The only thing you can do is avoid her calls or tell her to stop calling you when she's like that. When I was in my early 20s, I went out very frequently....3 sometimes 4 nights a week. I'm not proud of the way I was, but I was having a good time when it was going on. I was a drinker. I got to the point where every night when I got home from work, I'd fix myself a drink or two...sometimes more. When I moved out of that area at the age of 25, I finally woke up. I still went out on occasion, but it was more like once a month. I'm 31 now and haven't had a drink in 2yrs. One day, I just decided that I didn't want it anymore. There are times that I still want a drink, but I have a lot of self-control. I have a daughter who needs me, and I flat out refuse to drink around her, so I don't drink at all. A lot of people don't realize what they're doing until they either have something to happen that wakes them up or they get away from the crowd they're hanging around with. For me, I moved about 2hrs away. My husband, on the other hand, was into the drug scene for years. He said that one day, he looked in the mirror and didn't like what he was seeing, so he knew that he had to get out of there. He, literally, moved across the country (from CA to VA) to escape that life. That was 7yrs ago. More than likely, she will eventually see what she's doing. All you can do is be yourself, and do what I mentioned at the beginning. If you stand up to her, you're probably going to be called a baby or be told to grow up, etc, etc, etc., but stand your ground. Don't let her influence you. You have a lot of support here.