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post #1 of 14
Thread Starter 
Sorry it has been so long since updating, but I finally took the advice that was given and gave my roommate 30 days to place the cats or move out. So she is trying to place. We had 2 placed, going to a breeder in the US, she was going to take her breeders to continue the lines. But the female we were going to send is now pregnant and we can’t get her shots, so we can’t send her now. I’m just like AHHHHH not again! who knows what other females too. So we have ONE male going, and what 5 more kittens? This is not good, its like for every one we place, we get 5 more.

I asked if she would put an add in the paper to see if anyone would like to adopt her, but she doesn’t want to do that. I think she ONLY wants to give them to a breeder or something. But not a normal family. Like they won’t be able to take care of kittens or something. Did I tell you that I managed to find homes for 3 of her cats and she hasn’t found any? Well only these 2 but now it isn’t working out, So yeah I’m a little frustrated.

On top of that, I ended up in the hospital because of a bad asthma attack, which I can’t help but to think it has to do with the fact that I have way to many cats in my house.

I’m thinking I’m going to place an add here. If anyone is interested they can check it out.
post #2 of 14
Is the 30 days also include getting rid of all the cats in that time? Whether or not the cat is now pregnant will be no excuse for that cat leaving in 30 days. Stick to your guns girl - make her get rid of all her cats in 30 days or she will have to leave and take them all!
post #3 of 14
Playing the devil's advocate here.
Getting rid of the cats won't remove the dander that is causing your allergic reaction. Cat dander is the most difficult allergan to remove from any place. You may decrease it, but it won't be gone.
post #4 of 14
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Originally Posted by Miyu View Post
Did I tell you that I managed to find homes for 3 of her cats and she hasn’t found any? Well only these 2 but now it isn’t working out, So yeah I’m a little frustrated.

that's probably because you're trying to find them homes and she's not. Sounds like she's putting up a lot of roadblocks...she may be a "collector" in breeder's clothes.

Good luck, I hope you're feeling better.
post #5 of 14
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she may be a "collector" in breeder's clothes.
I don't know what that means, but I can guess and it sounds amusing.
post #6 of 14
Thread Starter 
Yeah I have heard people call her that before lol whenever we find her cats a new home she crys. Its really hard for her to let them go.

My asthma, Actually when my cats would come into my bedroom every night, it started getting so bad in there that I couldn’t breath or sleep. But once I changed the bedding, and didn’t let them in there anymore it made a world of difference. If cleaning out the dander wasn’t affective then I would have to consider ripping out carpets and getting rid of my kitties, but not before she gets rid of hers. At the hospital the doc asked me if I had cats, and I said “yes†and she said “well that’s dumb†but I didn’t say, what’s even more dumb is I don’t just have a few, I have 15!
post #7 of 14
Miya, I seriously hope that you have her and/or the cats out of the house in 30 days - one way or another For your sanity and health!
post #8 of 14
OK, I realize that my response to this isn't going to be popular, but this is how I see it ...

The pregnant queen needs to be spayed, now. Not tomorrow, not next week, but now, before she gets too far along in the term. That will take care of the problem of additional kittens to place. I know this is controversial and not something a lot of us like to contemplate, but in this situation, the option to allow the pregnancy to advance is not the way to go. Take care of it now, while the pregnancy is still early in term.

30 days is an acceptable period of time but honestly, it is going to take you a lot longer to place cats than that. You are doing to have to determine which is more important to you, the welfare of the cats or your friendship with this person. If she refuses to place the cats as pets in pet homes, then tell her the deal is off and she has to move out now. If she spay/neuters everyone and places them as pets, then she can stay the 30 days as agreed.

I know this may seem harsh to some ... and I know that more than a few will disagree with me about it. But the sad fact here is that there are way too many cats all running around, evidently unsupervised, and breeding indiscriminately. This will cause a much, much bigger problem than what you are currently faced with if you don't do something to prevent it. I cannot stress strongly enough the importance of finding your backbone, standing up and telling this person in no uncertain terms ... spay/neuter everyone now or get out now. It really is that simple.
post #9 of 14
Gayef's response may be unpopular with some, but it has my vote as the right thing to do and the proper way to go about it.

It's really time that you take control of your own home and get your own life back.

