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post #31 of 42
Jen, that's good to a point, however, will the "rules" change once married as far as hanging out with opposite sex AFTER you are married????
post #32 of 42
Absolutely not. I don't even care about marrage really. I don't see why we need a certificate to know that we love each other. But in the case that we do get married, why would we not be allowed to have friends of the opposite sex? That makes no sense to me. We still have friends friends of the opposite sex whether married or not. Like I said, we are open and honest and tell each other everything that happens. If something were to go on while hanging out with that person of the opposite sex, we tell each other. Know what I mean? Maybe not, I think a lot of people would think we are crazy for doing things this way but you know what? We have never had a big serious fight. We have minor disagreements but that it. We never fought and broke up and got back together, etc in seven years.
post #33 of 42
I have known my current boyfriend for about 4 years and we have been together just over 1 year. We are both 20 and have our occasional troubles, but thats all part of going through some of the most stressful parts of our lives together. We have un-official plans
(no ring yet) to marry after he graduates. I love him so much!!! <3
post #34 of 42
Are you in a relationship now? yes, we have been together for 4 years and 2 months, we met when we were in school and got together when we were 16.
What's the longest relationship you've ever had? this one!


Have you ever broke up with someone...coming out of a long term relationship? Can you tell me how this went please.
I have had lots of "boyfriends" but only one real relationship before ben. i have been the one to break it off except for my fella just before ben. He broke it off but i wasn't really bothered because i didn't feel the same as he did.

However, i have had some really bad break ups! One of my ex's was very scary and when i called it off he stalked me for months and even waited for me when i came home from school. This meant i had to change my whole lifestyle so since then i've been really careful who i go out with!

Are you married? No but we talk about it often and hopefully will do some day after we have both sported out our careers and living arrangements.
post #35 of 42
Are you in a relationship now? Yes I am

What's the longest relationship you've ever had? This one-4 and a half years already!!

Have you ever broke up with someone...coming out of a long term relationship? Can you tell me how this went please. I have and it was with Trav. We only broke up for 2 months because I couldn't live without him and still can't

Are you married? Kids? Not until June 2009 and no kids.....YET

Single? Divorced? Widowed? Engaged for almost 9 months
post #36 of 42
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Absolutely not. I don't even care about marrage really. I don't see why we need a certificate to know that we love each other. But in the case that we do get married, why would we not be allowed to have friends of the opposite sex? That makes no sense to me. We still have friends friends of the opposite sex whether married or not. Like I said, we are open and honest and tell each other everything that happens. If something were to go on while hanging out with that person of the opposite sex, we tell each other. Know what I mean? Maybe not, I think a lot of people would think we are crazy for doing things this way but you know what? We have never had a big serious fight. We have minor disagreements but that it. We never fought and broke up and got back together, etc in seven years.
How can you love someone and have sex with other people?
post #37 of 42
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How can you love someone and have sex with other people?
You can still love eachother and have sex with other people. It's just something you have to be able to handle mentally... you definetly can't be the jealous type or it won't work. You have to be very strong... Everyone has different opinions!
post #38 of 42
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You can still love eachother and have sex with other people. It's just something you have to be able to handle mentally... you definetly can't be the jealous type or it won't work. You have to be very strong... Everyone has different opinions!

I guess it takes different types. I just couldn't imagine being with anyone else, to me, it would be cheating (obviousely not if both of you agree on it)

I suppose i was brought up differently *shrugs* i'm satisfied with the one partner
post #39 of 42
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I guess it takes different types. I just couldn't imagine being with anyone else, to me, it would be cheating (obviousely not if both of you agree on it)

I suppose i was brought up differently *shrugs* i'm satisfied with the one partner
As long as they are happy... I don't think it matters. Everyone is different... But seeing that they have been together so long- it must be working!
post #40 of 42
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As long as they are happy... I don't think it matters. Everyone is different... But seeing that they have been together so long- it must be working!
hehe something MUST be working!! WE are happy and unjealous and that is all that matters.
post #41 of 42
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Absolutely not. I don't even care about marrage really. I don't see why we need a certificate to know that we love each other. But in the case that we do get married, why would we not be allowed to have friends of the opposite sex? .
I met my husband also at 18 my freshman year in college, we waited 6 years to get married due to being busy. We dated constantly that whole time, grew up together, going through lots of college, several degrees, graduate school, we were very busy but very much in love and never broke up from the day we met.
We are each other's best friend, have been for many years now, but we do know the value of having other friends and we are secure in our relationship and there is no jealously, male or female friends, it doesn't matter.

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Absolutely not. I don't even care about marrage really. I don't see why we need a certificate to know that we love each other..
I feel the need to point out that marriage is WAY more than a certificate. I promise.

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i'm satisfied with the one partner
Same here
post #42 of 42
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hehe something MUST be working!! WE are happy and unjealous and that is all that matters.
I'm happy to hear that.... Do you guys plan on getting married- ever?
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