I have been with a wonderful guy for 22 years. He is not much for stuff around the house, though he has gotten much better lately. For many years I did not work or go to school, so I felt it was my responsibility to keep the house, as we have a very traditional relationship in many ways. If I ask him to do something, he will do it, lately it has been right whenever I ask so he does not forget. It is not that he does not want to do what I ask him to, he gets busy and forgets. He has particularly done better since I would full time at one place, and part time, (my choice), at another. He cooks sometimes, does all the "manly" stuff like fixng things around the house, yard work, taking out the trash, grilling, but I still kill most of the spiders.
We had known each other for years, friends before being a couple, and both knew exactly what we were getting when we started out. We are not exactly neat freaks, but the house is not gross either. We have a good balance.