I apologize ahead of time if I say anything that is offensive to anyone in this vent. I am going out of my mind and I don't know what to do.
My husband and I have been married for less than a year. He has two boys from a previous marriage that are 8 and 9. I am obviously UNFIT to be any sort of parent. They make me crazy to the point of wanting to walk out. I feel like an outcast in my own home. I feel like I have to hide in my room on weekends because I get so tired of watching cartoons and Nintendo and their running around and screaming and fighting. That is truly all they do. I know they are boys, but there is a limit to anyone's sanity when it comes to a loudly screeching 8 year old. If I say anything to them or their dad about it they go into another room to talk to him (do they honestly think I can't hear?) and lie to get out of trouble or get the other one out of trouble. And my husband KNOWS they are lying but doesn't know what to do about it.
If I want to spend time doing something I enjoy, I do it alone (and get guilt because I am not spending time with the family) or take the kids who pout and usually get hurt or cause such a ruckus we have to leave. Or get a babysitter and have the kids call their mom and rat us out. She will then call my husband and raise cain with him for not being with the kids.
What set me off tonight? THey ripped a quilt my grandmother made for me when I was a little girl. I know it is just a blanket, but they started doing the whole "he did it" "no he did it" "no, wait, we don't know what happened" "it was already like that" routine. Then their dad makes them apologize to which I get upset, because it seems pretty insincer when they have just spent the last 5 minutes telling 4 or 5 different stories about what happened.
I have BEGGED my husband to talk to them and try to find out what goes on with them. To watch them so I don't always feel like such a narc. His side: well after you tell me I realize you are right and think I should say something but I don't know what to say. I tell him he HAS to talk to them about things he doesn't want to talk about. He can't always be the "fun" parent. He won't ask the youngest about some abuse his ex claims to have happened even though our premarital couselor says the kid has to get help with it.
I am tired of being the bad guy. I bought the house so we could get married. I even stretched myself sowe could get a house with three bedrooms like they wanted so the kids would have their own rooms (they live in a 2 bedroom apt w/ their mom). I am tired of feeling like an unwanted guest in what is REALLY my house.
My husband and I have been married for less than a year. He has two boys from a previous marriage that are 8 and 9. I am obviously UNFIT to be any sort of parent. They make me crazy to the point of wanting to walk out. I feel like an outcast in my own home. I feel like I have to hide in my room on weekends because I get so tired of watching cartoons and Nintendo and their running around and screaming and fighting. That is truly all they do. I know they are boys, but there is a limit to anyone's sanity when it comes to a loudly screeching 8 year old. If I say anything to them or their dad about it they go into another room to talk to him (do they honestly think I can't hear?) and lie to get out of trouble or get the other one out of trouble. And my husband KNOWS they are lying but doesn't know what to do about it.
If I want to spend time doing something I enjoy, I do it alone (and get guilt because I am not spending time with the family) or take the kids who pout and usually get hurt or cause such a ruckus we have to leave. Or get a babysitter and have the kids call their mom and rat us out. She will then call my husband and raise cain with him for not being with the kids.
What set me off tonight? THey ripped a quilt my grandmother made for me when I was a little girl. I know it is just a blanket, but they started doing the whole "he did it" "no he did it" "no, wait, we don't know what happened" "it was already like that" routine. Then their dad makes them apologize to which I get upset, because it seems pretty insincer when they have just spent the last 5 minutes telling 4 or 5 different stories about what happened.
I have BEGGED my husband to talk to them and try to find out what goes on with them. To watch them so I don't always feel like such a narc. His side: well after you tell me I realize you are right and think I should say something but I don't know what to say. I tell him he HAS to talk to them about things he doesn't want to talk about. He can't always be the "fun" parent. He won't ask the youngest about some abuse his ex claims to have happened even though our premarital couselor says the kid has to get help with it.
I am tired of being the bad guy. I bought the house so we could get married. I even stretched myself sowe could get a house with three bedrooms like they wanted so the kids would have their own rooms (they live in a 2 bedroom apt w/ their mom). I am tired of feeling like an unwanted guest in what is REALLY my house.