How many of you have close friends nearby?

There's a grand total of four friends that I have that I'm very close with.

Its difficult for me, I have four friends who I am very close to, but I feel that we are slowly drifting apart, I have known them for about 15 years and they mean the world to me BUT I have moved from the UK to the US, so we now only talk occasionally via email.

Over here in the US I have a couple of girl friends who I am happy to hang out with occasionally, ones crafty like me and the other likes to cats too, and hubby encourages me to go out, but I am quite happy sitting at home not feeling the need to go out, especially at the moment, with the fact I cant work as it would be illegal, there is only a small way of making friends, generally they are the wives of Hubbys colleagues which is fine but i hate imposing, being the new one in a friendship group is hard, I dont like to keep asking people over or out because I feel its to much! oh well.

Originally Posted by yasmine

Thats the truth! I have many so called friends that dumped me after i grew out of the club scene. When i lost my mother and fiance within 4 months of eachother-- i really found my true friends. Hard times will shine the light for ya.

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I have 3 of my best friends from high school living here in town! They all had their kids early, 2 are now grandparents.One of them is the one I talk to and we visit regularly, the other 2 are still very close, but I can go months without talking to them, it doesn't matter it's like we've never been apart!
I have another best friend, our boys are in the same grade, same b-ball team, her son refers to me as his 2nd mom, I pick up and take him all the time, she works and lives 15 mins away. I help her out and I love Zach!
I have a friend here in town we have been friends for 27 yrs. but she is one of those.... well she has done me wrong before, I am very forgiving, but I know how she is so I don't let her bother me!
Yasmine, so sorry about losing your mom and your fiance! Hope your alright?
I understand what you mean about hard times will shine the light for ya!
I lost my husband, and I know what your talking about!It was the people that I would have never expected that from, that really hurt the most!
Someone said, "They just don't know what to say to ya" whatever we didn't have to talk about that.,just be my friend! OH well I just said "God just cleaned out my closet for me" It hurt, but I'm much better off!!!!
Monique

Originally Posted by Yosemite

It's wonderful that you have a good relationship, but if something happened to one of you (heaven forbid), the other would need good friends and family to rely on. One of my 2 best friends lost her husband to cancer 3 years ago. He was only 52 years old and it was a shock. My other friend and I spent every second Saturday at her house, making dinner, spending time with her husband who was dying just so she could have a break. She came to rely on us to be there for her and our husbands had no issue with us spending our time with her. After the funeral, whenever she called and needed us, we dropped everything and went over. It was a 2 hour trip for me but to me friendship is very important so there was no way I would not have gone. The first Valentine's Day after he passed away (it was also their anniversary), she called in tears, I went over and spent the night with her.

I know that if I ever need either of them they are there for me. They don't replace in any way my feelings for my husband, they supplement it. He loves them almost as much as I do and has often told me how lucky I am to have such friends.

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You are a "real", I said 'REAL' friend!!!!!!!! So hard to find, a real friend!
Good for you , and your friends are so lucky to have you!!!!!!!!

I have very few close friends and have never had many friends to begin with. One I see almost weekly, the other is about 40 mins away, we see each other a few times a year and my best friend is going to move back here next year from AZ!

hmm i am to old for a social life. lol
dont really have many friends now, most are all over the US and in other countries now.
I have one good friend left near me. i have several gaming friends. but that is not the same. After i broke my back and wsa not able to ride, those friends all vanished.

I have a few good friends. most of them are a few towns away or 5000 miles away (use to live in hawaii). I have started to become very good friends with my upstairs neighbors though. Seems like this week we have all been living at eachothers house. it's me & bf on first floor, 3 guys & 2 gals, ranging from 23-59!!!

My Mom and Dad and sister live about 20 minutes from me, I hang out with them every once in awhile, I also have a good friend from work that I do stuff with on occassion. To be honest I'm a hermit and if it weren't for people making me I would probably never go out I also have some really good friends from, we can't "go out" but they're still very very good friends

Yes! We have 2 couple friends that we usually get together with to cook out, or just to hang out.

My bestest friend's dont live around here though!!!

Yes I have a group of about 8 that we make sure to hang out at least once a week! We always have great times! We are complete idiots when we hang out, but thats what makes it fun! Right now we are planning a pirate party on talk like a pirate day and a toga party for 2 of their bdays!

Originally Posted by white cat lover

I don't have anyone I hang out with much. Don't much care anymore, been burned by so called "friends" way too many times.

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You summed it up for me.

Honestly, it seems like my only friends are my neighbors now. I've pretty much let most of my friendships go in the last year, but most of them were evanescent anyhow, more like friendly acquaintances than anything else. The few close friends I had... well, things went sour.

I only have a couple of people that I hang out with on a regular basis. 1 lives 5 minutes from me--we used to hang out fairly often, but now I played matchmaker and she hangs out with her new guy. *Sigh* My other really good friend is stationed in Iraq at the moment, so, obviously, I don't get to hang out with her much right now.

A lot of my real good friends live far away, the closest two about an hour. College is a tricky time for friendships, especially after I transferred.

But I have plenty of people to hang out with so it's okay that I don't get to see them often.