The Relationship Thread----EEK!

[yam102284]

Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45

And what's the "physical proof" that you need to have?

An engagement ring? I have a beautiful solitaire diamond ring in the safe (it was my grandfathers diamond and my grandmother had it set in a ring and gave it to me for graduation), I just want him to propose to me. We've talked about it a lot, but I want him to do it "right" - he's told me before, "Okay, then put the ring on your finger then." He's not getting out of it that easy.

 

[ocicatdude]

Are you in a relationship now?
Yes my first serious relationship after discovering who i really am

What's the longest relationship you've ever had?
This one, been with him 4 months nearly 5 now

Have you ever broke up with someone...coming out of a long term relationship? Can you tell me how this went please.
No, it scares me that he will leave me though

Are you married?
Noooo dont think that will ever happen for me

Kids? -
No, that's impossible

 

[my cat mellow]

Are you in a relationship now?
I am married

What's the longest relationship you've ever had?
5 years

Have you ever broke up with someone...coming out of a long term relationship?
The five year relationship turned into nothing, long break up process, but once we stopped seeing each other, and I realised all the fun to be had, I was fine!

Are you married?
Here is a secret.... We got married in November but only our best man and maid of honnor knew, we kept it a secret from everyone else, then had our big wedding in June, we got married outside a water fountain by the justice of the peace and exchanged necklaces instead of rings as we wanted the big family wedding to be special! our big Wedding was in the oldest remaining church nbuilt by the English in the US..verry fitting as I am from England.

We got married in November (we got engaged in June) because hubby was worried he would be deployed, and he wanted me to 'be taken care of if anything happened' (his words) I tried to tell him if we have to Weddings we have to aniversaries

but he said no.

Kids?
Yes oneday hoping for 2, but it depends how painful it is

we want to start when I am 30 (25 now)

Other info:
We met April 19th 05, moved in together June 31st 05 in England, hewas sent back to the US, to VA and I came out for 3 months at a time twice during 2006 on a holiday visa, and returned to work in the UK when I was back there. now we are married and he is being deployed locally, we have decided to file for my greencard, so I can stay with him for longer than 3 monthes at a time

 

[beccory]

I'm engaged, my fiance and I have been together for 3 years and one month

We met at work and one day just fell madly in love.

We started dating and a week later he moved to Iowa because he'd promised a friend that he'd move with him... so we were long distance for a year and 10 months. a year and a month ago we got our apartment together and a year ago got our first kitty together

and we're very happy. We've been through a lot of ups and downs (lots of downs!) but we've stuck through it all together and we're getting married next May

. I'm so happy!

Before meeting Cory, I was dating a guy for nearly three years.... in high school. he was VERY abusive, physically, sexually, mentally, and emotionally. He deliberately made me gain 50 pounds (overfeeding, not letting me exercise) so that "other guys wouldn't want me" (yes, he told me that directly). He also wouldn't let me see any of my old friends, and wouldn't let me go anywhere except his place unless he was with me. AND HE HATED CATS.

In any case, I dumped him shortly after we graduated. He was awful- he stalked me for two weeks and kept showing up outside my apartment... and he was harassing his old friends because they were all showing interest in dating me (so I guess the whole "making me fat" thing FAILED

) And he started calling me and telling me he was cutting and things, which he wasn't, to make me feel guilty and take him back. Needless to say I didn't.

So now I'm in a wonderful relationship with a guy who treats me better than anyone really deserves and even when our car breaks down... I'm still happy, because I have Cory.

(sorry for the rant... I tend to talk a lot about this kind of thing... but you did ask!

)

ETA: missed the kid question. nope, we're cat people, NOT kid people. Besides, I have bipolar and it's genetic, so IF we ever do change our minds we'll be adopting.

 

[crouchingcheese]

Are you in a relationship now? Lol, seems like lots of us are engaged huh? I'm engaged

What's the longest relationship you've ever had? All of my relationships (except one) have been for about two years, Dave (my fiance) and I have actually only been together for a year and a half though.

Have you ever broke up with someone...coming out of a long term relationship? Can you tell me how this went please. Yeah, I've broken up with all of my boyfriends before Dave. Every time I bawled my eyes out, but I knew it was the best thing for me, I just couldn't see us together ten years down the road, ya know? I've never been dumped, so I can't give that angle, but it's also hard being the one to drop the bomb so to speak...

Are you married? Our wedding will be June 21, next year.

Kids? Five cats, two dogs and a hamster

We're planning on having kids in about four years, when we're both 25 or so. We want to wait until we have savings, stable jobs, a nice house, etc.

Single? Divorced? Widowed? Engaged.

