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Kipper is being putdown tomorrow morning

post #1 of 68
Thread Starter 
I have had her for 19 years.
A trip to the vets earlier this afternoon gave me the shock of my life. They said Kipper's kidneys have failed completely and it was starting to effect her brain. They said the kindest thing to do at this stage was to put her to sleep.
I don't know how I'm going to say goodbye. It's so so hard
any advice?
would be really appreciated.
post #2 of 68
I'm so sorry! What a sweet looking cat she is. Spoil her rotten! Pet her and tell her how much you love her and you'll miss her and that she'll always be with you in your heart. I'd personally probably stay up all night with her just to spend as much time with her as possible. Also, if you can, stay with her while they PTS her... it will be hard but she'll probably feel better having you there.
post #3 of 68
It is always hard to say goodbye. Try to remember that she is very old and tired now but she's had a good long life, and that you and she have both been lucky to have had each other to love for so long. Letting her go peacefully and without pain is an act of love.

I really feel for you, it's never an easy thing to do.
post #4 of 68
I'm so sorry! Just love on her as much as you can...it will make both of you feel better.
post #5 of 68
Thread Starter 
thankyou so much for your replies
it means the world to me
kipper is sat here beside me now curled up in a ball.
I cant help but feel in complete denial, that the vets have got it wrong.
I thought she would live forever
post #6 of 68
Oh I'm so sorry to hear this! Loosing my RB girls was the hardest thing I've ever gone through. One died unexpectedly and one I didn't go to the vet with her when she was PTS. So I'll just tell you what I did with Tiger, my last RB girl.

Tiger also had kidney failure and thyroid problems. We had medicated her and for a few months she was better. But then, and they warned us it would be like that, she went downhill very rapidly. It was obvious she was suffering and it just tore me up. I'd just gotten married earlier that month, so my new husband, my parent's and I took her to the vet.

Mom had wrapped Tiger in a towel because she was shivering. I knew I couldn't handle it emotionally to be there for her final moment. So before they came in, I put my body closely over top of hers and I whispered in her ear and stroked her head. I told her how much I loved her. How she was the best kitty and that we wanted her to be happy and feel good again. I told her she was going to see Glory and Tinsel and to please tell them I loved them and missed them too. I told her I'd miss her. During that talk with her, Tiger started purring. I know now that purring can be a sign of pain, but it gave me such peace at the time. I still feel Tiger was trying to say thank you to us. Thanking us for loving her and thanking us for letting her go.

After DH and I left we went back to my parent's and I bawled till they came back with Tiger. Tiger was buried next to Glory in the backyard with our dogs watching so they could understand (they don't go to that part of the yard so them digging in that area wasn't a concern). At the time my hair was very long. So I had cut a lock from the back where it wouldn't show, tied a ribbon around it, and it was buried with her. That way I felt a part of me would always be with her too.

Saying goodbye is never easy. But please, let yourself grieve and let yourself heal too. I still miss my RB girls and think of them so often, but now I have room in my home and heart for the kitties we have now. I'm so sorry this time has come for you and Kipper. You will be in my thoughts and prayers tonight and tomorrow too. PM me anytime if you want to talk. I'm here to listen.
post #7 of 68
Originally Posted by kipper3972 View Post
I cant help but feel in complete denial, that the vets have got it wrong.
I thought she would live forever
well, there is always that possibility... how has she been acting? normal? or have you noticed things that you were trying not to notice?
it's a really hard decision, i know... we're all here for you!
post #8 of 68
I'm so sorry. This is extremely hard to go through. I don't have anything to offer other than what the others have mentioned. I just wanted to let you know that my heart goes out to you through this.
post #9 of 68
I'm terribly sorry. I can't imagine how hard it must be. We are here for you if you need to talk.
post #10 of 68
I'm so sorry to hear it is Kipper's time. I was there when we finally said good-bye to my Petunia. I never thought I could do it but when the time came, but I found I wouldn't want to be anywhere else except to be with her until the end. I'm always glad I was there.

post #11 of 68
I am so very sorry you are even facing this decision. Many hugs and prayers are coming your way, for both you and your precious baby girl.
post #12 of 68
I'm so sorry your having to go through this

Always know that were here for you when Kippers time comes, then bring your little girl into the bridge forum and we'll be there with you to send her safely across
post #13 of 68

I had a beautiful kitty named Toby who had end stage kidney failure. When I took her to the vet to have her `put to sleep` it was so hard. I stayed with her the whole time and hugged and kissed her and talked to her and told her that I loved her and would miss her very much.