Your friend/roomate/freeloader is a back yard breeder at best, hoarder at worst. There is no legitimate place for people like this in the breeding area of the cat fancy.
If you can't completely shut her down by the eviction threat, at least you'll rid yourself of her irresponsible behavior when you follow through with kicking her out.
Hopefully the cats can all be re-homed successfully, regardless of the ultimate outcome.
post #10 of 14
I agree with Gaye and Nial on this issue. Spay the queen now! Infact, be completely subjective and judge all the cats. If none of them are show quality or even breeder quality, neuter all of them and try to rehome them in pet homes.

If you have trouble judging the cats, post pics and I'm sure we'll help you!
post #11 of 14
Thread Starter 
Finding my back bone. I keep looking for it, I used to be really good about this, the second I saw a cat un happy and in crisis, I would make the phone calls that needed to be made. but when it is your friend, its like so much harder.

As for mamma cat, she is far along. As the vet said she is about to pop. And a breeder is taking her so we don’t want to spay her. If I could abort the kitties, with out spaying her, that would be good idea. But that just might cost way to much, and I don’t think she will want that. Like I said they are not my cats and I cannot make the decisions, which drives me nutz because like you, it is not a hard decision to make. So i’m going to write her a note and tell her how I feel. I really hope she gets it.. otherwise she is going to be looking for a place to live.
post #12 of 14
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Originally Posted by Miyu View Post
Finding my back bone. I keep looking for it, I used to be really good about this, the second I saw a cat un happy and in crisis, I would make the phone calls that needed to be made. but when it is your friend, its like so much harder.

As for mamma cat, she is far along. As the vet said she is about to pop. And a breeder is taking her so we don’t want to spay her. If I could abort the kitties, with out spaying her, that would be good idea. But that just might cost way to much, and I don’t think she will want that. Like I said they are not my cats and I cannot make the decisions, which drives me nutz because like you, it is not a hard decision to make. So i’m going to write her a note and tell her how I feel. I really hope she gets it.. otherwise she is going to be looking for a place to live.
Good for you. I've been reading along with your threads and I think it is very apparent that your "friend" is not a friend at all. She does sound like she has some kind of mental health issue (hording the cats, not making smart choices in having so many cats/kittens, etc). I have a few friends and family members who do have diagnosed mental health issues and unfortunately unless they are being treated (psychologically or through medication) they very easily manipulate those around them. I hope things work out for the best, but I have a feeling if you do not evict her this is going to be a never ending cycle. Good luck and stay strong! Just think, if she was a "renter" there's no way you would let her get away with that!! My boyfriend knows that as much as I love him, when it comes to rent/bills/lease agreement stuff our relationship switches to a "business relationship" while he's writing those checks. Its hard to do, but if someone can take advantage of you once, she's going to know she can do it again. that this gets cleared up sucessfully.
post #13 of 14
Stick to your original plan! If the cats aren't gone after 30 days you're roommate has to leave, with the cats. Your health is obviously affected negative by this and getting rid of your roommate (stress) and her cats (allergens) may be what it takes to get your health back.

She's using you, don't let her do that.
post #14 of 14
I don't understand the resistance to the idea of neutering all of these cats. Are these the Turkish Angoras you referenced in a post about a friend needing to place cats since she had to stop breeding? Those cats were unpapered, and this female just "turned up" pregnant?

What kind of decent breeder would even want to introduce these cats into their breeding program? Do most legitimate breeders seek new stock from hoarders crashing in someone's basement and letting their cats breed indiscriminately?

As hateful as it might sound, I'd be tempted to call Animal Control or some other shelter on the 30th day and let them remove the cats from your property, since your roomie is either refusing to take responsibility for her role in all of this or she's just straight up mentally unbalanced. Why in the world, when she knew the dire straights she and her cats were in, did another one get pregnant? They're purebred, so they should be adopted quickly.

Oh, and just to add to the unpopular opinion, that female should have been spayed immediately upon discovering she was pregnant. They all should have been neutered long ago (before they got into this madwoman's hands). From your previous descriptions of this woman, she is not a responsible breeder who has just fallen on hard times. She is a hoarder and has allowed this situation to get out of control on previous occasions.
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