of 25
She knows she is in over her head or she would not have asked you to dump 2 of the cats.
post #12 of 25
I can't imagine how hard this decision is for you. I can't even begin to tell you what to do because this is your mother, all I can say is that whatever your decision is I would understand and support you.

I do want to add that while I hate the idea of young healthy animals being put down, I think it's better than being let go outside & the possibility of starving to death.
post #13 of 25
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Well I called them and they said they are going to start an investigation tomorrow. And she wasn't wanting just 2 dropped she wanted to box up a bunch of them and drop them. I told them they need to get there soon due to that. And I gave them as much detail as possible. I just feel so bad. But I couldn't live with myself if I didn't do this. And if Nikki sees this can you find out for me what will happen to her if they find her guilty of hoarding.
post #14 of 25
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Originally Posted by Tavia'smom View Post
She actually asked me to take the cats and drop them. I told her I would take them to a shelter and she said they will be put to sleep and I said well there are worse things than dying. She said atleast if they were dropped they stood a chance. And I cannot understand that logic.
By "drop them" I assume that you mean drop them at the side of the road somewhere?

If she's willing for you to do this, then she is willing to give up some of these animals. Search www.petfinder.com. Put in your mother's zip code to look for pets then research all of the shelters that pop up. The best way to find no-kill groups is through petfinder, as most of them post there. It will take a bit of research on your part, but keep trying.

Then call them and explain the situation to them. You can do this in a way where they will work with your mother to remove the animals that she cannot care for. It won't all fall on you.

If you call animal control or a shelter, they will probably remove all of the animals and they won't be nice about it. That will break your relationship and you don't want that.

girl. We are all here for you.
post #15 of 25
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its too late I already called. Because I had offered putting them up for adoption and taking them to a shelter and she said no that they would kill them. Or that people wouldn't want them because they aren't fixed and don't have shots.
post #16 of 25
With the disease thing, if no one is at your home, just take off what clothes you can at the door and dash straight for the bathroom to have a shower. Then make sure you scrub your boots with disinfectant and wash the clothes. Obviousely if someone is home that would be a little easier. I hope this gets resolved. It really sounds like your mum needs help, and reporting her and moving the animals is best for both parties.
post #17 of 25
Mother or not- what she's doing and allowing to go on is animal abuse. You know the right thing to do love. Those animals don't deserve that kind of abuse and neglect.
post #18 of 25
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Originally Posted by Tavia'smom View Post
Well I called them and they said they are going to start an investigation tomorrow. And she wasn't wanting just 2 dropped she wanted to box up a bunch of them and drop them. I told them they need to get there soon due to that. And I gave them as much detail as possible. I just feel so bad. But I couldn't live with myself if I didn't do this. And if Nikki sees this can you find out for me what will happen to her if they find her guilty of hoarding.
No problem love- do you know what district she lives in (what city? and what county?) if she's way out of my area i might not be able to find out- but i will try! Each city has ordinances that are a little bit different. I know where i live that we would not tolerate the way she's housing them- she'd be issued a warning and be given a certain amount of time (usually 1-3 days depending on the situation) to make drastic changes and show that she's providing adequate food,water, shelter, and keeping her property clean- if not- the animals will be taken from her and she will be cited/may have to appear in court/etc. If the animals are in REALLY bad shape though- most AC officers will take photos as evidence and take the animals right then and there- it just depends on the individual case.
post #19 of 25
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Well she lives in Clarksville. And I did call the ac I had no choice I think but it tears me up. I feel like I betrayed my mother now.
post #20 of 25
is there a chance the dog is sick?

anyway, i would have taken the animals all them.
if not doing that, then yes i would call
post #21 of 25
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Well she lives in Clarksville. And I did call the ac I had no choice I think but it tears me up. I feel like I betrayed my mother now.
Eww hon she's up not too far from Nashville. I live all the way down in Bartlett (right down the street from Memphis literally.) I don't personally know anyone up in Clarksville, i'm sorry. but i do however have several their AC number if you need it for any reason (pm me and i'll give it to you should you need to call again.)

here's a map for reference (she must live in montgomery county - up in northern tn, and i live in shelby co. down at the very southwest part of the map.) http://quickfacts.census.gov/qfd/map...essee_map.html

My guess is that their rules are pretty similar to ours around here. They will likely investigate and then make a call from there as to wether they take the animals immediately and fine her/give her a court date or they may give her a certain time frame in which she must comply with their regulations and immediately clean up their environment/provide adequate care and be ready for another inspeciton.

(in a side note- as for that dog that's really skinny- it likely needs to be dewormed with panacure /strongid (if it has fleas/parasites- it's probably not gaining weight because of worms.) It needs a good flea/tick prevenative as well as a proper round of dewormer. In addition to this it needs to be fed 5+ small meals a day- every few hours and the dog will need a supplement like NutriCal added to its food (soft food) to help it gain a bit of healthy weight.) Has this animals been tested for heartworms? I'm afraid if she's neglected it so bad it could be positive- so proper heart worm tests are a must! If the dog is really underweight (i can' see it to examine it's physical condition but it doesn't sound well) - it might need several rounds of iv fluid to build up its electrolytes/fluids that is likely loosing from parasites/etc.) I hope these animals get the help they need soon I'm sure the AC in that area will do a good job and see to it those animals get the help they need! Thankyou hon for being brave and doing the right thing by reporting animal abuse. Those animals have no voices to protest when they're being abused or neglected- that's why it's sooo important for people like you with such a big heart to step up to the plate when they see something going wrong You did a good job!
post #22 of 25
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Well she lives in Clarksville. And I did call the ac I had no choice I think but it tears me up. I feel like I betrayed my mother now.
oh Hunny, PLEASE don't feel that way! I had to call DCS to report something about my own child, which of course got them coming out to our house, etc. It was the right thing to do, but scary as HE!! !!!! My DH told me I had "betrayed" him because I didn't talk to him about it before I did call them, but I was doing what I felt was the best for the welfare of MY CHILD. You were doing what you thought was best for the welfare of YOUR MOM. The animals are a side effect of your call, and yes, some may be put down, but others may be adopted, but in the end, your mother may be assigned a social worker, get some mental health help, and I KNOW her health can't be good living in that situation. You did it out of LOVE, and I for one am VERY proud of you! I live about 45 or so min south of Clarksville (Hendersonville)- so just let me know if you need anything, k? I will be praying for you and your mom and your family.
post #23 of 25
You didn't betray you mother. You did a brave thing for those animals. I know she's your mom and you care about her, but the animals are the ones that can't step up for themselves. (((((((hugs))))))))
post #24 of 25
Oh....I'd call and don't feel guilty about it at all. Not only would it be the best for the pets, emotionally and physically, but at least physically, it would be best for your mother too! Conditions like that sound sooo unsanitary....your mom should be thanking you, not turning her back on you-for helping her out. I'm suprised she hasn't got a disease from the conditions yet!
post #25 of 25
I know that was a hard call but you did the right thing. It was not only a bad situation for the animals but a health hazard to her.
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