I was very sad and cried my eyes out for a few days because I missed her so much. But I took comfort in the fact that I let her go before she was in a great deal of pain and suffering.

Something amazing happened a week or so later. Something I never planned. I went strawberry picking with a friend because she wanted to get me out of the house. While we were waiting for the tractor to take us to the fields there was a cute little torti kitten that was loving me up. She was there when we got back too and she kept following me around and rubbing against my legs even though there were lots of other people around.

I ended up taking her home with me. I didn`t think it was possible, but I found a spot in my heart for a new kitty and I believe that Toby sent her to me so I wouldn`t be lonely. That new kitty helped my heart to heal.
post #14 of 68
I have nothing to add by way of advice, but I do send lots of This is the toughest part of sharing one's life with furpeople, but if Kipper's time has come, it's also the most loving thing you can do for her. I will be thinking of you both.
post #15 of 68
Thread Starter 
I've been hugging her all night. Sat infront of the tellie with her wrapped in my arms. I want to be there in her last moments.
I can't believe it's all coming to an end
all your stories touched my heart and thankyou for all the support.
post #16 of 68
Thread Starter 
also I have taken some pictures of me and kipper to put on the wall.
Just so I can look at it and think of great times we have shared.
post #17 of 68
I'm so sorry to hear about Kipper. We had to put our first Smudge-kitty to sleep because he had FIP. We only had a few days from when we first realized how sick he was until we had to make the decision. He was only 5 months old. I was so glad I was there, though, and it was very peaceful. I held him and told him all the RB kitties he should look for, and all their names, and that we would see each other again someday.

Then, just a few months later, he "sent" me the Smudge I have now - who was even born on the same birthday. So I'd recognize him.
post #18 of 68
I'm so sorry about Kipper. It's a hard thing to have to say goodbye to a furbaby, I know. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but all I can say is, just remember her in your heart.
post #19 of 68
Oh.......I really so sorry........
I´m spechless... and I feel so sad for this unfortunately new for you........
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My prayers for him and my deep wishes to you feel well my friend...
post #20 of 68
My deepest condolences and empathy go out to you at this sad time. I have been where you are now more times than I want to think about; it is always the hardest thing in the world to have to accept, but when you think of HER before yourself, which is what you are doing, and do what is best for your beloved little girl, it will ease the pain somewhat.

The other posters have said all the things I would say, very well, and of course all of our hearts go out to you and Kipper (who will be free of pain! and waiting for you over the Rainbow Bridge...).

Personally, I always do three things at these times: I make a memory book of photos and words, so that I will always have that to remember my loved one by, and I can share it with others who loved them or who are interested. I plant a plant above the resting place, for a living memorial. Roses are favorites, but I've also planted jasmines, as well as trees. And finally, I adopt another deserving cat. Not to "replace" a unique and beloved cat, as that would never be possible anyway; but as all of my cats are rescues, and my life is dedicated to cat rescue, humane education, and all related, I am a firm believer in giving another needy cat a chance, saving another precious life! and giving love to another -- I know that my cats would want it that way, too.

You and Kipper are in all of our prayers, I know. If you can be there with her during her transition, it will make her passage much calmer and easier. And you will look back knowing that you did the best for her.
post #21 of 68
I'm so sorry about Kipper. I know exactly how you feel. Duchess was diagnosed with kidney failure in the early stages and we always knew it was coming, but never were prepared. She was doing fine for months, then just went downhill within two days. Once the kidneys shut down, there is not much you can do. It is very hard, and I can't imagine what you are having to go through with processing this information in a day!