We live together now, in a mobile home. We're saving up for the wedding at the moment, and then after that on the agenda is to buy a house on acreage. I can't wait, I want to foster dogs, but we need more room than this!

Dave's a great guy! The first, oh, year or so was rather tough. He'd never lived on his own, his mom was upset at him leaving, we had money/job problems, etc. etc. etc. However, things are great now!

 

[asecretk]

Are you in a relationship now? Yes, Greg and I will be together two years September 4th.

What's the longest relationship you've ever had? Five years


Have you ever broke up with someone...coming out of a long term relationship? Can you tell me how this went please. Yes I have had three long term relationsips.

At first it hurts and lot and you get lonely. The best thing to do is keep busy. Pick up a new hobby and hang out with friends. After time you sort of forget about the bad times that made you break up to begin with so it is sometimes useful to write things down in a journal. That way when your heart softens and you think about getting back together with them you can remember why things did not work out in the first place. I know that sounds harsh and sounds like you are holding a grudge but in my case I kept going back because I thought it could work and if I had had a journal to remind me why we split in the first place I could have saved myself a lot of heartache.

Are you married? Nope and never will be again

Kids? - A boy and a girl from my first marriage

Single? Divorced? Widowed? married and divorced twice. Never Again!!!

 

[jen]

Originally Posted by mybabyphx

Are you in a relationship now? Yes!

What's the longest relationship you've ever had? This one! October will be 7 years, we met freshman year in college.

Have you ever broke up with someone...coming out of a long term relationship? Can you tell me how this went please.

nope

Are you married? Kids? nope and nope! We acually managed to win free round trip plane tickets anywhere in the US so as soon as my boyfriend can get his job going and save up a bit, we are going to go to CA but we might stop in Vegas while we are there to get married in a drive thru Elvis chapel or something like that. I have too many cats to deal with kids now, plus my sister has a 10 month old and that satifies my need for a kid for now

Single? Divorced? Widowed? nope, nope, nope!

Um, I don't know if I have anything else to add. We have a very open relationship and can do pretty much anything. What I mean with out going into graphic details, is that there are no rules. We have seperate rooms which I recommend all couples doing

We do a lot together but we also like our alone time away from each other. We go off with our own friends sometimes. We are not crazy jealous types, I can meet up with other guys and he can other girls. We also have friends of both sexes and everything is cool!

 

[catgirl2548m]

Originally Posted by CrouchingCheese

Are you in a relationship now? Lol, seems like lots of us are engaged huh? I'm engaged

What's the longest relationship you've ever had? All of my relationships (except one) have been for about two years, Dave (my fiance) and I have actually only been together for a year and a half though.

Have you ever broke up with someone...coming out of a long term relationship? Can you tell me how this went please. Yeah, I've broken up with all of my boyfriends before Dave. Every time I bawled my eyes out, but I knew it was the best thing for me, I just couldn't see us together ten years down the road, ya know? I've never been dumped, so I can't give that angle, but it's also hard being the one to drop the bomb so to speak...

Are you married? Our wedding will be June 21, next year.

Kids? Five cats, two dogs and a hamster

We're planning on having kids in about four years, when we're both 25 or so. We want to wait until we have savings, stable jobs, a nice house, etc.

Single? Divorced? Widowed? Engaged.

We live together now, in a mobile home. We're saving up for the wedding at the moment, and then after that on the agenda is to buy a house on acreage. I can't wait, I want to foster dogs, but we need more room than this!

Dave's a great guy! The first, oh, year or so was rather tough. He'd never lived on his own, his mom was upset at him leaving, we had money/job problems, etc. etc. etc. However, things are great now!

wow, so ur 21 (?) and u have been in several 2-year relatinships? how old were you when u had ur first bf?

Originally Posted by Jen

Um, I don't know if I have anything else to add. We have a very open relationship and can do pretty much anything. What I mean with out going into graphic details, is that there are no rules. We have seperate rooms which I recommend all couples doing

We do a lot together but we also like our alone time away from each other. We go off with our own friends sometimes. We are not crazy jealous types, I can meet up with other guys and he can other girls. We also have friends of both sexes and everything is cool!

cool! i need that kind of relatinship. i would of had less breakups that way.

 

[beccory]

Originally Posted by Jen

Um, I don't know if I have anything else to add. We have a very open relationship and can do pretty much anything. What I mean with out going into graphic details, is that there are no rules. We have seperate rooms which I recommend all couples doing

We do a lot together but we also like our alone time away from each other. We go off with our own friends sometimes. We are not crazy jealous types, I can meet up with other guys and he can other girls. We also have friends of both sexes and everything is cool!

I dunno. Cory and I aren't jealous at all and spend a fair amount of time away from each other but I would NOT want to have a separate room from him... I like sleeping cuddled up together WAY too much for that

I'm not needy but I do like my cuddle time!

