I completely agree.
As you know, I think it's wrong for your cats to be outdoors in the first place -- but regardless of that issue, what your husband did was inexcusable. Just get away from him once and for all.
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I hate my husband!
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As you know, I think it's wrong for your cats to be outdoors in the first place -- but regardless of that issue, what your husband did was inexcusable. Just get away from him once and for all.
Oh my... I'm so sorry
Was it a moment of losing his temper or something that had been going on for several weeks?
Was it a moment of losing his temper or something that had been going on for several weeks?
This is very true! Thanks for the reminder to everyone.Originally Posted by Dixie_Darlin
I want all of us to remember that she is reaching out to us for support at this time.
This in no way is her fault. Even if they have had problems in the past.
None of us are in her shoes right now nor do we know her reasons for staying.
Who knows? Maybe they were working things out and things were getting better and then this happened.
We are a family here at TCS and need to be there for one another no matter what life choices a member makes.
We can all say "Leave Him NOW!" but as some of us know, it's easier said then done. She has a lot of things running through her mind right now and I'm sure she's got a lot to think about.
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After everything else your husband has done, i think that's the icing on the cake. I know you came back from the brink of seperation, but for your own safety, your families and kitties, you might have to go back and review that decision.
OMG how could he do that
, I am so sorry , I have been married for 27 years,I adore my hubby, but If he shot my dog, the children and I would be gone
I'm so sorry!
You have a tough decision to make. A lot of abuse starts this way.... Hopefully you can find an out and come to terms with what happened.
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Sweetheart, I've said this all before. You don't deserve this, he doesn't deserve you, and please get out of the situation you are in now.
I truly am scared for you. A man who can do that to an animal... well. I will be thinking of you, and I know whatever you decide is what is best for you right now, but I wish you felt like you could leave him for good.
It's not your fault. Nothing he does is your fault.
I truly am scared for you. A man who can do that to an animal... well. I will be thinking of you, and I know whatever you decide is what is best for you right now, but I wish you felt like you could leave him for good.
I agree hereOriginally Posted by Crazyforinfo
You answered your own question there.
I am sorry but he has been troubled for a long time from what you have posted. Staying is only condoning his actions.
What will it take for you to understand what a grave situation this is? You willing to wait for him to shoot a person instead?
I just can't....
This is the first thread that I've read where I wanted to quote just about every single response on it. Everyone has brought up outstanding points and I'll try not to repeat anything.
Someone posted that they help out in a woman's shelter. Killing an animal is just another indication of the abusive nature of the man. Even if the police won't do anything about this, you MUST report this aggressive behavior to them and get it on a formal record. If anything happens to you or your family in the future, you want to have the fact that he is an abusive person on official record.
If you stay in the relationship as is, you have told him that you have accepted this behavior. He needs help and please don't enable his behavior by doing nothing about this. If he does this again, you will blame yourself.
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and that you find a way to work through all of this!
Someone posted that they help out in a woman's shelter. Killing an animal is just another indication of the abusive nature of the man. Even if the police won't do anything about this, you MUST report this aggressive behavior to them and get it on a formal record. If anything happens to you or your family in the future, you want to have the fact that he is an abusive person on official record.
If you stay in the relationship as is, you have told him that you have accepted this behavior. He needs help and please don't enable his behavior by doing nothing about this. If he does this again, you will blame yourself.
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I am so sorry. I can't imagine how you feel right now.
I can only say sorry... My mouth hit the floor reading this.. WoW
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To ramble about my abusive ex, he once told me he had done something similar. And yes, I realize it was stupid to get a cat with him...
Anyway, the first time he threw me into a wall, he really and truly felt bad about it. Not to get too graphic, but I had to forcibly prevent him from killing himself. Twice. I know he felt bad, is my point, and it didn't happen again for a year.
But it did happen again. Also, twice. Once you have crossed that line, you can't ever go back. Somewhere in there, something permanently changes in their brain and the line keeps getting pushed a little more and a little more.
Your husband has just upped the stakes, and the line is now in an extremely dangerous place.
Please know that nobody is angry at you, though, the anger is all for your husband and what he is doing to you.
Anyway, the first time he threw me into a wall, he really and truly felt bad about it. Not to get too graphic, but I had to forcibly prevent him from killing himself. Twice. I know he felt bad, is my point, and it didn't happen again for a year.
But it did happen again. Also, twice. Once you have crossed that line, you can't ever go back. Somewhere in there, something permanently changes in their brain and the line keeps getting pushed a little more and a little more.
Your husband has just upped the stakes, and the line is now in an extremely dangerous place.
Please know that nobody is angry at you, though, the anger is all for your husband and what he is doing to you.
I agree with all that has been said.
And I do believe different states have different laws for aimal cruelty. When Sheba was shot and my neighbor confessed to the sheriff's deputy the deputy (back at my house) was quite clear that it was up to me to go forward or not for prosecution. This is actually a big decision as I knew there would be focus from the media (there was).
This is a life changing decision to be made. Hopefully the right one is made for your safety and the safety of the children and remaining pets.
Be safe!!
And I do believe different states have different laws for aimal cruelty. When Sheba was shot and my neighbor confessed to the sheriff's deputy the deputy (back at my house) was quite clear that it was up to me to go forward or not for prosecution. This is actually a big decision as I knew there would be focus from the media (there was).
This is a life changing decision to be made. Hopefully the right one is made for your safety and the safety of the children and remaining pets.
Be safe!!
I am so, so sorry for you!! There has been alot of good outstanding points that have been mentioned, so I don't have to repeat that, All I can say is I am so sorry that he has put you through this type of situation!! Prayers and thoughts are with you, hon!! \t
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Husband Shmusband...I would be afraid for my own life and I would be out of there. LIFE OR DEATH is nothing to hum and haw about.
IMO anyone that can shoot a dog is dangerous.
Im sorry that this has happened to you. I hope that you can find the strength to do what is best for you and your animals (kids to if you have them) and to stay safe no matter what happens.
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