Spend all the time you can with her! Tell her that she is not alone, that you love her, that she is special. That you will never forget her and would never want her to suffer in anyway.

I hope that she will have a safe trip across. It's something that you can never be ready for and feels like a whole world of hurt. If you need someone to talk to you can always send me a PM.

P.S. I think the pictures are a wonderful idea. I took a bunch of duchess so I could blow up a few good ones for my mom so she could remember her special cat.
post #22 of 68
I'm so sorry to hear about Kipper. My mom had a kitty that had FIV and renal failure. She eventually had to put him to sleep. I was young at the time so I don't remember much, but I remember being so sad and missing him so much.
I think taking pictures of her and spending every moment with her you can is the best thing you can do. Sending you and your beloved Kipper plenty of and during this difficult time. I'll be sure to keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry.
post #23 of 68
Will be thinking of you both....
post #24 of 68
You and Kipper are in my thoughts and prayers.
post #25 of 68
I'm so sorry Kipper's time has come... but it's good that you will stay with her. I know that will ease her mind, and ultimately, yours as well. Many loving thoughts for you both...
post #26 of 68
I can't read this thread, because it will make me cry. I don't have any advice. I am SO sorry that you have to do this. Ok, I'm crying now. I don't even want to imagine how you feel...
post #27 of 68
I'm so sorry Just reading this thread is bringing tears to my eyes. Just remember she had a long, great life and spent a wonderful 19 living years with you - and will spend an eternity in your heart. It's always hard to have a pet put down, just to THINK about the day we had to put one of our cats to sleep still causes my eyes to water. Tell her how much you love her, and be with her when she's PTS so you are the last thing she sees.
post #28 of 68
Oh sweetie. I am so sorry to hear that Kippers time has come. Its just not fair.

MANY to you!!
post #29 of 68
My Kiki was that age when her kidneys failed. My husband couldn't handle being in the room when the vet gave her the shot. I stayed with her petting her until she crossed the bridge. It was very hard to let her go, but she is now a kitten again playing happily over the rainbow bridge.

One thing about Kiki, is she was a feral kitten that I found and tamed. You never would know that she was once wild. She loved almost everyone.

My screen name is in her honor

post #30 of 68
Originally Posted by kipper3972 View Post
I have had her for 19 years.
A trip to the vets earlier this afternoon gave me the shock of my life. They said Kipper's kidneys have failed completely and it was starting to effect her brain. They said the kindest thing to do at this stage was to put her to sleep.
I don't know how I'm going to say goodbye. It's so so hard
any advice?
would be really appreciated.
Marvin and I had a cat named Doc. He was our !st cat as a couple.We had Doc for about a year or 2, when one afternoon I came in from work, i found
Doc hanging off the window seal in the living room in convulsions.I grabbed him and drove to the vet. he checked him out, he said what was wrong ,but I can't remember now, he sent us home with meds.Well I thought he was
going to be fine, so I put him on the bed in the guest room, bless his heart, i don't think he ever got up again! Finally by the end of the week, I was in there with him and his 3rd eyelid kept coming down over his eyes. Marvin came home and saw me totally beside myself. He said, "Monique, that cat
is living for you" And with that said, I really thought about how selfish I
had been and how he was right! The more I thought the more the morning
couldn't get there fast enough. I didn't go with Marvin to the vet, I thought I couldn't handle it. I went to work...when I pulled up a few hrs. later, Marvin had put him in a boot box wrapped tight w/duct tape. he said nothing would
be able to get in it. He had buried it him already and was almost through
with wooden cross w/ DOC ingraved on it. Marvin looked up at me and said,"
I have buried my own father, but this was the hardiest thing I've ever done" I cried for days but I knew in my heart that Doc was so much beter off!
I am so sorry, you have to go through this...My sister went in with her dogs, at different times, she said they laid their head down on her lap, and she pet them and talked to them until, she said she would always go in and comfort them.You are in my prayers!
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