well, this has been on my mind a long time.
Relationships
and i wonder how everyone else feels about this subject,
as in, what does everyone here want & need from their
relationships? from your lovers, husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends?
i have been in a few pretty heavy relationships already,
and i have been in a lot of relationships, period.
it always seems that the men & women attracted to me are
willing to do anything, and everything for me, and this
really turns me away, as, it's always been this way, since
i can remember.
even my best-friend, who i was at one point intimate with,
is constantly cleaning the house, doing the dishes, doing
the laundry, asking me before making any decisions, tidying
up my room! caring for things in general, without any
expectations on me to do anything... but i have a part, if
i didnt, or thought i didnt, the relationship would not be
equal.
what i want is to feel attracted to someone, have a fire, but not too hot -
as that can be dangerous, i want to feel secure, know that
i can give my trust freely, i would need to feel safe, and cherished.
appreciated and adored. as ALL women should feel, of course!
but also have the ability to adore and cherish that person in return.
want them in return. need them in return.
i need someone who isnt exactly like me, who has diversity
in their way of thinking, and passion in their way of loving,
someone who has the ability to see the humour in life, and
the little things. someone who will stand loyal through
any & all things, and will put my needs up next to his.
i need someone who challenges me.
i know all relationships are complicated & fragile in a lot
of ways, but, what really makes a relationship work?
what do you think makes love/marriage/relations work?
and what do you want/need in your signifigant other, whether you
have one or not (i, presently, do not).
Relationships
and i wonder how everyone else feels about this subject,
as in, what does everyone here want & need from their
relationships? from your lovers, husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends?
i have been in a few pretty heavy relationships already,
and i have been in a lot of relationships, period.
it always seems that the men & women attracted to me are
willing to do anything, and everything for me, and this
really turns me away, as, it's always been this way, since
i can remember.
even my best-friend, who i was at one point intimate with,
is constantly cleaning the house, doing the dishes, doing
the laundry, asking me before making any decisions, tidying
up my room! caring for things in general, without any
expectations on me to do anything... but i have a part, if
i didnt, or thought i didnt, the relationship would not be
equal.
what i want is to feel attracted to someone, have a fire, but not too hot -
as that can be dangerous, i want to feel secure, know that
i can give my trust freely, i would need to feel safe, and cherished.
appreciated and adored. as ALL women should feel, of course!
but also have the ability to adore and cherish that person in return.
want them in return. need them in return.
i need someone who isnt exactly like me, who has diversity
in their way of thinking, and passion in their way of loving,
someone who has the ability to see the humour in life, and
the little things. someone who will stand loyal through
any & all things, and will put my needs up next to his.
i need someone who challenges me.
i know all relationships are complicated & fragile in a lot
of ways, but, what really makes a relationship work?
what do you think makes love/marriage/relations work?
and what do you want/need in your signifigant other, whether you
have one or not (i, presently, do not).