Alright. The "NO MORE SMOKING EVER" thing freaks a lot of people out and makes it harder for them to quit. This is how I coped with that:
When I set my date, that was it. I told myself then that I could eventually have a cigarette... but not right now. I can have one when I go camping next summer.... but not right now. I can have one in several months when I go out drinking with my friends, but not right now. I told myself things like that all of the time. It helped with the long term part. I never really wanted to smoke at those times.... ok, yeah, I planned on it. THat is the only way I was able to make it. I just told myself that someday I could have another cigarette, but not right now. After short time, I stopped thinking about that. I was able to focus on the "I've done it for this long, why start again?".
I have to admit I kept 4 emergency cigarettes. I quit on Monday. The next Sunday I smoked 1/2 of one. I sneaked it. Like a kid. Didn't want my DH to see that I smoked. I didn't tell anyone. I think maybe the following Sunday I finished that stale, half smoked cigarette. It wasn't very tasty at all. I still had the "idea" that I wanted one again....someday. I quit on October 31. I went camping with my DH and MIL the next July. They both smoke, so I took one of my MIL cigarettes and snuck up to the bathrooms and lit it. This was only 8 months after I quit and that was the nastiest taste I can imagine. I brushed my teeth several times, and could taste it for days.
The cravings stopped. I no longer want one at all. If the craving arises again, I will deal with it then. A couple of weeks ago, we drove 12 hours to go to a funeral. While we were standing outside with the smokers, I mentioned that I wanted one. No one heard me. It was OK though, because I didn't really want one, it was just the stress of the time.
Take it in days. MAYBE I can have one tomorrow, but not right now. MAYBE I can have one next week, but not right now. etc. That is seriously how I coped with the mental part, because that is a BIG part.
Also, I didn't so much do the gum thing. I used the patch when I quit. I took a drinking straw, and cut it in half. It was about the size of a cigarette. I held it between my fingers like it was a cigarette, took drags off of it, flicked imaginary ashes off of it. I had one in my car, and one in my purse. When I was in my car, I did exactly as I normally would, except I wouldn't have to "light" my cigarette. I did drive down the road and take drags off of it though.... flicked the ashes out the window. hehehe
When I was with my smoker friends, I wasn't ready to miss out on whatever was going on outside. I had my "cigarette" in my purse, and I would sit outside with them and socialize. I smoked my imaginary cigarette until we were ready to go back inside. Like I said, I was on the patch, so I wasn't having "withdrawal" cravings, I was having "mental" ones. I broke the "mental" habit of smoking in car, with friends, etc. in about a week. I kept myself on the patch for 3 weeks, and when I came off of it, I carried a couple with me at all times... just in case. If that urge was too much for me to handle, I was ready.
Some people choose to chew on things (straws, pencils, gum) but that wasn't the habit I was trying to break. I didn't want to start a new one either. I was a smoker. I was "smoking" my "straw" until that went away.
I hope this wasn't too long or boring, but this is how I did it.
I quit 1 year 9 months 4 weeks, 2 days 45 minutes ago right now.
You can do it too. It is a LOT mental. Good luck!!