A Friend of my Daughter's Died

It's been a rough couple of weeks here. A 17 y/o friend of my daughter's died the first week of August. The word thru the 'teenager's grapevine' was that she'd died of an o.d. Two days ago, a 19 y/o guy was arrested for "drug-induced homicide". Apparently he'd gotten his hands on a form of morphine, had passed it on to a 15 y/o, who then passed it on to my daughter's friend. The poor girl called her Dad at work and asked him to come home and take her to the ER because she was sick. He got there within an hour, and it was too late.

We'd known this young lady since kindergarten; she and my daughter had sleep-overs, were in Girl Scouts together, I was even her volleyball coach.
I feel so very bad for her parents and I feel so very guilty for thinking 'thank heaven it wasn't MY daughter.'

According to that grapevine, everyone knew this girl was at least a recreational drug-user. So why the h*ll didn't any of her so-called friends try to get her help? I've been told (by my daughter) that some kids laugh at how stupid the deceased girl was---not stupid for taking drugs in the first place, being stupid enough to die!

I know there's nothing anyone can do, I just needed to talk about this.

I am so sorry to read this. Teenagers can be so cruel about such things, and it must be so difficult to hear. I know I am not alone in sending out prayers to her friends and especially her poor parents. I cannot imagine how devastated they must be.

And the father... for heaven's sake, if he was an hour away, he should have had an ambulance go for her!

And the father... for heaven's sake, if he was an hour away, he should have had an ambulance go for her!

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Exactly. I can't imagine why he didn't tell her to call 911, or her Mom, or her grandparents (who live across the street, for pete's sake!). I think there's an awful lot of denial going on in her family at the moment. Her obituary stated that she was a role model for her younger sisters. Her grandfather told my Mom that the girl had taken something for a headache and it made her sick.

Her father is absolutely devestated. At the funeral service, he sat by himself, crying the entire time. It's just a heart-breaking situation. She was such a nice, quiet girl--never gave anyone any trouble. I'm at a loss as to figure out how this could have happened.

I'm so sorry that you and your daughter have had to go through this along with the poor father of the friend. Kids, especially teenagers, can be pretty cruel and heartless. They are often a lot of talk and no action when it comes to gossip. I can't begin to understand the devastation and grief that must be felt for this friend.

I'm sure the father will never stop second-guessing himself... it's just heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for the whole family.

How sad. I feel sorry for the father, my prayers are with him.

OMG! It seems so much tragedy is hitting us nowadays. Bless her heart and prayers to the family. People can be so cruel to others, but what comes around goes around.

OMG thats horrible. So sorry.

That is so sad! I am so sorry.

Thats so sad. My heart goes out to her family.....

I'm so sorry. Give your daughter a hug for me. My heart goes out to that poor girl's family, and to your family. Teenagers think they are immortal. It's so sad that they are thinking she was stupid for dying and not for taking drugs in the first place, but I'm not surprised. They just think it can't happen to them.

Oh goodness that is so so so sad! What a tragedy.