 

[jen]

Originally Posted by Beccory

I dunno. Cory and I aren't jealous at all and spend a fair amount of time away from each other but I would NOT want to have a separate room from him... I like sleeping cuddled up together WAY too much for that

I'm not needy but I do like my cuddle time!

Well we have one bed in one of the rooms, but we have seperate spaces/rooms for ourselves. My clothes are in mine and his are in his along with our computers and other things. But we only have one bed which we sleep in together every night.

 

[goldenkitty45]

Jen, that's good to a point, however, will the "rules" change once married as far as hanging out with opposite sex AFTER you are married????

 

[jen]

Absolutely not. I don't even care about marrage really. I don't see why we need a certificate to know that we love each other. But in the case that we do get married, why would we not be allowed to have friends of the opposite sex? That makes no sense to me. We still have friends friends of the opposite sex whether married or not. Like I said, we are open and honest and tell each other everything that happens. If something were to go on while hanging out with that person of the opposite sex, we tell each other. Know what I mean? Maybe not, I think a lot of people would think we are crazy for doing things this way but you know what? We have never had a big serious fight. We have minor disagreements but that it. We never fought and broke up and got back together, etc in seven years.

 

[jarvis]

I have known my current boyfriend for about 4 years and we have been together just over 1 year. We are both 20 and have our occasional troubles, but thats all part of going through some of the most stressful parts of our lives together. We have un-official plans
(no ring yet) to marry after he graduates. I love him so much!!! <3

 

[kerry'n'ben]

Are you in a relationship now? yes, we have been together for 4 years and 2 months, we met when we were in school and got together when we were 16.
What's the longest relationship you've ever had? this one!


Have you ever broke up with someone...coming out of a long term relationship? Can you tell me how this went please. I have had lots of "boyfriends" but only one real relationship before ben. i have been the one to break it off except for my fella just before ben. He broke it off but i wasn't really bothered because i didn't feel the same as he did.

However, i have had some really bad break ups! One of my ex's was very scary and when i called it off he stalked me for months and even waited for me when i came home from school. This meant i had to change my whole lifestyle so since then i've been really careful who i go out with!

Are you married? No but we talk about it often and hopefully will do some day after we have both sported out our careers and living arrangements.

 

[oscarsmommy]

Are you in a relationship now? Yes I am

What's the longest relationship you've ever had? This one-4 and a half years already!!

Have you ever broke up with someone...coming out of a long term relationship? Can you tell me how this went please. I have and it was with Trav. We only broke up for 2 months because I couldn't live without him and still can't

Are you married? Kids? Not until June 2009 and no kids.....YET

Single? Divorced? Widowed? Engaged for almost 9 months

 

[dragoriana]

Originally Posted by Jen

Absolutely not. I don't even care about marrage really. I don't see why we need a certificate to know that we love each other. But in the case that we do get married, why would we not be allowed to have friends of the opposite sex? That makes no sense to me. We still have friends friends of the opposite sex whether married or not. Like I said, we are open and honest and tell each other everything that happens. If something were to go on while hanging out with that person of the opposite sex, we tell each other. Know what I mean? Maybe not, I think a lot of people would think we are crazy for doing things this way but you know what? We have never had a big serious fight. We have minor disagreements but that it. We never fought and broke up and got back together, etc in seven years.

How can you love someone and have sex with other people?

 

[mybabyphx]

Originally Posted by Dragoriana

How can you love someone and have sex with other people?

You can still love eachother and have sex with other people.

It's just something you have to be able to handle mentally... you definetly can't be the jealous type or it won't work. You have to be very strong... Everyone has different opinions!

 

[dragoriana]

Originally Posted by mybabyphx

You can still love eachother and have sex with other people.

It's just something you have to be able to handle mentally... you definetly can't be the jealous type or it won't work. You have to be very strong... Everyone has different opinions!

I guess it takes different types. I just couldn't imagine being with anyone else, to me, it would be cheating (obviousely not if both of you agree on it)

I suppose i was brought up differently *shrugs* i'm satisfied with the one partner

 

[mybabyphx]

Originally Posted by Dragoriana

I guess it takes different types. I just couldn't imagine being with anyone else, to me, it would be cheating (obviousely not if both of you agree on it)

I suppose i was brought up differently *shrugs* i'm satisfied with the one partner

As long as they are happy... I don't think it matters.

Everyone is different... But seeing that they have been together so long- it must be working!

 

[jen]

Originally Posted by mybabyphx

As long as they are happy... I don't think it matters.

Everyone is different... But seeing that they have been together so long- it must be working!

hehe something MUST be working!! WE are happy and unjealous and that is all that matters.